Is it normal for a person that's joined the military to become quite a bit more aggressive, swear more and basically act like they don't give a damn about everything? This person used to be KIND and NICE and now he's off the charts with attitude. Just wondering! :) No he was not in Iraq - but still has pulled some long hours. Is there that much stress going on or is this a rite of passage for a 21 yr. old guy? Thanks for all you do.
2006-12-17 13:33:35 · 14 answers · asked by Lake Lover 6 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
It despends on what job he has. I see with the maintainers for the jets tend to be a bit more hostile. Some are very grumpy because of the hours. Mechanics tend to swear a lot (human nature) A lot of people he might work with might have bad attitudes that are rubbing off on him or he's jsut trying to fit in. It's not the military, it's the people. Remember, we (military members) are humans. We are still people just like you or any other civilian. We go to work and then go home to our families (or whatever is at home).
Nothing to be too worried about. Just tell him that you don;t like his attitude.
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2006-12-17 15:29:09 · answer #1 · answered by ur a Dee Dee Dee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, it didn't change the way I speak. I choose not to curse and swear. I think that young adults that enter the military are still trying to find an identity and they just try to be a part of the crowd. Being 21 yrs. old, he is most definitely trying to find his identity. As far as the aggressiveness goes, he is probably still enjoys telling his battle stories of boot camp. And these can be greatly exaggerated from what I've seen. The military does instill confidence in their soldiers, but meekness and being humble is something that comes with time. Hang in there with him and good luck!
2006-12-17 21:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by jay r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I learned to swear quite proficiently as a young boy, long before I joined the military. I dunno, must have been where I came from. I do know that there were several men in my hometown that were veterans of both world wars and Korea, men that had fought on Guadelcanal and other such islands of paradise, they used a little blue language quite often. While I was in the military, I didn't notice any difference in language use, and my mode of tounge fit in quite readily. It has little to do with attitude, its a learned way of expressing one's self. Try working as a construction worker for a few years. However, it was well understood that that type of language should be kept in its place, and so most of us did, still do.
2006-12-18 02:30:33 · answer #3 · answered by TRAF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The military teaches you discipline and respect. I was in for 10yrs and all that swearing came from being around other people not from the military, but I watched myself around crowds. I only took that kind of tone with friends that I know would not get offended. So it isn't a "military thing" to swear and have an attitudes just a personal thing in my opinion.
2006-12-18 00:10:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just retired with 37 years from the military. There is a lot of bad mouthing in the military, particularly by the younger people. I am not sure if the military is to blame. I hear an awful lot of it on the street from high school aged kids, including the girls.
Personally, I tend to think that anyone who needs to embarrass himself (or herself) to that degree shouldn't be taken seriously. Cursing is a sign of being out of control. Maybe when people grow up, they are better able to express themselves.
2006-12-17 22:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by iraqisax 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a person enters the military (any branch) they go through a "conditioning" which subjects them to conform to the military way which is designed to make the unit perform as a team, that way when the times get rough, they will be able to function as a unit. when a person is in this environment they are exposed to others that are from different parts of the country and to those that may not have the same values that you instilled into your child. what you have to do to is set guide lines on what is to be tolerated in your house when he comes over, no if, ands, or buts.
he should be disciplined enough to show you that respect. and tell him from me that i am proud that he is serving in the greatest
military force in the world.
2006-12-17 21:59:03 · answer #6 · answered by barrbou214 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The swearing and attitude is not only in the military, its also all over the civilian world.
2006-12-17 21:36:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We swear and stuff so that our adrenaline is rushed and we feel that the situation is more urgent. This is why and how they adapt this swearing.
And yes there is alot of stress for you feel the need to go over to iraq and help.
2006-12-17 21:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by ForeverForgotten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its probably just the other guys rubbing off on him. I know a lot of people in the military and most of them are the same as they were before they were in.
2006-12-17 21:54:06 · answer #9 · answered by Curt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That returns to normal in time.
When I returned from Vietnam I didn't even call my g/f (now my wife of 43 years) for about 6 months. I was way to buisy learning how to have dinner without asking some one to "pass the f***ing butter"
2006-12-17 22:10:56 · answer #10 · answered by tom l 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋