we were in a relationship for over a year and she breaks up with me for another guy saying i did nothing wrong and stuff she just fell out of love and so i havent talked to her in 3 weeks she got a new boyfriend of this guy who broke up with his gf of 3 years for her... she supposively started liking him while we were going out and in less than a week after we broke up she started going out with him......... now she wants to be friends with me and doesnt get why we cant even though i havent talked to her because ive been listening to what everyone is telling me what to do... in my mind i would love to be friends but i think it would be hard for me... ive just been following what people have told me to do and not talk to her and stuff
2006-12-17 14:11:51 · 16 answers · asked by james d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her you need to give it some time before you can answer whether or not you can be her friend. She just broke your heart. The worst thing you can do is become 'friends' and continue pining for her while she is with another guy. When you feel better (healed), you'll be able to decide rationally.
Sorry:(
2006-12-17 14:17:34 · answer #1 · answered by Me, Thrice-Baked 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what you feel is right for YOU. No one can answer that for you. Maybe what you need to do is tell her that you aren't READY to be friends with her right now, because it's still too painful to be around her. Then take some time. If, down the line, you still feel that you want to be friends with her, then do that when you're ready. A lot of times, though, when a relationship ends, people SAY they want to be friends, because it's sometimes hard to completely let go of someone just like THAT. They're like comfortable shoes. If you take some time away, it'll give your head and heart a chance to clear up a little. Then you can make a better decision.
2006-12-17 22:17:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it isn't as if the two of you were married and she went out and had an affair or committed adultery. But there is what I think you may feel, that is betrayal. Perhaps, you opened yourself up to her, and confided in her; only to find that she was living a double life. One with you, and one with another person. It becomes difficult to accept her even as a friend, if that was the case. Yet, I think that you do well to forgive her; move on and thank God that the two of you weren't married. You learned that she's not what you want afterall, at least I hope you did. Again, forgive her, don't go back to her, and keep in mind the tail-tale signs she displayed so that you are forewarned of your anyone like her. No sense in ever getting betrayed again!
2006-12-17 22:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by omahaman1954 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be her friend. Treat her like you guys are still together. Respect her. Give her attention. Talk to her, be a good listener. Give her gives. If she asks why you give her gifts, tell her because she is your best friend, and would like to continue to be her best friend. Offer you advice when possible. Be there for her when she is sad. She will realize that you care about her, and you are the only one that gives her the attention she needs. Who knows you might get back together. Even if u guys dont get back together. Just be her best friend for as long as you want. She will love you for that. (being her best friend, keep in contact with her)
2006-12-17 22:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't listen to what other people are telling you to do. it's just going to make your life harder and your decisions harder to deal with. you need to do what you feel is the best for your situation. i can't tell you what to do because then you would be listening to what i have to say and once again listening to someone else other than yourself. just follow your heart and if you really want to be friends, then you have to decide whether or not it would work out.
2006-12-17 22:14:51 · answer #5 · answered by colelynnnn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey we can always use another friend.
However be careful of your heart. Right now, you're wearing it on your sleeve, and you could be hurt.
Take care, and see if other girls want to see you....................that could really change her mind.
By the way, this happens for the rest of your life, got that, only later people are married, cheat, and then get divorced.
GOD bless.
2006-12-17 22:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i find it really hard to be 'just friends' with someone you had a relationship with.
you can talk, but don't be wanting to know details of her life. it would hurt you to know that she is happy in her current situation, right?
you will know what is best for you, but I'll bet your friends are telling you what they think is best for you.
follow YOUR heart, but LISTEN to those that really care about you, friends, and family.
2006-12-17 22:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, how old is she? that alone may determine the answer, seriously.
second of all, she really may have fallen out of love, or may never have been "in love". you can love someone, and be in love with someone, two different types of love.
third of all, she's a woman. done. it's hard to explain to a man.
my advice, my man, move on and keep on movin on!
2006-12-17 22:18:03 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what feels right but if she did that to you just move on there are many more girls out there. I know how you feel, it happened to me and I slowly stopped talking to her and sure enough I got over her, I know its hard but it worth it. good luck man I hope it works out for ya.
2006-12-17 22:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by sarge7826 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, dont let her dump on you. Someone who would do that is not very respectful to others feelings. Take your sweetness and find that miss right.
2006-12-17 22:16:13 · answer #10 · answered by wingedladyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋