My daughter is 2 years old. Her Daddy, my husband, is in the military and overseas right now. He has been out of her life more than in it because of the military. Over the past year we were able to move to Colorado with him and be a real family. Since my oldest daughter has a different father, I was forced to move back in July. Since then my husband was deployed again. My youngest daughter has these hysterical crying fits. She won't let anyone touch her when she does this. I thought they were getting better but they're not. She tells me everyday that she needs her Daddy. My husband trys to call once a week and talk to her. We also made a teddy bear with a pocket picture of him on it. She takes that to bed with her every night. I am running out of ideas for her. It breaks my heart everytime she crys for him. I don't cry in front of her because I know that will make it worse, but it absolutely kill me inside to have her cry. What do I do?
2006-12-17 14:02:38 · 14 answers · asked by dmh2105 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh boy, if you were not already stressed-out with your husband gone and the holidays upon us, this has to put the icing on the cake. I'm no doctor, but it certainly sounds like a classic case of separation anxiety. I developed it when I was 18 months old and my mother was in the hospital for a few months with cancer. Took me a great deal of therapy to figure that out. The good news is that there are coping tools available. As soon as you can, get into to see your pediatrician and ask for a referral to see a family counselor/therapist. It sounds to me like you have a very bright little girl who is telling you what she needs. She may be able to express to a therapist more than you think she can. You are a wonderful mom. Hang in there!
2006-12-17 14:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by Elle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is also 2 she will be 3 in March. Her daddy is also gone. She doesnt act like that at all. We include and talk about daddy all the time. I would take her to the dr. Being that small they are unable to understand that their daddy is gone. I have seen alot of kids use "i miss daddy" as a way to get attention. I would take her to the dr. I am sure that him being gone has impacted her someway but I would get more opinions. Good Luck!
2006-12-17 15:11:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may ask the military person that is a go between when the guys are deployed, they may have counselors to talk to children..She may be hearing a lot of talk at school, or on the tv about troops getting killed...It is hard to tell, but a child see things different than an adult..try to talk to someone.and also try to do things special with her.. I hope things work out for you and your husband and he comes home safe....
2006-12-17 14:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so sad. It's ok for her to cry about it, & I don't think it would be a terrible thing if she saw you cry either. I think it's important for kids to know that crying is not a weakness, it's a release of emotion. She has to have some way to get rid of that bad feeling. I would be there for her as much as possible. Let her have her hysterical fit, & when it's over you can talk about your feelings together. Maybe you can go to a behavioral therapist. I had to go to one for my son. They help kids deal with their emotions by using "play therapy" and other tactics. I don't know where you live, but there is a place called Children's Specialized Hospital that helps kids with all kinds of problems. Email me if you need more info. I hope this helps.
2006-12-17 14:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by mrauscher74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously someone or a group of classmates gave her a hard time at school about her party and the invitations. The teacher is probably not aware that this happened. At this age, small things like this are trauma to girls that want to fit in with the "in group". All you can do is listen to her when she wants to talk and quit trying to press her for all the details. She most likely thinks you wont understand because you are a parent and are old. Ask her what she would prefer to do for her birthday instead of a party. Tell her its her day so she can decide what she would prefer to do. This is just one bump in the road to puberty and it will certainly not be the last.
2016-05-23 03:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor little baby, she's so young, too young to reason with so just LOVE LOVE LOVE on her! Tell her how much you miss him too. Have her draw him some pictures or make up a song for him, help her "connect" with him in any way you can with a 2 year old. If you're the praying type, pray for her sweet little heart. I hope this will soon pass for you.
2006-12-17 14:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by MerryKerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that, and I know what your going through. Try telling her to talk to the teddy bear when shes mad. She'll have the bear to connect to her father. Tell to imagine that the bear was her dads helper, the bear will "be there" as he would be. Then it will seem she had "daddy" all along. See if that helps. Good Luck!
2006-12-17 14:05:19 · answer #7 · answered by Swimming in Starwberries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she cries for her daddy, you can cry with her. That may turn to a hug and bonding and she knows you understand her and how she feels. You just tell her "I miss Daddy too". Another idea, I dont know where about he is but maybe have him send her a stuffed animal. When he does, have him tell her that she can hold onto the animal until he gets home. Hug him tight and daddy gets a hug too. Its important it comes in the mail to her. I wish you all the best. My thanks to your husband for his service.
God Bless
2006-12-17 14:12:15 · answer #8 · answered by wingedladyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get this child to a pediatrician as soon as possible and sort this whole thing out.
If she is 2 and able to communicate that well, then have her checked on and let her talk to the Doctor about what is bothering her. There may be a medical issue and pain involved. Children express in odd ways because they aren't mature. Have her checked.
2006-12-17 14:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by yeller 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to cry in front of her, show her that you miss her daddy as well. And that together you can cry and miss him until he comes home. Tell her that it is okay to cry and that mummy understands. Reassure her that daddy will talk to her soon.
She might be thinking that she is the only one that misses him so crying with her will show that you care as well.
2006-12-17 14:06:18 · answer #10 · answered by Katie G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋