I was in an abusive relationship and I know that the person I was with does it again and again. How can I warn the girl he's with now what he's like? I know she has a MySpace account but they also live together and they may read each other's email. She just had a baby with him and I'm afraid for their safety.
Please note that I was not able to press charges against him as I had no proof other than my word against his.
2006-12-17 12:06:35 · 6 answers · asked by penpallermel 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Edit: Our relationship was several years ago so I didn't just get out of one. However, I've been harassed by his friends to the point where I can't even go back to my hometown and see certain people. It's been very hard living with this knowledge that he could hurt someone very badly.
Thank you everyone for your responses. I appreciate your advice.
2006-12-17 12:15:13 · update #1
I'm not sure what method you may have to find and communicate with this Woman. No matter. Just do it. Find her email, phone number, address, place of work, whatever you have to do. NOW. The only important thing here is this woman's safety. Do not worry how to tell her, just tell her. Leave nothing out. She may not believe you at first. She may think you are making it up. No matter. Her safety MUST come first. Just tell her no matter however you must do it. Don't sugarcoat anything. Just tell her.
2006-12-17 12:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by clueless_nerd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately that is something someone has to learn the hard way. Really if she has a baby with him she probably already knows how he is. If you can not sleep at night and have a gut feeling that yes you should go with your intuition and send her a short message.
2006-12-17 20:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by pyt_tlc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think unfortunately this is something she will need to find out for herself. She already has a child with him so it may not be that easy for her to leave him. Chances are that if he is abusive, she already knows from personal experience. It is up to her to leave the situation ASAP for her sake and her child's sake as well. Just be thankful that you got away from him and hopefully she will be able to get away from him too before it's too late.
2006-12-17 20:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by dmc81076 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest as much as it is a bad situation, if she has already had his child then she would know by now he is abusive. It is probably best to stay out of their lives. It doesnt matter what you say to her if she has not left by now nothing you say will make her.
2006-12-17 20:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want him to know that you sent it, go in and temporarily create a false myspace account and send her a message that way.
2006-12-17 20:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by lovinmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there is anything you can do, If you tell her she might just think that you are jealous that he is with her now. The best thing to do is to be glad you are no longer with him and move on. Mean while pray that he doesnt do it to her and if he does that she leave him.
2006-12-17 20:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by nease174 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋