I have been dating my boyfriend for a little bit over a year. We know just about everything about each other. I really love him, and we have an amazing connection. We are both pretty good communicators and talk on the phone when we can't see each other. Lately things have been getting a little harder. He tells me that he wants to be with me for the rest of my life, that he wants to marry me, that he wants to have kids, and various other related things. I feel like I'm contradicting myself, but I can't seem to make that promise. I'm only 17 and will be leaving for college next fall. While we don't tend to argue, these conversations do lead to some depressing moments. What should I do?
2006-12-17 15:15:30 · 5 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you have an amazing connection, you should be able to talk about these things. he is saying all of this. dont let it go to your head. talk to him and tell him what you think. it will build up your confidence. you shouldnt be getting married at 17...you dont have a good foundation, no offense. JUst stay with him and see where things go, if you get nerrvous when he tells you that he wants to marry you, ask him if he really wants to and talk to him about it. you guys will do fine. just talk about it. good luck!
2006-12-17 15:21:36 · answer #1 · answered by duece 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep talking to him, dating him.. Ask him for time to complete your school. Always ask for anything you feel you deserve. If he's a keeper he'll understand. Whether they're arguments or not, as long as you're both "on the same page" at the end of the discussion you'll be ok.. Even if its just to agree to disagree. Dont let it get to you and don't let him be too pushy. Good luck!
2006-12-17 23:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by cozmik_terra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you really love him tell him..but it seems that you're really stressed and he's just adding pressure to your life..so tell him..say "i love you too..but my life is really stressed right now and i dont need anymore pressure added."something like that..he might get mad and say like "what you dont feel the same way?!" or something and all you have to do is say " no no i do its just i have a lot of things on my mind right now and i cant think strait" just tell him how stressed you are and you need to focus on one thing at a time right now. also since your having depressing moments you should go see a counsolor
2006-12-17 23:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by Micelle Rye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you should go to college and maintain a long distance relationship as best you can until you got what you wanted out of college and want to go back home and see him again. If it was truly a match made in heaven and if he loves you with his whole heart, he'll wait for you.
2006-12-17 23:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by EK Music 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it.. if your connection really is that strong you will be able to work it out between you..
good luck =]
2006-12-17 23:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by kitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋