2006-12-17 11:35:54 · 12 answers · asked by Dot B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What does who do? If your brother is 21 he is old enough to have a job and be a contributing member of society. He sounds like he wants to be a perpetual teenager by messing things up for everyone.
Your dad did him a favor by forcing him to sink or swim. It's your brothers choice whether to grow up or not but the rest of the family shouldnt have to suffer by your brothers bad choices.
2006-12-17 11:39:33 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dot: This is referred to as "kick starting" an individual. Your Dad has been patient for 21 years and he is doing your brother a service ... but your brother doesn't know it yet ! Later on in life, your bro and Dad will hit it off once again and this experience will no longer be the big deal it is now. Sometimes, change is painful and the only thing which is permanent is change ! With family, there is a "pecking order" ... Dad, mom, first-born, etc., etc, and Dad has to preserve the hierarchy of the family ( or mom will beat on him - just kidding !) !
2006-12-17 19:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother needs to learn how to be the adult that he is. He made his bed, now he has to lie in it. Your brother has to hit bottom. Your father probably thought he had no other choice. If I had to guess, I would say your brother probably does not hold a job for any length of time. What little money he does have, does not go for helping with feeding or clothing him, it goes for whatever pleasure he wants at the time. Probably did not finish school, or if he did, was a constant struggle with your brother not wanting to do what he was supposed to do. How close am I? Respect your father's choice but be there for your brother when he realizes that he did not have it so hard at home.
2006-12-17 19:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not getting the answers you want to hear are you. I don't have the answer either but you sound like you could use a rap. You have to side with your Dad in one respect because your Dad is the homemaker and when the home is disrupted the boss has to take charge. On the other hand, there is no other hand. Is there. If you can help your brother get his act together then do so. Be careful he doesn't drag you down with him. But keep smiling my friend. Smiling makes all those around you feel good. and that makes you feel good. Christmas
2006-12-17 19:43:24 · answer #4 · answered by veerfish 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why is a 21 year old male living at home with his parents?
2006-12-17 19:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by jack w 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to shun your brother for his mistakes, whatever they may be. Your dad has done all he can do, and if he is tired and fed up, he should just let go and let God handle the situation. Whatever is meant to be will happen, and you must ultimately accept it. God Bless!
2006-12-17 19:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Miss Brittany ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's called tough love. at the age of 21 your bro should know right from wrong. if he makes bad choices and is living under you dad's roof, your dad has every right to tell him to get out and tell him to make what he wants out of his life - but, you are not going to destroy the sanity of this household. clean your act up and you are more than welcome to come home. but i will not stand by and see you destroy everything that we tried to do to make you a healthy individual. grow up.
2006-12-17 19:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your brother needs to grow up and realize not everyone is going to put up with his bs
2006-12-17 19:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dad is enabling yor brother. it's time for him to go. everyone will be better off includihng your brother. he'll learn to respect your dad more on his own. it's called tough love
2006-12-17 19:41:05 · answer #9 · answered by tomlin12002 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOUR DAD IS GIVING SOME TOUGH LOVE, HE HAS EVERY RIGHT TO DO THIS. AT 21, IT'S PAST TIME FOR YOUR BROTHER TO SHAPE UP. ENOUGH SAID!!!!!
2006-12-17 19:41:01 · answer #10 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋