everytime i tell a girl i like her..After that, she will keep avoiding me...what should i do? ..so many girl are like that..i can't stand..am i too ugly?
2006-12-17 13:54:42 · 25 answers · asked by edel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, you need to realize that people only see what you want them to.
If you think you're ugly, then that's what they probably see.
Be confident (not cocky). Be secure with yourself (not arrogant).
Secondly, women can smell desperation a mile away! If you're just looking for a girl because you don't want to be alone, you're probably not going to have much success.
You have to learn to love yourself before you can ever truly love anyone else. Being single is ok!
Thirdly, the secret to attracting girls (at least the RIGHT one) is genuine kindness.
I used to be clean-shaven, good-looking guy (several opinions...including mine); but just as a social experiment, I've been growing out all of my hair for the past 2 years (including a foot-long beard).
I get a lot of odd looks at first, but I'm always polite and upbeat, self-confident, humorous, and pleasant to be around.
I smile and speak to people even if they seem nervous. My warm smile puts them at ease. I disarm them with kindness and my heart ALWAYS shines through! I'm thoughtful and I put their needs before my own. Eventually, they don't even see my face, but the love of God, which lives within me.
That said, I've had no less 4 marriage proposals (which I've declined) and numerous other... uh, offers (which I've ALSO declined).
My point... your heart, my man. Your heart!
Women want to see past pretense to the truth of you. They want to feel loved (not just hear it). They want to feel safe in your presence (financially, physically, and emotionally). A real woman wants to be your #1 (and only)!
Accomplish that, and you'll have your pick of the best (though you'll only want one).
Never settle. Don't pursue unless she's absolutely worth it (It's a waste of her time and yours)!
2006-12-17 14:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by suavissimo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is quit over obsessing over your looks or physical flaws. Just remember, "one woman's dog is another woman's babe". You may be ugly to one gal, but another may find you attractive. You just gotta be confident with yourself.
The best thing you can do right now in being confident with yourself is take a look at yourself. How well am a I dressed and groomed? Do I sell nice? How am I carrying myself? What am I doing in life that will make me more attractive to the ladies?
You also start flirting with all the ladies. Play the field until one wants to be with you. The more you flirt and interact with the ladies, the more confortable you will be around them. The more confortable you are around women, the more confidence will radiate from you.
Just keep in mind that rejection is a way of life. You won't date just any ole girl and neither will she. Never take rejection personal. You may not be her type. Just look at it as her loss.
2006-12-17 14:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all in the approach. You might be creeping them out. Don't get too close and be careful of what you say. Nothing too personal.
As far as being ugly, I have no idea what you look like, but thats a matter of opinion. I guarantee you that there is more than one person out there who thinks you are handsome. Be confident. And don't waste your time on girls who are rude to you.
2006-12-17 14:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by lovely 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and don't try to start something right when a girl starts to show a little bit of interest. Give her time to like you too and things will evolve from there- you don't have to tell her that you like her right away. I would like to say that looks don't matter, but they do for a lot of people, at least at first. Its what people notice first, however if you give people time to get to know you they may come around. Or else maybe you will just not have much luck dating around much and there is just that one person out there that is meant for you...you just have to wait for that person to come into your life.
2006-12-17 14:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by College girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your ugly over compensate with a huge wallet use the universal cat call of the car alarm to ur mecedez benz or bmw short of that pak like 5 pounds of meat in your pants or set your standards lower your obviously breathing air above your pay grade the best advice i could give would be to be confident in your self you cant walk up and impress some one if you try to studder out half a sentence looking at the floor
2006-12-17 13:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who said you were ugly? A girl, man? don't pay attention to what people say.
You are as beautiful as you want to be. You have to build up your self esteem, be yourself.
If a girl can't see all the good qualities, then she's not the one.
The one will like you for who you are.
Happy Holidays!
2006-12-17 13:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by Khandi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, funny how the world works, when your young, not to good looking, its hard to find a girl. when your a little older and have lots of money you can get any number of beautiful girls. its the truth. the answer is work hard at school, and i don't just mean high school. get a really good job like a broker, doctor, dentist and you will have a really good looking wife and good looking kids too. be patience. work for your dream.
2006-12-17 14:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by johnmiriani@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think tremendously warm females locate it lots ordinary to handle grotesque nerdy men than with a physically powerful looking one. by using fact for a fact they understand that the guy is secure and no different female could come and scouse borrow him by using fact he's soo grotesque. And yet another fact is by using the fact the guy is grotesque and he's conscious of that he won't get so fortunate with yet another good looking warm babe, he has a tendency to tolerate the babe no rely what she does. in spite of if she is going and sleep with yet another guy, the grotesque guy could forgive her and take her back. women who is going for the grotesque is conscious of this o.k. so as that they only could desire to apply the grotesque men as an emotional help device for his or her own benefit. So be careful :P
2016-10-15 03:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont think that ur ugly cuz noones ugly .we are all b-e-a--u-t-i-f-u-l!!!just go up to a girl, tell her u like her, and if she wants to out with you the next morning for some cofee.....or...if she ignores u ,then just keep trying to talk to her if u can cuz mayb she likes u too but was way too shy to talk to u.
2006-12-17 13:58:28 · answer #9 · answered by Lieu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money
but when you run out of money, they will leave.
You need to treat them nice, even if they don't treat you nice, and just wait and be friends and maybe when they get tired of the jerks they have been going out with, maybe they will give you a chance.
It's your only hope, unless you want a fat girl, you can get one of them today, but if you want a super model, then you have to wait
2006-12-17 13:58:28 · answer #10 · answered by You may be right 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋