Okay I am 21 years old and my fiance is 26, we love each other very much and want to have a baby. We are renting our place and oth have full time jobs that earn decent pay. We dont have anything in savings as yet but are starting to save money. We both have very nice cars we are currently paying off. We have already got everything set up (eg:cot, change table etc etc) and the australian gov gives you $4000 when you have the baby as a baby bonus. We arn't that worried about money, it would be a struggle but if you love each other and you bring up your baby with morals and with love does it matter? But my father thinks im stupid and should wait until i own my own home, i want to tell him to mind his own business but i dont want to lose him either help....
2006-12-17 13:52:47 · 10 answers · asked by Krystle C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like you two have it all rolling pretty good for you both.
It could be hard on your family at first to accept the new change, but do what you and your fiance wants not them. You are an adult living your future. I am sure when you two decide the baby is what you both want that later on your family will adore and love that little baby just the same as you two.
2006-12-17 14:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life. Do what you like! GET MARRIED FIRST! Remember, once you have a child, everything changes. This should be every couples consideration with children. Are you really ready to care 100% about somebody other than your fiance (spouse)? That baby will need you 24/7. How will your fiance/spouse handle not getting all of your attention? Thought questions. I have 4 children, if I had to wait until I could afford them, I still wouldn't have any & I'm 46. You will need a house, but work at it for 3-4 years. You'll get it!
2006-12-17 14:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Brightsides 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that children change everything. You have to be willing to go without sleep for a few months. Then you have to be watchful and careful. You may need to find a babysitter which will be even more money. Make sure to calculate how much you will need once you have the baby (furniture, diapers, baby food, clothes, toys, etc.). Owning a home isn't as important as having a good place to raise a child.
2006-12-17 15:21:09 · answer #3 · answered by retzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should do what ever you feel... i know a lot of people who doesn't own house having baby.. they are still together and the love each other more.. You do not need they approve to have kid and it your body.. unless someone else is having your kid for you... (i am sorry to say that) but it up to you to see what will happen in the future.. what happen if you do not have the money and you move to condo.. or town house.. Not everyone need house to start family.. all you need is food and a lot of diapers for the kid and a lot of love.. and bed.. and toys.. Just do what you wanted and go have kid... You do not need approve from anyone.. Hey if there person who doesn't approve on your relationship would give it up
.My parents always teach me.. that what you do in life and see if you can support and love and care for the kid..and to see if you can take care of yourself first. It alright if you do not have house you going to gain in the future.. with your boyfriend or your husband... and make your father understand.. and Some parents is old fashion.. or just get prego and see how that goes.. he would understand.. Or explain to your father.. it your own life not his life.. he would have grandkid...
2006-12-17 14:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by babyg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even think you will lose your father just because he offered you advice on waiting a little while before you had a child? It will be easier for you and the baby if you wait a little while until you are more financially stable, but if your father loves you he will support you emotionally either way. If he won't be there for you because you didn't do to suit him then there is a problem with the relationship.
2006-12-17 13:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes waiting never gets you more money, there is always something next in line to get it. If you want to have a child that is between you and your fiance and your Father will adjust as soon as the baby arrives and you tell him it looks just like him( grandfathers love that). Good luck
2006-12-17 14:08:02 · answer #6 · answered by 51ain'tbad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to wait until you are married. Other than that I see no flaws in your logic. Since you are 21 years old your father can't tell you what to do, however he will always try to give you advice. I think that you should take what he says into consideration.
That way he can know that you are willing to listen to what he has to say, & won't worry as much.
I hope everything works out.
2006-12-17 14:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jarod R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur father dont want u having a baby living at his house then u cant, its his house so listen too the rules. when u move out do watever u want
2006-12-17 14:08:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your sure beyond any doubt that your ready and will be good parents than have a baby. your faimly will feel differently when they see that little one. i promise. good luck
2006-12-17 14:19:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it really your family's choice? they can't stop you from having a baby. Even though i'm way yunger than you i still understand
2006-12-17 15:29:32 · answer #10 · answered by tcchickiey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋