we have had problems with my step son who is 5 doing inapropriate things to my girls 5 and 3. we confronted her before over this and she decided to turn us in before we turned her in. well she got cought in a lie and is going through court for false report of a offense. this weekend i caught him doing things again and i am getting very annoyed with this. what do you think i should do. i know his mom has been caught screwing around with guys with the kid in the same room. but the stuff he says and does looks like he's been watching porn! should i confront her or turn her in to dcfs. with all the court stuff going on i don't want to screw things up. she needs to pay for what she did to us and i don't want to make it seem like i am getting her back for doing it to us but i do have a reason to report her right?
2006-12-17 12:11:56 · 11 answers · asked by jen31 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
its very hard to seperate them we live in a two story house and the bedrooms are upstairs. and he has visitation rights that are every other weekend he works all kinds of hours and i have three girls of my own to take care of 1 being a 5 mo old i can't be everywhere at the same time so i rely on my oldest to tell me what's going on. and i talk to them all the time about inapropriate touching.
2006-12-17 12:20:09 · update #1
also my husband was a victim of molestation when he was younger. he is very angry at the boy when he does this. but his mom lets him do whatever he wants and the kid doesnt care how much trouble he gets into. if he keeps this up he's gonna end up in juvy they already want to kick him out of k-g. she has no control of him and he lives with her so there is only so much we can do with him. she does have him in counsling they both go and they know how to play the systm and tell the dr. what she wants to hear she coaches him couse my husband used to go with them when they first seperated.
2006-12-17 12:43:33 · update #2
another thing is that if she goes to jail for her false offense then we will have permnet custody of the boy
2006-12-17 13:54:03 · update #3
First off, yes, turn her in. She has really screwed that poor kid up. And maybe, just maybe, if you guys got custody the kid may do awhole lot better. not at first, but down the road. Give it a try.
2006-12-17 14:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sqeekers 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Instead of trying to drag each other into a bunch of useless court room drama....deal with the kids. This is just kids being kids and they are naturally curious about naughty little things. Parents are constantly shocked and automatically think the worst in these situations but the ugly truth is kids are very sexually curious and learn a lot of stuff from TV etc....your main concern should be making the children behave appropriately and get her in on it too.
good luck
2006-12-17 12:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by Enigma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm a step mom besides, My step daughter is 9 and her mom died many years in the past, and she or he not in any respect had a relationship inclusive of her mom. I married her father very last twelve months and she or he calls me Mrs My call!! which i hate a lot. i imagine a baby could call there step figure mommy then there call. i do not see a difficulty with that. If the youngster is gentle with mom then that could be it. i am going to work out the position the delivery mom may experience some how, in spite of the undeniable fact that it truly is about the youngster..
2016-11-27 01:01:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to do whats best for your kids regardless of what that is there is no take backs fo things even if you love your husband you job first and formost is to your daughters as i said there is no undoing things once they re done maybe taking major action such as leaving for a while would get your husband to realize the severity of the situation and get his son some help that's a shitty situation and I'm sorry for you and your family that has gotta be rough but do whats right for your kids you have to provide them with a safe enviorment otherwise you would also be to blame so yes i would say something
2006-12-17 18:51:08 · answer #4 · answered by colston5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the kid away from you daughters and if this is not possible then never let them be unsupervised. Make the choice to keep your daughters safe. Your husband will have to understand your need to protect your children. Suggest that he get the boy some counseling right away.
2006-12-17 12:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by micg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn in and get help as soon as possible.
In over 100 large communities in the US, there are orgs called SCAN for Stop Child Abuse Now. SCAN provides free help, even to the point of providing free transportation to and from their locations.
A lot of the people serving time in prison were abused as kids. They grow up having a hard time relating to, and caring for, other people.
2006-12-17 14:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by John Hightower 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sticky situation. what's the dad say about all this?
I would call protective services and explain what's going on, so they can investigate. if this continues, the child will become a molester. I don't envy you at all.
2006-12-17 12:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you realize you could be arrested for not protecting your children from a future pedophile.If daddy wants to see his son let him go over there but first report the mother to cps something is not right in her home.
2006-12-17 13:23:01 · answer #8 · answered by preciousbabe1 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I turned my sister-in-law for child abuse and neglect.
It's been 6 years I have not spoken to that *****.
I went to their house and took my nephew away and is now living with us.
2006-12-18 02:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY ADVICE IS TO KEEP CLOSE WATCH ON THIS KIDS DONT SUGGEST SUCLUDING HIM FROM THE OTHERS OR MAKING HIM FEEL BAD FOR WHAT HES DOING HE IS DOING WRONG AND YOU CARE ABOUT YOUR GIRLS BUT PUSHING HIM AWAY IS ONLY GOING TO MAKE HIM WORSE TELL HIS MOM AND IF SHE WONT HELP THEN YEA CALL SEVICES AND ASK FOR THEIR ADVICE
2006-12-17 12:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by ibebarbie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋