This is my first relationship ever. I'm 21 and have only been seeing her for 2 months. She has a very close friend that she's grown up with since early childhood. They spend a lot of time together, talking online or on the phone, shopping, going to hair salons and sometimes even working out together. They always talk so affectionately to each other and touch each other and stuff. I being the inexperienced, shy prude that I am assumed that's how all close girlfriends are. None of these of course really worried me until I saw them KISS eachother at a party!
Now I don't know what to do. I really like this girl and don't wanna mess things up. I don't wanna sound like an idiot asking her a question about something that maybe totally innocent and offend her. Cuz they were both drunk when they kissed. What the hell am i suppoded to do?
2006-12-17 14:03:42 · 19 answers · asked by Sepehr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, think I need to clear things up a bit. Yes I have pride and if she had kissed a guy I would have dumped her. But she kissed a girl. And not just any girl, but her best friend.
As far as our relationship goes, she has been nothing short of an angel. She has been willing to put up with my inexperience and help me other things such as school papers ( English is not my first language). To be fair she does spend most of her time with me. So I think she obviously cares for me. I'm not blind.
The kiss really doesn't matter to me if it's only a kiss as symbol of her affection for her friend. But if she has feelings for her like a lover would and wants to have sex with her, then that's a different story.
2006-12-17 17:06:08 · update #1
ask her if she has feelings for her. cause it sounds like she does.
2006-12-17 14:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by walrus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Witnessing your significant other smooch another is a definite red flag! Whereas I understand that in some friendships affection knows no bounds, I do feel that the individuals within those friendships should remain mindful of the feelings of their partners. With that said, I feel that you should confront your girlfriend in a very mature and calm manner and communicate to her your feelings regarding the situation. When speaking with her, be sure to let her know how much you enjoy her company, the time the two of you have shared, and where you would like the relationship to go. Then,very calmy, let her know how uncomfortable the kiss made you feel. Hopefully, she will be able to understand your frustration and agree to tone her affectionate side down a bit (toward her best bud, that is). If, however, she refuses to hear you out and/or dismisses your concern, then it is obvious that she isn't the most considerate young woman in the world and may not be the one for you...
2006-12-17 14:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anything is bugging you, you have a right to ask, in a nice way.
If anything is able to make both of you communicate better, then approach it that way.
However, you may be rejected. She may also think you already know. Have you even thought she may be "bi"? Since girls who kiss at a party, while drunk, maybe are trying to get you to realize something.
Do say something to her because the near term relationship needs you to find out.
If she rejects you, it's better you find out now, than later when she's going behind your back.
GOD bless.
2006-12-17 14:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers you, ask her about it...don't avoid it because you are afraid to mess things up...if she gets offended over it you're probably better off...sounds to me like there may be something strange going on...I have friends that I've known forever and gone to salons and stuff with, but I wouldn't touch them (other than a hug...once in a while), but I definitely wouldn't be kissing them, drunk or not! Find out about it now before things get more serious...best of luck to you.
2006-12-17 14:10:21 · answer #4 · answered by Renee B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you could find some common friends and get to know more about this girl and her friend. Dont jump to conclusions based on one incident that you saw. You could continue your friendship with her and get to know better her interest in others. This is your first time and you are a shy person with conservative views. So proceed carefully, and dont get disheartened if she has other b/fs whom she prefers than you.
2006-12-17 14:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by greenhorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you should. I hate it that nowadays girls say that kissing their girlfriends is normal. No, it's not, and if you are in a relationship, she should only be kissing you. She may have not meant anything by it, seeing that they were drunk, but she still should respect you and not behave in that way. Just calmly ask her about it and ask her to please not do that because it bothers you. Good luck! :)
2006-12-17 14:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh come on, you have some pride don't you??!!! she is cheating on you, if she kissed him, drunk or not it means she likes him.
She is a sl&t, dump her and look for a girl who can really see how wonderfull a person you are!!!!.
2006-12-17 14:08:56 · answer #7 · answered by nobodysfool 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly i think of you may desire to forget approximately the undeniable fact which you kissed your appropriate acquaintances female chum and could be extra to blame with regard to the undeniable fact which you kissed somebody that's no longer your spouse. some dedication
2016-10-05 10:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man as long as your signeifcant other comes home to you who cares who there kissing does it really matter do you need to be that posessive and dominearing over some ones life let them be there own person and be joyfull in the fact that they chose you to spend there time with
2006-12-17 14:06:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-12-17 14:10:38 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥ Nikki ♥♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you go to the party with her? How old is she? I wouldn't go fast with any conclusions at this point.
2006-12-17 14:06:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋