Im 19 male and very lonley, ive always been a little lonley but more than ever.. I see my family relatives most days with bordem. I find it hard to make friends and get respect. The small amount I did have didnt respect me enougth and have dispeared or not in touch often - some were users..
I dont have a job and I have acne and other problems which will maybe not help getting new friends but I just cant hack socialising atm - please help!!
Thanks
2006-12-17 12:04:12 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relax.
You sound like a nice guy- life rarely f***s nice guys over.
I know exactly where you're coming from buddy. Try getting involved with some internet forums on subjects that interest you - sports, music, whatever - it's a great place to meet people without feeling the pressure of actually "meeting" them, which I was never a fan of either.
2006-12-17 12:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by L-Train 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As it gets closer to Christmas time, everyone who is single starts to get lonely, as all people see everywhere is couples walking down the street or everyone talking about their boyfriends/girlfriends, don't worry about it people come along in there own time. Friends come along too, so your telling me that you haven't got any friends at all!! I think not, Haha.
Go out and look for a job you will feel better as your getting out their, also in your workplace you may find that some of your colleagues will become close friends, then you will be socialising.
Good luck with the future and Merry Christmas And A happy New Year!
2006-12-18 14:49:29 · answer #2 · answered by ×ღ Stacie ღ× 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are very worried about your acne go to the doctors as they can give you pills to help sort that out my nephew suffers from bad acne and these pills have really cleared it up.
Also you really need to get a job, if you are not qualified for anything in particular then maybe go for a labourers job these men will take the mick out of you something chronic they wont mean it it is just how they are but it will help you be able to mix with people and will give you confidence.
My brother was a very shy and timid man he started working for EDF and now he has allot more confidence he is still a nice well mannered man but has the respect of other men and has loads of friends now
2006-12-18 04:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by Peachy Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about your problems. The first thing you should do is write out all of your worries. This will be traumatic, probably. Once done, write out how you intend on solving each problem. If you can't think of a solution, look on the internet, speak to family, visit a doctor. Then write out when you think each problem will be solved. Say two months for finding a job, three for curing acne, whatever. Then look at it all and you'll see that by your next birthday you may have completely solved them all, or it may take longer.
Then write down everything you are thankful for: family, your health, your intelligence, etc.
The worst thing about you situation is you naturally worry about them, which then prevents you from moving on. By writing everything down you get it all out and can mentally control it.
Oh, and acne can be cured. Ask your doctor.
Good luck, and remember that there are always people on Yahoo Answers who can reply to your questions. You are never lonely when we are all here.
2006-12-18 06:55:55 · answer #4 · answered by CTU 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This hasn't got anything with the way you look, its all about the way you feel.The most important thing is to feel good about yourself and only you can achieve that although you can take some counselling if you have got money to spare. At your age ,one of the best way to interract would be to join a sport centre if you are into sport, or going out more (Which i dont think work).Most ppl sociolise with people they have the same interest or people they work with, so it's kinda of 2 choices you are left with.The best possible way to make friends if you not into sport would be by takin a job.PS: feel good about yourself because if you dont appreciate yourself no one else will and we all dont look like Jude law or Brad Pitt, gud luck
2006-12-17 23:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by supaniggaz101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand who you are and first have respect for your self to build your confidence, find a goal and a target in your life and everything else will follow, life is all about ups and downs but you just got to learn to move on, dont let people bring you down if its not for your own good, stop bieng hard on yourself becuase your only young once, eveyone will pass the stage your at now and most people have acne in there teens.
1 life 1 chance, good luck
2006-12-17 20:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by Abbas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry...lonliness sucks and i wish I could get together all the lonely people of the world and bring them together.
By making positive changes in your life, ie getting a job, fixing the acne, maybe going to college, not onlywill you feel better about yourself, but that will shine through and you will start attracting new friends. Just be yourself and worry about making yourself happy...and I promise, the rest will follow shortly.
2006-12-17 20:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh get a life!! these are not the things to show that you are lonely. You seem to be a very self-absorbed person. Mingle first with the family and then brush up on your skills. Once you have achieved this there should be no problem with the outside world.
2006-12-17 20:10:59 · answer #8 · answered by idfg 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Loneliness...is something we all experience infinite times all throughout our lives. It's a feeling that no matter what or who you have can still be present and you can't help it.
It is an inner feeling therefore external sources can't always redeem it. Search your soul and see what is missing and when you do work on finding how to make it better.
In the end we all need something....Good luck!
2006-12-17 20:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by shygal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are a young man with your whole life in front of you.
You have family around you, so how can you be lonely?
You have security. you live in an affluent, free country. You should be thankful for what you have got.
Lecture over, so go out there are start living your life!
2006-12-17 20:16:24 · answer #10 · answered by bluenose 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋