Recently I got a kidney infection. I was in excruciating pain. So much pain that I was throwing up and screaming out in pain every now and then. My bf told me to take a Tylenol and go to sleep. Finally it got so bad I needed to go to ER. He said, "you'll be alright going by yourself, right?" I told him I wanted him to take me to the hospital. I had to call the cab. I had to pay for the cab. Meanwhile he complained about the fact that he was moving to a new apartment the next day and needed time to pack and that he had a meeting at work. Finally, I was placed in a hospitla bed. My bf insisted on climbing into the hospital bed with me, saying that he needed his rest more than me. Finally, he left, to go pack. I was kept in hospital about half a day. He never called to check on me. I had to walk home in the rain later that day & he didn't call me until the next day.
Am I right to want to chew him out about this, big time? He doesn't see a problem with his behavior at al
2006-12-17 15:02:09 · 28 answers · asked by Very Nice Indeed! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Man, I would drop him like a rock ASAP. if you can't depend on him being there in an emergency, you can't depend on him for anything else.
2006-12-17 15:03:48 · answer #1 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your man is a total jerk!
If you were so sick with a kidney infection that you were vomiting and screaming in pain, he should have taken you to the ER and made sure you were being taken care of, no matter how long it took - and he should have picked you up from the hospital the next day!
He can reschedule his meeting and he can move the next day - but you're his woman, he supposedly loves you and he should be focused on taking care of you above all else.
Your man is a total idiot! You deserve better than him!
2006-12-17 23:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? He should have driven you to the ER and stayed with you for as long as it took. You are totally justified in wanting to chew him out. I would reevaluate this relationship if I were you. Just think if you were to get married or something like that...or you were pregnant and in labor. How would you feel taking a cab to the hospital then. Sounds like your SO is a mooch and you need to stand your ground and tell him to quite mooching and get a life. He needs to accept that there are changes that need to be made in your relationship and if he is unwilling....honey....show him the door! Sorry if this isn't want you want to hear...I don't know you...but girl...YOU DESERVE BETTER!!!! Good Luck!! I do hope things work out for the best for you and what is best for your relationship!
2006-12-17 23:09:12 · answer #3 · answered by Tiggers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he was wrong to be so inconsiderate!
When my bf had appendicitis, I was juggling 3 jobs and also cramming for a big, 5-hour long certification exam in a few days. I still took time out to go spend the night with him in the hospital, even though he was passed out most of the time. But it meant a lot to him during the times he was awake, and I wanted to be there for him.
I would expect the same from him, and you deserve the same from your bf too!
2006-12-17 23:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by Katie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should chew him out, but your going to have to convince him on how serious the situation was, he is probably thinking it was not that serious. Instead of out right yelling at him tell him how much he disappointed you by showing a lack of concerning and being selfish Good Luck
2006-12-17 23:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by PhillyDude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OKAY HE IS A F****** LOSER!!! You deserve wayyyyy better chick. That was a serious illness and the mo fo couldn't even drive you to the hospital???? I understand he had things to do but your health should be higher up on the totem pole then his stupid packing. Lose him now while you can still walk and talk.
2006-12-17 23:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its never wrong to expect youre significant other to accompany you to the hospital
personally i think youre boyfriend is narcissistic, he does not love you and only cares for himself, if you are intelligent enough you would leave him, he is actually scary, what will happen to you if you ever had an emergency, if his attitude is like that, you would be so naive and really weird if you continue being with him, you deserve someone who would be there through tough times, not someone who loves himself, only himself, he is narcissistic he has serious problems, get out of there, he is only using you, end it now, you can always have someone better, dont ever think he is irreplaceable, he does not love you, you know that
2006-12-17 23:18:14 · answer #7 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omfg....at first he seemed like such a d*ck that i couldn't believe this story.
assuming you really are telling the truth, i would sya dump him. no ifs ands, or buts. this guy is a totaly d*ck.
unless he has some huge job that makes him millions of dollars i wouldnt see any reason for him to ditch you like that. i myself would drop everything in my life to go see my gf. i would drive her to the hospital and sleep on the floor next to her until the day she was well again. but thats just me.
2006-12-17 23:07:59 · answer #8 · answered by program dude 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely a problem if he complains about taking you to the hospital in an emergency. I would be furious with my fiance if he so much as complained about taking me to the hospital.
2006-12-17 23:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by karespromise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd talk to him about how his actions made you feel and ask him about his priorities. If you need him to be there for you he should be no questions asked. If he can't meet your needs during an illness how is he showing he cares or his williness to help. Find someone who cares and will be there for you no matter what, you need to feel important and that your man will take care of you.
2006-12-17 23:06:37 · answer #10 · answered by nashiranickel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you don't see a problem here?
It sure looks to me like you should be considering him as an ex significant other.
That is the most inconsiderate thing he could have done. It sounds to me like he's extremely narcissistic .
Somehow or other, you need to lose this bum.!!
2006-12-17 23:07:57 · answer #11 · answered by Gnome 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋