I'm unhappy, an emotional mess, and suffer from major depression. How can l overcome this misery ?

Question

I have been on many anti depressants like Avanza, Lexapro, Effexor, Zoloft and Zypreza, now l take none. My moods are like four seasons in one day. I cry for no reason and l get angry at friends and family at a drop of a hat. I'm maniplative at times and get frustrated when l dont get my way. I act like a spoilt child but l'm 31 years old.
When l go to see my doctor l don't know how l'll act untill l get there, either defensive or emotional, whatever works for me, doesn't matter l get no reaction regardless. I cut myself again , l have more than enough pill thanks to my Doctor for and overdose, but that is to be seen as yet.
I don't know what to do? I'm not happy or sad just lost and confussed.
People say they want to help , but what they are really saying is go away and bother someone else with your issues.
No one really CARES. Its a cold and lonely place we live in .

Answer 1

The only way you can change is to want to change bad enough.
If you have a medical issue (brain chemistry) you need meds otherwise you need a plan. A plan for you future.
Anyone can change but it is hard work but very worth it. I changed my life many years ago and it saved my life. I am constantly changing for the better.
First you must stare reality in the face. Write a list of all your faults and bad personality traits. Make a second list of all your positive traits. Write as many as you can think of. Examples:
selfish, moody, hot temper, emotional or caring, good wife, loving, understanding.
Then start working on the negatives. It is time consuming but you can take one per month or year and learn of ways to change the bad to the good list. How do you start?
Take classes (self help) or read self help books or go to a retreat for help. Talk to a therapist, church counselor, or support group. Find what works for you.
Don't waste time, you are 31 and just less than one half you life has been lived. You need contentment, happiness and a life of joy.

There are TWO main avenues that I have found that cost nothing to change your life and you have so much to gain:
Serving others and your community (giving back)
Learning about Spirituality and Destiny
Look these up and see how they can help you. I spent much of my life as a volunteer (while working and raising kids) and it brought me greater joy than most areas of my life. When you give you also recieve. Now in later life, I am learning about Our Souls Journey and it has changed my life. I am not talking religion here instead I am talking about New Beginnings.

Please do not say "No one Cares". I CARE. I spend my life helping others and hope this helps you. If I can change one life I am empowered to save many more.

Please read these books right away. They can literally change your life (only if you allow it):

The Luck Factor by Dr. Richard Wiseman (fantastic book)

Soul Signs by Rosemary Althea (fantastic about relationships)

The Other Side and Back by Slyvia Browne (spiritual) (try it)

Discover Your Destiny with the monk who sold his Ferrari by Robin Sharma

One other tip. Many times you do not need meds but instead need unconventional help that is natural. Work on your diet and make sure is it pure, natural and well rounded. Take supplements. Certain herbs can also help and I strongly believe in oriental medicine such as accupuncture. Talk to hebalist, naturalists, homepathic docs, and persons at your local health food store. There are many remedies out there that are natural and cure some of the things you state above.
Also your problems can all be related to PMS. Women have fluctuating hormones and some like me have them worst than others. It can last all month long, honestly. Many women run to the doctor and he gives drugs that cure nothing and set you up for a roller coster ride. Natural is the way to go.

I hope some of this helps. And my best advice is study and learn and try different things until you find the answer to your success and happiness.

Good Luck

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I'm unhappy, an emotional mess, and suffer from major depression. How can l overcome this misery ?
I have been on many anti depressants like Avanza, Lexapro, Effexor, Zoloft and Zypreza, now l take none. My moods are like four seasons in one day. I cry for no reason and l get angry at friends and family at a drop of a hat. I'm maniplative at times and get frustrated when l dont get my way. I...

Answer 3

During my senior year of high school I suffered from major depression and also manic depression. Because of it I lost all my friends, almost lost my job, didn't go to school for months, couldnt concentrate and it felt like I was living in a box where no one cared. The problem with people thinking that they can help is that the majority of society has never gone through something like this so they don't know how they can really help even though they want to, its basically like watching a train wreck happening. Even alot of doctors don't know solutions for metal disorders. Just make sure you are going to a psychologist that specializes in the disorder that you were diagnosed with and for medicine if you go back on make sure to get them from the same psychologist and that they have knowledge of the particular medicines and what are effective for the disorder that you have. Outside advice is usually best gotten from people that are living with or have lived with a disorder too because they have actually experienced what can occur. For me it lasted about 3/4 of a year and then reaccurred a few years later lasting about 1/2 a year both times I took medicine that was prescribed by a psychologist and not a doctor. People care but its usually people that have lived it. Hope this can help a bit if you want more info you can email me at [e-mail]

Answer 4

Well, I think the first thing you have to do to overcome your misery is to accept that you need to be on medication and work with the doctor you are seeing. If you're not seeing a specialist, who in this case should be a psychiatrist(not psychologist), you probably should be.

I had to come to terms with this for myself a few years ago. Yes, I'm wired neurologically in such a way, that I had to accept that I'll most likely be on an SSRI(selective seritonin reuptake inhibitor) for the rest of my life. I'm thankful that these drugs are available today and I have a job that provides me with the insurance I need to see a psychiatrist and take my medicine. Without it, I'd be very limited in my ability to function, like getting out of bed and working with other people. And, I cannot drink alcohol.

I hope you will get back on your medication. You will feel much better and get along with others better as well. One thing to keep in mind is that anytime you start a new medication, you have to not only give it time to "kick in" but the time for your body to get adjusted to the new med as well. Minimum, three to four weeks. I cringe when I hear people who suffer from anxiety/depression talking about how they tried this drug or that drug for two or three days and then gave up on it because they didn't like the side effects or how it initially made them feel.

One other aspect of emotional illness and inbalance, you must develop your spiritual and prayer life. My best to you dear.

Answer 5

R we alone in this world? Yes we are coz we r scared of each other..and the worst of all is that we are scared of ourselves! I have been suffering from depression since i was 10 years old!Now i am 22years old..i have made lots of inner self inquiries! I tried to explain my feelings..why do i feel that now? why am i angry although there is nothing goin on, why am i crying now although there is no reason! Do u know what i have understood? We dont need a reason for everything..sometimes we burst for something that happened years ago, sometimes we burst due to our own thoughts... Do we need to find an excuse for our reactions all the time? If we do, we turn out to be crazy. Just let it happen girl! Do u know what i mean? If u realize that your reactions arent accordant to social behavior,then y do u that? try to answer this question for yourself!

As far as ur medication is concerned..they gonna help u thats for sure but try not to be reliant of them...But most of all..i think u should find a new doctor..at least that was my medication, a good doctor! A doctor that doesnt only hear but consult too

Answer 6

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Answer 8

You can overcome this. I'm 27 and I've been dealing with my emotional roller coaster for over 10 years now. I've taken all the medicines you named. I took myself off because I was too zombied to enjoy my 4 kids and family. I found out last summer that I have ADDHD; OCD; and I'm mild bi-polar. I've learned to cope. It's worth over coming it rather than disappointing yourself or your loved ones. If you'd like to have a friend to go through with, e-mail me sometimes at [e-mail].......Good luck and God Bless!

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Answer 9

We live in a place that is cold and lonely but also warm and accepting. You might benefit from surrounding yourself with people that accept you for who you are. You might try a support group for bi-polar and major depression sufferers that some are overcoming, people are in various stages of recovery.
Also, get a well woman exam and get your thyroid level checked. Sometimes an imbalance in hormones can wreak havoc.
See a different doctor until you find one you fit with OR stick with one you trust and practice facing the areas in your life that are difficult for you.
Hang in there. Find what is healing for you.

Answer 10

God bless you, and warm hugs always. I send this and that's what God sends for you. REally just talk to God out loud or in the silence of your own room, and ask for help and direction in your life, for peace of mind, and your soul. You may feel like the world is cold and lonely due to the depression, but with the people answering here, I don't see it that way. Bless you always, and know that you are loved even if we never met. Peace.