Ok, no she kicks it with him... too darn much for my liking.. but we talked for 5 hours last night and she(my ex) said he is just a friend and a way to keep her mind busy.. too young for her (17, she is 21 and i am 29). says she loves me and a big part of her wants to give it another chance but her parents dont want her to and my mom doesnt like her anymore... but she wants to go out on friday night and kick it and such. Talked about working back into it slowly. I love her and I want to believe her... but it is hard. is there anyway she is being honest and he is just a friend... or is she like a lot of women... just tryng to keep me around just incase? I am really torn because i love her and I would like to think she is being honest.. .but part of me just doesnt know
2006-12-17 14:57:49 · 17 answers · asked by sbquik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like this is another case of "just in case." You're her backup plan, I think. Forget her. Good luck with the next one!
2006-12-17 15:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Look at the bigger picture. She dated you for however long, and now she is with someone who is 17. That tells me that she wants to try out different things. She is 21 years old and should be able to sleep with anyone she wants to. (Altho technically, he isn't legal). I'm not saying that she is, but she is an adult, and probly not quite mature enough to settle. Thats what we do when we're that age. In other words she's too young for you maturity wise, not just the physical age. She needs time to explore and date different people. Also, both your parents disapprove which isn't helping. The biggest thing you need to know about dating a younger girl is, for the most part they aren't ready for a serious relationship/commitment and judging by her actions, she isn't ready. At 21 we feel the need to go out and conquer the world. This doesn't mean all hope is gone or that she doesn't love you. If you love her enough to let her grow up, and you can stick around for all of that, it might still be possible. But that just seems like a lot of heartache on your part. Don't get hung up on the fact that she might be sleeping with this guy. Don't confuse jealousy for love. And don't let her string you along just because she is confused.
2006-12-17 23:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she wants to keep you around as plan B in case this younger guy doesn't work o ut for her. I personally don't think men and women can be friends with out at least thinking a few times of what it might be like to be with them in a serious relationship. They may not act on these feelings but I bet they have them. I think she wants this younger guy but at the same time she doesn't want to end up lonely so she's keeping you around, hoping you'll meet her needs if this little boy won't.
2006-12-17 23:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she probably is seeing this other guy romantically but she is probably just seeing him because she's not able to have you right now. Once she's back with you or at least working on getting back with you the other guy will probably disappear. If you love her give it a chance despite what your families say because although they want the best for both of you they don't always know what the best for you is.
2006-12-17 23:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by copper_eos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 17 year old should be no threat to you! Sometimes, people just need other people to help them grow; that doesn't mean she is 'involved' with him. The world is made up of so many different types of personalities, and you can not be EVERYTHING or EVERYONE to one person. The intimate, loving and special relationship is sacred, but sharing and caring and nurturing belongs to all. At least I think so.
2006-12-17 23:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by GiGi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way u can find out is if you give her a chance and see if she is telling to truth.........when u love someone you can not worry about how other people (your mother, your friends) view the person you love nor your relationship....... you have to do what is right for you. Love does not come everyday! So you gotta hold on to good love when you find it.
2006-12-17 23:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by Princess l 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well - If the shoe fits.
Why would she be just kicking it with a guy all the time that is younger than her (he can't even go to the bar) There is probably somthing else to it - I would be leary if I were you.
2006-12-17 23:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by Stasi 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In the first place, wat was the reason ur relationship failed? Hmm.. well, it's quite difficult to get back together since both parents are against this relationship. Must be something serious uh. well, but if you guys are really serious about getting back together, why not prove it to them? And for ur ex's young fren.. she will let go of him, if u are ready to get back together with her and if... she still loves you.
=)
2006-12-17 23:04:51 · answer #8 · answered by Juzie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it simple. Do you see a future? If you don't see her as your life-mate with adequately certainty (I don't say "absolute" - no one can know for sure), then maybe you should chock this one up to experience, and move on.
2006-12-17 23:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by funwithu_007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-17 23:03:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋