My daughter is married to a man that is very controlling and has many problems. Not wanting to work. Anger issues. Won't keep a satisfactory roof over her head. A constant liar.
My husband and I don't understand why she would stay in this. They have a 3 month old son that we worry about. We don't even want to see him, as he as threatened me, and her two sisters with violence. Now my daughter won't let me see my grandchildren, since we have said that we feel we shouldn't be around him.
We are only trying to not have anymore conflict with this man.
What should we do? We are trying to give a Christian outlook to this.
2006-12-17 12:58:35 · 16 answers · asked by 2ndchhapteracts 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I just read your blog and It was terrific and God bless you Sister , These type of guys are usually cowards on the inside and the best that I can say to you is pray that you can somehow get him into a church that has the Laying on of hands by a mighty man of God ,It might get ugly for while but he can be set free from this ,Jesus talked about certain things only happen by prayer and fasting and this may be one of them , Sometimes we have to wash are Hands of some people and that is hard to do but when we stand back and trust God thats when he starts to move in peoples lifes ,God Bless you and Stand on the Blood Of Christ for his deliverance
2006-12-17 13:12:05 · answer #1 · answered by Terry S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should we do? We are trying to give a Christian outlook to this.
A Christian outlook? This may be hard to swallow but you said it in the first line.
"My daughter is married to a man that is very controlling and has many problems"
Ok so you you want a Christian perspective then here it is. Look at it in GOD's eyes. He is your son. He has some problems but there is hope. If it was your daughter that had the problems I am sure you would think differently about it. This does not make it right but you asked for a Christian outlook.
2006-12-17 21:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by Bye Bye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be staying because she is afraid of what would happen if she tried to leave. It is quite common in abusive relationships.
Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do unless a crime is committed against your daughter or the baby. It's sad that she won't let you see the baby. I hope you recognize this as her rather immature attempt to manipulate you.
Prayer has been known to bring peace to such situations. You may also wish to consult your clergy for support.
My husband's sister was in a similar situation for many years. She finally wised up and divorced him but is currently involved with a new man who is just as controlling, although at least he doesn't beat her up like the first guy did. At family gatherings, I practice the time-honored tradition of shunning the undesirable man. It's easy enough to keep busy talking with other family members or playing with the children.
Hope this helps.
2006-12-17 21:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by not yet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to be able to see your grandchildren and to make sure that they are well and being treated right you must make peace, and unfortunately grin and bare the son in law. Have you offered your daughter to come back home if she needs to? Show her that your door as well as your heart is always open. Privately express to her your concerns without sounding like your angry, but letting her know that she and the grandchild are welcomed always. If the son in law has expressed violence then that is a major concern and some authority should be contacted. In the event your daughter comes home to you, contact the proper authorities that her husband has expressed violence and that you are afraid for your safety as well as your daughters and grandchild's. Keep praying and I will too.
2006-12-17 21:12:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter has made a decision and you must live with it. I know it must hurt you and your husband because of your grandchildren and the fact that your daughter is doing this. All you can do is wait it out and see what happens. Prayer is a powerful thing. That is your best option now.
2006-12-17 21:09:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of coarse pray.
One thing that came to my mind. Does your son in law have anybody that he respects? Maybe a uncle or grandmother that can talk some sense to him and he would listen too.
The other thought you are not going to like. That is tough love. Let them both do their thing without any of your involvement, no matter what. Ever read about the Prodical Son?
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2006-12-17 21:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your daughter also a christian? If she is, then she should just trust God. As long as we trust Him, and don't give up, he'll never leave us and will always be in our corner. If the guy is not working, then I'm sure your daughter will eventually get tired of it and handle it the correct way.
2006-12-17 21:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by Unshaken Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. Unless laws are broken and authorities can get involved--I think the best answer would come from being on your knees before God. We Christians responding to this question will pray right now as well. God bless...
2006-12-17 21:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by bonsai bobby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep in contact with her. Be a friend to her.As a friend all you can do is be loving and suggest for the best. Usually the more the parents try to push two people "in love" apart,the closer the kids get.
2006-12-17 21:04:21 · answer #9 · answered by Myaloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son-in-law sounds like he has a personality disorder...probably something in cluster B. Look up "anti-social disorder" and "explosive personality disorder". You'll probably see a lot of familiar things there.
After you read that, ask yourself why your daughter would stay with someone like that....then go from there.
2006-12-17 21:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by Samurai Jack 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋