Alright, so I'm 17 (I'll be 18 in 2 months!) and I'm in love with a 22 year old (sexy British) guy. He's so sweet, basically my best friend with a penis. The thing is, there is a LOT of sexual tension between us and we've known each other for 10 months. I want to have sex with him (REALLY bad), but I'm afraid of things like, what if the condom breaks? where will I get birth control? stuff like that. If I tell my mom or dad that I'm....considering becoming sexually active, they'll fall over from a heart attack. I'm the youngest girl in the family, so my parents are very overprotective. I don't know what to do, go with my urges and just rely on the condom? OR wait until I'm ....out of college to deal with the possibility of pregnancy??
2006-12-17 15:16:51 · 18 answers · asked by gk_s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey.. im having that same problem.. im 17 too..
i think that loosing your virginity is your decision! its your body. just make sure its really worth loosing and make sure hes the "right one".. because if not.. you'll regret it.. trust me.
i wouldnt recommend telling ur parents because..wow. dats a scary thought. and im not saying you should block them out the decision.. personally, i think you should talk it over with him and see if hes responsible enough for wat ever happens.. and then... well take it from there!
2006-12-17 15:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by am i good enuff 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Whoa people are really getting agitate.. Well when I lost my virginity i was 17 and they guy was wonderful, he was a year older than me, but I caught him cheating the next day , lol so much for love... well the things is this then I found someone that really trully loved me and wanted to get marry with me and i felt like i didnt had nothing to offer him, But al least he was understanding, we have been togueter 8 years now, but i tell you, if you going to do it MAKE SURE U USE A CONDOM... make sure u are his only partner(might be hard) But enjoy life college is around the corner and im pretty sure u will find guys your age that are lovely and interesting. Dont give it up easy, there are other things u can do togueter to release the tension, like touchin, and rubbing, NOT oral sex because the stds still a big preoblem in the picture... It is you desicion and you dont want to ask your self what IF, what is i didnt do it, what if i waited, what if was good and i ddint do it, what if he dont get marry, what iff he dumbs me, U have to make sure this is what you want, and even if you are NOT marry, LOVE is love and if you both do it out of love i think is nothing wrong with it...
2006-12-17 15:33:05 · answer #2 · answered by u_better_remember_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the easiest question to answer ever. Consider this, which is more important to you: having sex with some guy and risking bringing a new child into this world who you won't be able to take care of, ORRRR waiting until you can support yourself financially and have a great guy in your life who is willing to father a child.
You're only 17, you still have your entire life ahead of you. I can't say I speak from experience considering that I'm younger than you are, but having sex for the first time should be exciting not a mistake. If you sleep with this guy, no matter how nice or cute he is, you run the risk of ruining your entire life. Wait until you have a career and job and a guy who is willing to wait and be a father. Then you can not only sleep with someone, but also not have to worry about all the risks you could be running.
2006-12-17 15:22:26 · answer #3 · answered by Love_Forever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE SMART ABOUT IT. You are a smart girl you just have to take the right actions and do something about it now. You already know, you don't want to get pregnant. You need to go to Planned Parenthood. Look up the closest one in your area and schedule an appointment. They are completely confidential and won't ever contact you at home if you don't want them to. They cover all the bases that deal with your situation, and even all the ones you mentioned. They will discuss all types of contraceptives available, and which would be best for you, and can answer all your questions. They have professionals, often a nurse practitioner or someone who is certified is there to help you and they are usually great about it. The one I went to was very helpful and didn't make you feel uncomfortable at all. You are young, but not too young to take responsibility for your actions. Just be smart about it, and cover all your bases first. Do something now! Don't wait until you get caught up in the moment, and there you are, completely unprepared. good luck!
2006-12-17 15:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you more concerned about losing your virginity or getting pregnant in the first place? It seems that you are more concerned with the latter when you shoud be worrying about the former. If you feel that losing your virginity is just like losing a mere belonging though, then go on with it. You should know that whatever you do, you have to be responsible for it. Condoms are said to be 99% foolproof but accidents do happen though so if you are worried about it, go for the pills as well to be safe.
2006-12-17 15:37:43 · answer #5 · answered by PhiloPhobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not a good idea to base your relationship on sex as the main thing. There is more to that and sex will only bring confusing feelings. Plus there is a lot of consequences to think about. If your not ready to handle the consequences yet....you should wait.
2006-12-17 15:25:19 · answer #6 · answered by miley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first you should probably talk to him about it and then ask your self if you really want to lose your virginity because i thought i want to lose mine and then i did and it was not the right time at all and if you are positive you are ready then make sure to wear a condom and if the condom does break then there is the morning after pill that you can take i lost mine two days after my 17th birthday but it still wasn't the right time but only you can be the judge of that
2006-12-17 15:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by dolphinluvr47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about save it for marriage when it can be right and special. Once you give in to this your relationship with this guy will never be the same. And I hope you have thought of this, STD's....... yes, that is right, if you get herpes you'll have it forever. Stay clean and pure you won't regret it and you won't have to worry about the condom, the pregnancy, AIDS or STDs. Freedom is not having to worry about all that stuff. Save yourself for your husband.
2006-12-17 15:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can wait until after college i recommend doing that. if you cant wait then i suggest talking to another adult that you trust. family member, school counselor, nurse at your local planned parenthood - anybody older that you trust that can give you the right guidance. sex is cool but it is also scary and comes with a lot of complications. being ready to handle those complications is one sign that you are ready.
2006-12-17 15:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by jrose1528 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not trust condoms. 99%, my @$$. At the teen pregnant center or whatever, 60% said they did it with a condom.
2006-12-17 15:23:27 · answer #10 · answered by N/a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO their is no need to rush things, if he really cares for you than he will wait until you are ready. Don't let him force you, you have all the time in the world.
2006-12-17 15:21:07 · answer #11 · answered by Hey Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋