my girl is having a baby but i wasn't really to be a father what should i do
2006-12-17 11:34:22 · 13 answers · asked by LILTAY 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Get over yourself. You had the fun of sex. Time to own up to what you did. You both created a life. Its up to you to see that your child is raised with a daddy in its life. Don't you want that for your child? Don't you want that baby to have 2 parents that care more about him or her than themselves? Parenting isn't always easy, but that kid is yours. Step up and do the right thing. That innocent child needs both its parents. I'm not saying you have to marry her. But you do need to be an active, positive influence in your baby's life.
2006-12-17 11:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by Velken 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be harsh, but maybe that is something you should have remembered before you had sex! Now, you need to step up and be a man. Don't turn away from your girlfriend, she is going through way more than you are believe me! Stand by her and help her with ANYTHING she needs(be it emotional, mental, physical, financial support) This is your baby too. Don't make her go through this alone!
2006-12-17 19:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some books on good parenting-anything by James Dobson-on audio if you have to.
Become well informed so that you are prepared to handle it well, and you will become more excited about it as your confidence improves.
Call 1-800-a family & ask for his books and other ones they would reccomend.
You will find them amazingly helpful, supportive, and genuine.
Do this now , together, and begin to take good care of your little family regardless of how it came about in terms of timing.
Take good care of yourself and your girl, and Merry Christmas to all 3 of you!
2006-12-17 19:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by gettin'real 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think she was ready to be a mother? Reflect on that and do the responsible thing. Get together and decide whats best, for the child and the two of you. Whatever the plan, do your share.
2006-12-17 19:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by Faerie loue 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sad to hear this but you need to take responsibility. If you were to look at at the positive side of parenting, you may find joys when the child is borned. Joys that monies can't buy. Be positive!
2006-12-17 19:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
tuff mate - time to grow up - baby isnt a car, you cant just sell it.
but i tell you what, dont you dare become some deadbeat dad who ditches his girlfriend when things get tuff, you stick with her, you help her and you support her.
you be a dad, time for you to stop being a boy and start being a man, a man doesnt run
2006-12-17 19:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should've thought of that before you had sex with her. It's too late to do anything about it now. If she chooses to keep it, you are responsible for the child. Whether you are ready or not.
2006-12-17 19:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by ksueditz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
SORRY BUT THINKING NOW ABOUT NOT WANTING TO BE A FATHER IS TO LATE YOU HAD THE SEX WITHOUT THINKING WHAT COULD HAPPEN NOW YOU MUST STEP UP AND TAKE RESPONSABILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS
2006-12-17 19:38:57 · answer #8 · answered by ibebarbie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You probably needed to think about this before you got your girl pregnant but buy some condoms!!!
2006-12-17 21:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by mommy of two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for the two points.
I'm going to suggest this though. Grow up, and be a man. If you're old enough to have sex, you're old enough to take responsibility for your actions. The world is ridiculously full of idiots like you, and I'm getting sick of it.
2006-12-17 20:36:36 · answer #10 · answered by Annamarie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋