I met a Marine recruiter online and we met in person and really seemed to hit it off, even sleeping together the second date. He told his teenage daughter that he met someone. Now, I haven't heard from him (either by e-mail or phone) in almost a month. However, he did send me an e-mail saying that he was too busy at work to date or have a social life He also said that he wasn't seeing anyone else. So now what? Are Marines emotional camels? I was taught if a man likes you, he's calling, etc. Will a focused Marine just shelf feelings for a woman for the sake of the Corps? I really like this guy and think he could be a keeper, but I don't know what to do next? Any suggestions on what I can do to distract him or what I can do to help him with his mission in order to spend time with him? Responses from military especially appreciated.
2006-12-17 13:18:31 · 12 answers · asked by teeheehee1969 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
What are you doing?
You just asked this same question yesterday...
Read the responses you got.
If you want to help him find out:
1. How many he's on for in December... todays' the 17th and NO ONE wants to join between Christmas and New Years.
2. What is his Grad/Senior Split. Go find them the malls or the schools depending on his answer.
3. Is he on for all Males or is he on for a Female? Call all your old boyfriends and hook them up with him... call your girlfriends and send them to the office.
4. Is he on for only active duty or does he need reservists? Get all the guys with decent jobs and get them interested in the reserves. Get the guy pumping gas on the corner and drag him to the office.
These are the things he is thinking about 10 hours a day. The other 6 is taking care of the kids waiting to go to boot camp. Don't think he's dodging you; it's not about you. If you were to drive by the office I bet he's there. Go early tomorrow, he'll be there. Go again late tomorrow, he'll be there. That's just the way it is. If you don't fit yourself into his schedule you will NEVER get to see him.
A friend of mine asked me how recruiting was my 5 month on the job. My answer was, "Dude, I'm too busy to drink."
2006-12-17 14:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by Top B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a dumb ***..
First of all you slept with him too soon, so it's your problem that are probably pregnant and is swarming with AIDS... Every women knows that you don't sleep with a man on the second date but wait till a year or hopefully more to make sure he isn't just wanting to get in your pants...
Second of all, not all Marines are like that.. Most of them will follow a strict code of moral ethical code.. Honor, Integrity, Respect, Commitment, etc... So he wouldn't be dating you in the first place and be committed to his work...
Third of all, if he has a teenage daughter.. Umm wow, maybe he is already married? So he just used you for lust if he isn't married...
Fourth of all, maybe he dumped to not because he is a Marine but because he had some other problems? Daughter not liking you? Threat of being fired from work? Etc...
Fifth of all, no you can not get a mission to spend more time with him unless you enlist and ask to be assigned to the same base as him or such.. But that's still rare.. Also stop trying to distract him, he isn't interested in you, and obviously he has a job he needs to do. Just forget about it and go for another man, a Marine, a Seamen, a Doctor, or what ever, just don't sleep with him on the second date..
Sixth of all, wow. Sorry but you don't ever sleep with a man on the second date.. You need time to separate the players from the real dudes, don't be a whore/slut...
By the way, try Family & Relationships --> Singles & Dating.. This doesn't have much to do with the military unless you're going to stereotype about Marines..
2006-12-17 15:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by Shadowfox 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes he would put the Corps before a woman he just met, even if you did hit it off. And keep in mind the life of a Military recruiter is a lot harder and busier then most people think. A lot of recruiters work around 70 hours a week.
2006-12-17 13:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by Curt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you: instead of stereotyping the emotional issues of Marines, call it like it is. There are some men out there, lots of men, who are scum and act this way. I'm saying this as a fiancee of a Marine, a sister to a Marine, and someone who has lots of good friends in the Marine Corps. Also keep in mind that any person who is very focused on their job or a task will often let other relationships or projects suffer as a result-- it's human nature, we aren't good at multi-tasking unfortunately. Don't lose hope in military men altogether though! There are good and bad ones just like there are good and bad men from every profession. This one in particular though sounds like a dud- I have heard lots of guys give the "I'm too busy to have a social life" talk whether they were in college, med school, military, or just working a regular 9-5 job. If someone is worth your time, they will give you theirs.
2006-12-17 20:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a former (woman) Marine, I can tell you this......LOL Stay away from dating any military man. He's just making up a line to keep you at bay til he "needs" you again.
Get the book "He's just not that in to you".....You put out too soon and he got what he wanted so now he has no use for you. Sorry, but it's just the truth.
Forget about him and move on.
2006-12-17 13:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by Pun 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the Navy and can tell you that military men are no different than other men, in the fact that they can be pigs towards women. The only difference that really stands out to me is that the excuses for being a jerk. "Oh baby, I can't see you because my unit is deploying" or my favorite "I'm being transferred" are very common. Sorry you got hurt, good luck fishing.
2006-12-18 05:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by lsu_74 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A) It's tough to have a relationship with a man
B) It's even more challenging with a military man
C) Keep all your options open and go about your life
2006-12-17 13:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
please. his being a Marine has squat to do with it. have you no self respect that you sleep with a man you barely know? at least tell me you used protection. and I don't mean the Pill.. many STDs are not prevented by birth control methods.
you were a piece of tail, nothing more.
2006-12-18 04:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
true hard core marines are already married, to the Corps
get used to playing 2nd fiddle
2006-12-17 13:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Do you really believe you are the only one?
2006-12-18 09:07:06 · answer #10 · answered by Bob 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋