Although I've always believed in God and the Bible, I've never studied it. I was turned off by organized religion due to personal issues and I am now seriously studying the Bible and doing my best to follow the will of God. However, I look around and see so many people living together and having sex before marriage. I have not done so yet and I was just wondering if anyone thinks that two people in a relationship could live together purely before marriage.
I personally believe that they can if they share the same beliefs but it just seems like there aren't a lot of people who live together without doing so. I'd really like to get some guys points of view on this one . . . could you live with a girl you love without doing anything sexual? I'd really like to know if there is still hope. And please don't lash out at me for this question, all I want is an honest answer without having to be mean about it. Religion is being bashed enough in this section. Thank you very much!
2006-12-17 14:44:06 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Sure. But it would be very unusual and you better understand that everyone else is going to assume that you are having sex. So the group that doesn't approve is not going to buy that you aren't. And the side that would, would look at you even more strangely if you told them.
You can do it if you both really have the same beliefs, but you are going to have a lot going on around you.
2006-12-17 14:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it would go against all human nature for a man and woman to live together in purity before marriage. I do not believe it is possible. This would be very foolish and naive to believe it could be done.
The Bible says to refrain from even the appearance of evil. No one is going to says well that couple living together are Christians so they can be together and not have sex. That would be nonsense.
I think you are very young and a woman. No young man would even consider that question seriously. Unless he just had no clue what it meant to live purely.
If a young couple live together before marriage they will end up having sex basically. The choice to live a pure life is to not get into situations like this that temptation will surely overcome you. If you are a couple the emotional and sexual attraction are already there. It is only a matter of time before you break down and do the deed. Even if you could resist, for the man he is going to be thinking about being with you sexually 24/7. It doesn't even take living with someone to have this problem...than when they are right there.
There's is no way I could have ever lived with a woman I was going to marry without breaking down. One nice wet kiss would lead to holding and hugging and more kissing.
That would be like holding back the tide....
I hope you are getting the picture.
This is an insanely bad idea from the devil.
This would be sin in itself, sex aside.
2006-12-17 14:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by adrian b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think it is best, because if you break up it is like getting a divorce. So hard. I have seen my friends go through it. I also doubt you could avoid a sexual relationship if living with someone you loved. Speaking as a guy, I couldn't. That being said, I think you can if you already are, and hope to get married soon. You are not doomed to have an awful life or relationship if you start out living together. But from my anectodal experience and even some statistics I've read, waiting (for everything) before marriage tends to be better.
Best to you.
2006-12-17 14:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by Aspurtaime Dog Sneeze 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living together is not a great idea if you are in a relationship. The reason for this is that your relationship before marraige is a trial period where you are trying to decide if you can go the rest of your life with this person. One of the critical things you would like to know is whether this person is in love with you for who you are and vice versa. When you move in together you start getting dependencies (like financial,etc) that complicate this decision making process. It also makes it much harder to break up since now you have to find a new place to live or kick out the other person. Anyway, I would say that living together might make you get married for the wrong reasons and makes it very difficult to back out of a relationship even if you know it would be best.
2006-12-17 14:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by Zefram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it is possible it is not the best solution. I lived with my now husband for 2 years before we were married. We had intimate relations. I left him after two years (of living together unmarried)because of the power struggle that occurred within the relationship. without the commitment it was a flimsy relationship.With the commitment it is right, solid, secure. I asked him his point of view on this one since you wanted guy answers, he said it it possible if you really love each other, but it will be the hardest thing you will ever do, simply because sex is good....but better when married....why would you want to just live together if you are truly in love? you need to know who you are before you commit to another, so that you can bring health and maturity to the relationship. You also need to wait for the one who will give that to you as well. If you do not want to lower your standards then don't, your future mate will be the luckiest in the world.
2006-12-17 15:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by someone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you may be studying a religion that adds a lot to the Bible that wasn't intended. The Bible talks about Adultery, it doesn't talk about living together or what we today call premarital sex. The Bible talks about drunkenness, not having a drink. If the religion you're studying goes beyond Adultery and Drunkenness, I'd look into something else, like being a Lutheran.
2006-12-17 14:49:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally think it is possible, although looked on negatively by most devout
Christians. As long as there is no sexual activity, and only the two of you will know for sure, because nobody else will believe it's possible, then I think you should follow your heart. If you are not ready for the commitment of marriage, what makes you think you are ready for the commitment involved in living together? Personally, I don't see much difference.
2006-12-17 14:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by XXXDirtyDirtyGirlXXX 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hebrews 10 (somewhere there) Says Honour the marriage bed and keep it pure.
You don't need to test drive it and the pre-marital counselling is invaluable, as well as the living together without doing anything is highly unaccountable. Part of marriage is being accountable before your family and friends and God that you will protect the relationship.
2006-12-17 14:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by Abbasangel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont believe that a couple cannot live together before marriage because sex will happen. Plus, when a couple live together before marriage, they tend to divorce much easier. Its easier to quit on the relationship. Sorry girl. Its worth working on a marriage when its fresh from scratch. And its worth saving because living together after marriage is a symbol of the start of your lives together.
2006-12-17 14:51:54 · answer #9 · answered by sk20007623 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT is possible for people who love each other to live together purely but highly improbable. Guy or Girl sooner or later temptation strikes and when neither has another place to go until it passes, temptation has a great upper hand. Its called being human. By the way God loves us for our humanity, not our perfection.
2006-12-17 14:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by fancyname 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋