I am a really caring guy and there is this girl I like, We are both sophmores and have known each other a long time and we both know we like each other. She is mostly "anti touch " she was when I met her and for alittle while after. but we have grown closer and i really like her, but I think she will not like to hold hands or hug, and I respect her so I don't. even though I am a more touchy kind of guy. and I mean with everybody I always love hugs any time from most anyone.SO WHAT SHOULD i DO TO GROW CLOSTER IN OUR RELATIONSHIP. and I want mature answers, and please do not mention sex I am saving that for marraige.
2006-12-17 14:19:17 · 8 answers · asked by 1-4-all 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe in a sweet way{when the timing is right}Say, since i cant hold your hand -could we just hold each others pinky fingers?That might make her laugh and realize just how much you wanna hold her hand..
I dunno,but it's worth a try.
Also in time you could say how much you love hugging and that it doesn't always have to lead to something else..
Just tell her how you feel...If you hold it in too long your gonna build up resentments toward her..If she is really that special to you..Dont you wanna start off being honest with one another??
2006-12-17 14:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Luv my kitties♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should discuss it with her, but take small steps. Tell her you would like to give her a hug when you say goodbye or hold her hand during a movie, and ask if that is okay. If she says no try not to take it to heart, be patience it might just be a not yet, but do not ignore what she says. I suggest being alone with her at the time, in a place she feels comfortable. She may feel more relaxed not having others watching or being around.
2006-12-17 22:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by cloverpondering 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try talking to her as much as possible, insant messaging is usually a good chance to talk and i know it grows me closer to people. also make sure your always there for her. one day something bad might happen and she may NEED a hug to cheer up. just try not to push her into holding hand's because girls don't like to be pressured too much. also if you two end up going out and if she is still a little shy about it then possibly just ask " can i have a hug goodbye".
i hope everything works out!
2006-12-17 22:24:03 · answer #3 · answered by xo marie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try to take her hand, see how she reacts..Tell her you respect her and that you don't want anything more from her..You just want to have contact with her..I think you saving yourself for marriage is a mature choice..but a kiss, holding hands and hugging is quite normal...Just have a talk with her...If she thinks you are not going to jump her bones she will be more relaxed.....
2006-12-17 22:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, ur gonna have to change a bit. u have to change so u can be closer. i had to change some of my habits becuase my gf isn't a touchy person. thats all i got. good luck
2006-12-17 22:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by Ronald D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best advice i can give you is that see if she will sit down and talk to you. see why she is that way. i think it is good that you are saving yourself till marriage. good luck and all you have to do is talk to her. hope everything goes well.
2006-12-17 22:46:42 · answer #6 · answered by lovell041206couple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to earn her trust. That is done over time.
There is no quick fix.
2006-12-17 22:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by revoltix 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
didn't you post this yesterday?
2006-12-17 22:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋