okay so here is my situation ... i have one daughter 18 months old, and we are trying to conceive again (we really want 3 children). anyways - i am a stay at home mother and i love every second of it. however my husband and i aren't seeing eye to eye about how long i should stay at home with the child(ren). He wants me to go back to work when the child(ren) are in school, but i want to be the homeroom mom, girl scout leader, and all around soccer mom. also- keep in mind that its not money thats an issue (although extra money is always nice)- just a matter of what would i do with my time while the child(ren) are in school. what would be a good comprimise?
2006-12-17 15:03:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you don't have to ...$.. Then by all means, stay home as long as you can, with your childred, for your children.
It has everything to do with your childrens future. Explain to your husband, that your #1 concern is your children.
when both parents work, (not just because we want to) the children are the ones who suffer most of all. Sure they have a roof over their heads, and food it their bellys, but they dont have a parent available to them, when they need them.
I wish I could stay home with my boys. I miss helping in the classroom, and always being #1 in their lives. They miss mom too. Their behavior at home and school has changed noticably, and not for the better.
Just give them as much of yourself as you can.
good luck
2006-12-17 19:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by Mikez Bad Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been a SAHM for almost seven years (I have three children) and I have had two part time jobs over the years . I must say that even with the kids in school, I am busier than ever! You will find lots of stuff to occupy your day as a SAHM, volunteering in the classroom, being a PTA board member, Girl Scouts, sports, car pooling, etc. If you are planning on having more than two children, do plan on staying home until the oldest is of driving age and your other two can be trusted at home with the oldest child. Honestly, your children will need you more as they get older and you will want to be home during those danger hours (3 to 7 p.m.) and your children will thank you!
2006-12-17 16:59:05 · answer #2 · answered by lynnguys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can stay home financially with out a problem I says go for it. I was a SAHM now I am a WAHM selling Mona Vie. I could never see myself going to work. At least not until my kids are 18. I am the school volunteer mom, cub scout mom and soon to be soccer mom and girl scout mom. I love every minute of it. I am just blessed with a husband that supports me in my decisions. I think kids really do better and benefit more if their mothers are home with them.
2006-12-17 15:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by skyy_blue8278 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to have both if they are both important to you. It was to me so when my kids started school I started volunteering at their school making sure that people knew I was interested in working there. The next year they needed someone to work in the library in the afternoons and I was hired. I worked really hard to build a strong library program and the year after that I was hired full time. I am home on the days my kids are off, as well as all summer. Also, many companies allow you to work flex hours and/or give you time off for community service to volunteer at school. Figure out what you can do and make it happen!!! Good luck.
2006-12-17 15:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by thrill88 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good compromise might be you working part time, or doing something from home. I am a stay at home mom, but just to have something to do on my own I translate documents for businesses. It's reasonable money too. I also take college classes. You might try something at home with a skill that you have, or volunteer your time to a cause that you can feel passionate about.
2006-12-17 15:12:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've had people tell me recently (who have 3+ kids) that it's when the kids are in school that they need you the most. I think your husband should sit tight for several more years and see just how active you are with three kids. If money is not the issue, not sure what there is to compromise about?
2006-12-17 15:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay at home... they need you.
Seriously, think about it though, having 3 kids IS work.
By the time your 3rd is in school, you can reassess.
Right now, keep reminding him he's your "hero" because he's providing the wonderful life for you and your kids.
If you remind him DAILY that he is your hero, you love him, he's your warrior, then he won't be so anxious to have you go back to work.
If by the time your third is in school, you still want to work, they always have positions at the school.
Enjoy.
I'm jealous! My husband decided he didn't want to be married, so he divorced me and I can't be a stay at home mom, even though thats what we had agreed on
Enjoy them... they grow up too fast!
2006-12-17 15:17:17 · answer #7 · answered by my-kids-mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been home since i was 30 weeks pregnant,feb 2002 and my daughter was born that may..i am planning on going back when she is in kindergarden,mainly because i can not stand being home any longer..with us it also is not a money issue but we decided i wouls stay as opposed to having a sitter...everyone has to do what is best for their situation..i have loved being home with my gal but now i need some adult interaction..could you work a part time job
2006-12-17 15:13:50 · answer #8 · answered by charmel5496 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If money isnt an issue... do what you wanan do and where you find joy... I admire stay at home moms and the kind that get involved in the kids lives... i say go for that, its what will make you, your children happy and then also your husband, even if he doesnt see it now.
2006-12-17 15:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by eric 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A part-time job. I admire u for loving ur children,but u r still a woman who needs to get out. Get a Part-time job and maybe u can baby-sit ur children's playfriends, or have a job ending by the time ur kid gets home. Maybe a daycare center where ur child(children) goes or will go to. Good luk
2006-12-17 15:07:36 · answer #10 · answered by chocolate tea 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋