My last relationship was going wonderful. I was doing everything that I knew to do to make him as happy as possible which made me happy as well. We were together for several months and I could tell that I was very loved. Then I noticed that after several more months that he was falling out of love with me, He just stopped being open and talkative with me and I didn't make an effort to talk to him when I noticed that he was shutting down. I don't know what I did wrong to make him close me out. It had nothing to do with any other women either. What's the best way for me to keep a mans attention on me to where this won't happen to me again. Should I try to call him to try to work things out with him or should I just leave it alone and move on? It's been a month since we both talked to each other.
2006-12-17 12:59:40 · 13 answers · asked by airtightreality 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You seem like the kind of girl that every good moral guy wants. I noticed that you said you were doing every thing you could to make him happy, relationships are not one sided, he should have been doing everything he new how to make you happy as well. This guy in my opinion just doesn't appreciate you at all. You should never have to struggle to keep a guy's attention in a relationship, and if you do the guy needs to much maintenance. You need to find someone who will do everything he knows to do to make you happy and vise versa. This guy is a blind guy who will probably never realize the gift he had....wait for someone better and I assure you there is. Never participate in a one sided relationship. You dont give attention and do everything you know to do for a guy because you have to, you do it because you want to and because he does it too. I'm a guy and I'm smart enough to know this....and have had experience. You'll be a great catch, but wait for the person who actually notices and appreciates you for who you are. You should never lower or degrade yourself to make someone else happy, or to keep from loosing someone. The one that is for you will fit like a custom made glove just for you, and you for him. Another thing....DON'T GET IN A HURRY!!!!! this is a major flaw in relationships, people get in a hurry and have to lower their standers and expectations to get someone they were never suppose to get. REMEMBER: if you have to lower and degrade yourself in anyway it not the right relationship for you. The guy for you will see you as a rare delicate flower, and will give and not take.
2006-12-17 13:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by Guru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the world happened? Something happened. Please don't say that your relationship was based on sex. If it was then you have a problem. If you were doing everything, then the sex slowed or got boring to him, then that's your problem.
Why would you not ask questions when you knew he was changing? It will be difficult for you to gain that relationship now that a month has passed by. Separation and distance is hard when a woman is not the one who has made that distance.
Do you know if he has begun seeing someone else? Most likely, but try. Give him a call and feel him out. If he is cold and distant, don't push. Move on...
Be kind to yourself and don't hold a torch.
There are other men...and begin your relationship slowly. Make him wait a little while before sex begins. Allow him to do a few things to make you happy first. Try that and see if things work a little better.
Good luck!
2006-12-17 21:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kokomira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have done everything for him and he still leaves, then there is nothing else you can do. Why would you want someone back that doesn't really want you? Don't waste your time contacting this guy. This happens. That means you find someone else. Don't grieve over what you did or he didn't do. Just be yourself and quit this, "What can I do to make him happy," kind of attitude. It should be, "What can he do to make you happy." A long relationship is give and take on BOTH sides. Not just one side only. Your young and you have time to learn this. So enjoy other relationships and don't stress out so much on being perfect. Some succeed and some don't. Doesn't mean your a bad person in the relationship. Just move on and be happy.
2006-12-17 21:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First mistake putting everything you got into a man. He probably felt smothered and overwelmed. When starting a relationship remember you are still you with a life you knew before him don't lose that. Some women dis everything they have when they get a man. That man can already see you are clinging to much towards the relationship. Relax, have fun, Give yourself time to miss him and his sexy voice. Do you and when you see him you can do him. I would let the other guy call me if he wanted to get back go on and work on you and a man will see that you don't need him you want him. Don't try to change them and don't change yourself. People tent to say got them know I can be me, but you should have been yourself from the get go. How you get them you must maintain
2006-12-17 21:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr. said super glue.
I say change yourself to meet what this other guy wants. Change the way you walk talk and think and what you look like. You need to do this often though.
Basically it is selling your soul.
Otherwise take the time and find a guy who loves you for you. People change and grow. This is a part of life. You need to find that one out there who will want to grow with you. It is hard work to find this person!!
I wish you all the luck in the world as to which you will choose...
2006-12-17 21:05:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people tend to get tired after having (even) too much of a good thing. This happens to almost everyone tho some sooner than others. Move on and if you do get back together, then assess the situation and decide whether it'd be worth continuing by then.
2006-12-17 21:05:26 · answer #6 · answered by PikC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to hold on to one man forever is to not hold it against him for other men's mistakes from the past. Another way is to be the best woman you can be and make good choices in a man that will have the same value system as you.
2006-12-17 21:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by WDS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dating is supposed to help you know each other in the long run. if it is a whirlwind relationship then you are both short of much data and it will surely fail.
you know a friend because that person knows everything about you and still likes you. would you expect any less from a lifetime partner?
2006-12-17 21:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that there is a costume party. (there is none) and beg him to go as a woman. Dress him up real pretty with lingerie a dress and makeup and even a wig. Chances are he will love it Do this periodically for him.
2006-12-17 21:03:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just keep changing things men get bored easily just keep everything interesting cause i just took my boyfriend out on a date we went to this indoor rock climbing place but he had to sit in the car blindfolded the whole time he thought it was really funny and exciting
2006-12-17 21:06:54 · answer #10 · answered by Mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋