Do I invite his wife...the mother of his three children...(who will be there with his girlfriend)?
His wife said he could pick up things at the house, but please not to bring his girlfriend into her home. The (college-age) kids just say this is all really hard on them...really tough for their mom...they're not used to it (less than 1 year) and don't think they'll ever get used to it.
Brother, gf and all kids were together at family Thanksgiving, while mom was home alone.
I love my sister-in-law...I love my brother too...
2006-12-17 14:44:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell your brother to leave his girlfriend at home. Since she got to be over on Thanksgiving and you shouldn't be stuck in the position of denying their mother seeing her kids on Christmas because he wants to bring his girlfriend. Plus doesn't this girlfriend have her own family? Why can't she spend Christmas with them?
2006-12-17 14:57:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think your brother needs a heads up about the pain he is creating for his family, as well as the awkwardness of the situation. For the sake of his children and family, he should come by himself until more time passes. Your brother could come to a separate Christmas get together with just your family, that he can bring his girlfriend to, or go out to dinner with them both. But on the actual event, just him alone would be best. The children may be college age, but this does not mean that they are not hurt by this situation. As far as just inviting your sister-in-law, I think it would be okay as long as everyone knows who is being invited. That way if they are too uncomfortable about it, they can graciously bow out.
2006-12-17 14:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by Animaholic 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say the girlfriend could go to her families home for Christmas and you and your family can enjoy the holiday without the stress. It is a little early to be involving a girlfriend in a family function considering she's dating a married man. The marriage needs to be completely over in order for this to be acceptable, but it is your family and you have to make the final decision. Tell your brother "I love you but seriously, not right now and not at Christmas" Have the sister in law be there, that is a little more meaningful and important
2006-12-17 14:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by Maizy * 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is tough. But you should ask your brother not to bring his girlfriend, and invite your sister-in-law. He can get together with her after you guys eat dinner. Your sister-in-law is going thru a lot, and x-mas is so lonely when u r by yourself.
Put yourself in her place.
2006-12-17 14:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by Lolitta 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
jAYNE...BUMMER. You are stuck tween the rock and the hard place...this is a tough one....
Bottom line is it is your house and your party. You can invite whoever you want, if there is any possibility they can act like adults and make it comfy for their kids, I would invite her, I have been alone on may holidays, bottle of vodka and the thorne birds was my holiday many years, would have loved the invite, You already know the right thing to do, may be difficult, but right is right...good luck to you...not envying your situation...
2006-12-17 14:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother-in-law is the one behaving badly, so he should stay away if he insists on being with his girlfriend. Your sister-in-law and the children should be with your family for Christmas.
In time, maybe things will settle down.
2006-12-17 16:03:01 · answer #6 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't have anything to do with race. It has to do with your husband having mixed up priorities, because he's allowing someone who is rude and disrespectful to you to continue this behavior. Therefore, he is putting her interests ahead of yours. It would be the same situation if she was his mother. To answer your question, you can't do anything at all if your hubby won't act on this. But he's not being a pushover - that lets him off the hook. He's putting you second, and that's the part that's wrong.
2016-05-23 03:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't invite or allow the girlfriend inside my house and if the brother had a problem with that, he can keep his *** home.
2006-12-17 15:53:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
PLS ,Do invite ur sis-in-law if u truly have her int erst in heart. Pls dun keep her in the dark,ask ur conscience again ,u definitely wldnt wanna keep the mother of three in dark.Is it fair to her??
2006-12-17 14:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by *♥sugar♥* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats good you love your brother. im sure you wouldnt want him to suffer any kind of pain. no one wants to see that happen to a family member. but see your sister-in-law is suffering right now and doing that would only make her suffering worse. that wouldnt be a very loving thing to do right? so just think about it.
2006-12-17 14:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by stacims 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋