Curfew.. 17 yr old in college.?

Question

wondeirng what a curfew for a 17 yr old college student. he has done very well in his first semester. he also playes JR.B hockey with guys that go down to the bars. my son does go down with them and has never found himself in a situation he cant handle. he has payed for his own car and insurance gas... pretty much living on his own with us helping with food and shelter. He also has a girl friend who is 19 and she does not have a curfew. he has been not coming home latly sleeping over at her house. and goin to the bars more often. he turns 18 on the 31s of december. i might add that he does handle himself like a more mature 17 yr old.. he has always been the youngest in everything he has done being born on dec 31st. what do you people feel i should do. right now i have it set to 1 am and he feels he cant do anything with it because he gets home from hockey at 11 and by the time he gets out with his friends it already 12.... am i just having trouble letting go of my Baby...

Answer 1

Curfew? You did say he's in college. You have to let go and trust that you raised him to make good sound decisions. As long as he's respectful to you and your household, give him some leeway. Maybe you should ask him to tell you when he's going out instead of him just leaving. I hate it when people just up and leave. It's unsafe and rude.

Answer 2

You can start letting go but not do without the curfew entirely. What about letting him out later if he and his friends have a specific destination in mind that you approve of. Have him call when he is leaving or give him a later curfew. Know where he is going, how long it takes to get home from where he is and a phone number to check if you feel like you need to. You say he has a curfew but then you say he does not come home some nights but stays over at his girlfriends. I would have a bigger problem with that than I would extending his curfew time.

Answer 3

If he is all you say then he should not have a curfew. I stopped a curfew with my children when they graduated from high school but told them that I would hope they would act as mature adults and let their father and I know where they would be and what time they expected to be home. If they were going to be late, they always called. It is hard to cut the umbilical cord but maybe you could just fray it a bit.

Answer 4

Wait until you're 18? or attempt to compromise with your mom... If she dosn't budge you have a quick wait and be grateful. At 17 i substitute into no longer allowed to pass away the abode previous 5pm (I even have extremely extremely strict Asian mothers and fathers). i'm 20 now and residing remote from abode, and whilst i pass to my mothers and fathers abode for the weekend they do no longer choose me leaving the abode even interior the night nonetheless...in spite of the undeniable fact that it particularly is their abode and their regulations once I stay over.

Answer 5

Well he is in college and basicly living on his own, meaning that he is independant. And if you think he is resposable take away the cerfew and just ask him to call and check in so u know hes ok, because one day he is going to move out and be on his own.

Answer 6

sounds like you've done an amazing job with everything he's done. you've got to let go a bit and let him be his own man. most importantly, tell him whenever he's in a situation, to never hesitate in calling. he sounds like a stand-up young man, have no worries. he knows what hes doing.

Answer 7

i know its hard to let go but he really isn't leaving. since hes responsible let him stay out ., and if he sleeps by his girlfriend or friends house. ask him to call and let you know so that you don't worry. i had to be in the house at 9. and i was 18.

Answer 8

Still living at home and your not paying rent whatever your parents tell you it is.