Not too long ago, I went on a first date with a guy I just met (we are both in our early twenties). We had dinner in this diner. Right next our table was another table with two older men in it, and my date and I started casually talking to them and were friendly. In the midst of it all, I excused myself to go to the restroom.
The dinner progressed even longer (and my date and I talked a lot) and he told me that when I was walking to the restroom, the two older men (who I am not even remotely attracted to, to say the least!) were checking me out. My date told me that he got very jealous (yes he said the word "jealous") and that he told the older men that I was his girlfriend even though we are not a couple. He was just jealous of them merely looking at me.
I want to know if this is a really, really bad sign and please keep in mind that this was a first date!
2006-12-17 12:04:39 · 27 answers · asked by purringout 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also recently he got really angry when he found out that I had a best friend (who I've known since I was 7 years old) who was a male. And my best friend and I are too brother-sisterly like to even consider, um, being with each other, if you know what I mean.
Thank you for your posts!
2006-12-17 12:10:43 · update #1
Girl run, If he can't take a guy saying hello to you and it's only your first date he will eventually try to kill or control you. Or he is lying to try and make himself look good to you and that is also a bad sign.
2006-12-17 12:07:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he gets angry that easy to may want to reconsider going out with him again. To be a little jealous is one thing, but to get angry and jealous especially on a first date is a liitle odd. On the other hand, he may have felt that the older men were being disrespectful of you and that's why he said what he did. Just trying to look at all the options. Go with your gut instinct...if it tells you somethings not right, then listen to yourself!
2006-12-17 12:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 pink flags right here, yet neither of them is what you wrote approximately. (a million) you're TEXTING as a substitute of conversing to a minimum of one yet another. close the f'ing machines off, and learn how to speak to a minimum of one yet another, head to head. forget approximately approximately texting. learn how to speak, seem the different individual interior the eyes. once you are trying this you are going to discover in the event that they're mendacity or no longer. (2) you have have been given all this emphasis on texts and "his chum advised him to try this", and all that crap. This tutor which you're too youthful and too immature to additionally be thinking approximately relationships. basically stay acquaintances -- no longer something extra. acquaintances consistently paintings out. that's once you attempt, at too youthful an age, to be "extra beneficial than acquaintances" that issues fail and persons get harm.
2016-10-05 10:44:34 · answer #3 · answered by schnetter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually it doesn't sound as if he was jealous at all. He probably figured that you might be offended knowing an old man had the hots for you so he told them you were his girlfriend to keep them from perhaps making some nasty remark to you. He was defending your honor, you should be THANKING him.
2006-12-17 12:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.. thats really interesting story actually haha.
well there are 2 things this could mean:
thing 1) yes, he is an easily jealous person, which is a MAJOR red flag. such easy and intence jealousy will lead to fights, arguments, secrets, soo many bad things.
thing 2) he was just worried for you, and the fact that older men were checking you out. GOOD flag, but idk id be wary
2006-12-17 12:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by danafactor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it is not the worst thing. it is defanantly an early warning sign that he may be possessive and controlling. He may also feel threateded and insecure. If that is the only thing he has done to that you are worried about it isn't terrible. It is quite rediculous though.
2006-12-17 12:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by Ben 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him alot. Listen for warning signs like him cross questioning you about your male friends. Insecurity can be dangerous and even deadly depending on the degree. If it feels wrong it is..
2006-12-17 12:10:27 · answer #7 · answered by Catherine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a relationship with a possessive man, he's your guy. However, he may end up being a little more controlling in your future, and if that would make you uncomfortable, stop dating him now!
2006-12-17 12:09:30 · answer #8 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is quite common in guys. I wouldn't worry about it too much. Only start to worry if he starts questioning what you're doing whenever you're going to meet a male friend or even tries to stop you seeing them.
2006-12-17 12:07:43 · answer #9 · answered by Tom :: Athier than Thou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your getting red flags popping up around this guy, then go with your instincts. Use your insight, and trust it. It will never let you down, I promise. Unless you like that over protective, possessive, jealous type......lose him.
2006-12-17 12:08:27 · answer #10 · answered by frigidx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋