How did you get over someone hurting you real bad? How long did it take? What did you do?

Answer 1

i went to bed for 8 months and i cried a lot... after that i decided to make him see that he made the biggest mistake ever and went out with all of his friends... then i realized he's a bit of a wanker anyway and became a little more sane and decided i was over it... eventually it becomes true. i still have a chocolate addiction tho...

Answer 2

You feel the hurt because you are still thinking about the past. It's your memory remind you all the happiness and sadness. Only time can totally heal you. But meanwhile, you can try to listen to music that gives you positive ideas like those Christian songs. Also, read some self-help books. Focus on a new hobby. Meet some new people. It takes me almost 10 months but i am still thinking about the past sometimes. Try all the things that can switch your attention to. Remember you are the one who hold your key of happiness. Don't let other people even the one you trust the most in the past to control it. No one can stop you persuit your happiness in life. And, there are many good people around you. Think everything in a positive side. Hope that it can help you.

Answer 3

When my fiance and I broke up on our wedding day 4 months ago I could put on a brave face, but sometimes I would just ccry and cry! I was like you wondering when I was going to stop wanting to call, curse him out, get back together, wish I never met him, ask him why he was so stupid, and generally just wishing the pain would stop. I realized it was me that was keeping the pain going by constantly talking about him, fantasizing about what he was feeling and doing, doing a constant autopsy of our failed relationship, and not forgiving myself for what I considered to be my faults in the relationship. So I made a conscious decsion to stop doing those things and just had to accept that not only was the relationship over, but that I was WAY better off because of it. I realized that a relationship was a phase in my life designed to teach me certain lessons. Then I bought this book called Getting What You Want and Wanting What You Have by John Gray. I swear to you, just following the advice and reading those comforting motivational words have me feeling like a new better person! I feel SO much better and am happy again! My thoughts of him are always with a smile becuse I choose to only remember the good times. But in times I think of him being a jerk I smile knowing that karma will bite him in the *** one day soon and he will remember how good he had it with me but lost it because he didn't deserve a beautiful, loving, woman like me.

Answer 4

It might take a abt 1 mth or so dear.. TRY n divert ur thouts abt that incident to smthg else. Keep ur self busy wit books,work ,movie or pick up a new skill.Pls dun get vexed and shut the world out : coz u must remember that person who had hurt u wld b definitely continuing happily with the on coming event in his/her life..rite?? Ask ur self..y do u need to b upset over someone who doesn't appreciate a wonderful soul like u!!Come on!!

Answer 5

there's nothing you can do about it. your'e always going to run into things that remind you of how amazing the relationship was before it ended. you just have to wait and let fate run its course. it is going to take some time, however. what i dont recommend is start liking somebody else to stop thinking about the one that hurt you. you will end up hurting that person because they would only be a rebound. just take it easy and see how you feel after each day. don't worry, you will get better soon. :]

Answer 6

I dated this guy who i really liked- like REALLY. I had a crush on him for 3 years and finally right before we graduated high school we finally started dating. He cheated on me with his ex. Said he was sorry, and I gave him another chance, and he cheated on me again with some random girl. It hurt me a lot because I liked him so much, I was trying my hardest to be the best for him. It took time to get over that. And it didn't help that he would call me every now and then or visit my job when I was working. They best way I could tell you to get over it is to keep moving forward. Don't go backwards giving that person another chance to hurt you again. And it helps if you just hang out with friends. Friends that have nothing to do with that person. They will help take you mind off of things so you can get your life back to normal. For me it took like a year to start feeling back to myself again. It takes time to heal, but you can only heal if you don't keep picking at the wounds. So just move on and remember that you are better off without that person in you life, because in reality you really are!

Answer 7

You have to review what happened and see if you were blinding yourself to the signs. A lot of times there are all kinds of red flags going off, but we forge ahead, ignoring them, until we get pounded in the face with that final huge hurt. If we picked up on the clues earlier, we would have held back more and we wouldn't set ourselves up for such betrayal and heartache.

Answer 8

Took forever, just one day at a time, there is no trick.

It stopped bothering me when I met Mr Right, but you never forget completely someone who does that....it fades immensely though over time.

Keep busy and do things to better yourself...wether image, weight or anything that makes you feel BETTER so they are missing out on it ;) so you can see and feel you are better off without them anyway !!!!

Answer 9

Yeah, it happens. I just cried as much as I needed to, then went out and made a life for myself, so I didn't miss him any more. There's a big world out there, and lots to do and learn, and I have had more fun on my own than I ever would have imagined.

Answer 10

I talked it out with someone I trusted. After that, time healed.