I think my heart has just fully broke but you need to hear the full story. I met this guy about 6 months ago and I just instantly liked him and I really got the impression he liked me, he's quite shy though. Now one of his friends really likes me but Im not interested in him. The guy I like though told me nothing can happen with us because his mate is so head over heels for me. I accepted this then. So anyway, I was out last night and I bumped into the guy I like and we chatted the whole night and it just all came back to me again, and I really really like him, Ive never felt this way about anyone. So he told me to text him so I did and I thought I may as wlel make a move, so I asked him if he would like to go out sometime and he said yes and I asked him maybe we could go out for a drink and he replied saying "yes but just as friends yeh?". Im devestated. All his mates say he likes me but that hes just to shy, I really thought so too. Any advice would be appreciated.
2006-12-17 10:26:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I started reading but lost interest as soon as you said "you need to hear the full story" sorry but all the teenage girls ask this same question, why dont you just read some of the previous questions, yawn..
2006-12-17 10:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by Thornsey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he says nothing could happen between you both because of his friends feelings for you then he should not be going out with you at all because if he really does like you then neither of you would be able to resist temptation when you were together.
To be honest with you i don't think love can grow in just 6 months and i truly doubt your heart is broken but if you believe you love this guy then talk it out with him and really get both of your feelings out on the table.
If you cant do that then the best thing would be to cut him and is mixing friends out of your life for good, its the only way you will heal.
Good luck xxx
2006-12-17 10:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its probably awkward for him because one of his friends likes you and if he were to go ahead and go out with you as bf/gf then he's prbably scared that he'll lose his friend. I say that you go persistently with this one, don't give up on him. tell him that you have no feelings whatsoever with his friend and that you want to be with him, saying these straight usually is your best bet. cause then everything is out in the open and no-one is hiding anything from anyone. I just think that he's scared of what the outcome may be with his friend, but don't lose this chance, it could be love. If he still has no interest in being together after your deep conversation, then maybe he truly just wants to be friends, but i personally think that he does really like you and is just a very shy guy. i wish you the best of luck!! =)
2006-12-17 10:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard situation for you. I suggest that you come right out and tell him how you feel and then tell him that it is not his friend you are interested in. You want to pursue a deeper relationship with him and for him to grow up and make a choice. He won't be shy forever!! If he still persists in following the path that he is currently on...MOVE ON GAL! There will be a guy out there who will be able to meet your needs.
2006-12-17 11:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by idfg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know you like him and not his friend.
With that out of the way you can be his friend if that's what YOU want.
Hang out for drinks if you want but he will have to deal with it when a cute guy comes along and steals you away for the evening... That's what friends do.
Or... you could tell him you have enough friends.
Be happy, date other people and don't let him know your heart is breaking.
2006-12-17 10:38:26 · answer #5 · answered by keenedge_2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it will all unfold when you go out for that (friendly) drink, but if you like him that much then i would just appreciate having him as a really good mate.
2006-12-17 12:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one you like is playing by the guy handbook. In order to fix the situation you have to get the guy you don't like to give the guy you like the approval to move forward. Regardless of how the guy you like may feel about you he is not "allowed" to move forward with anything probably because the guy you don't like probably spoke up first (since your guy is shy). I know its stupid and overly complicated but we are guys.. .
2006-12-17 11:20:37 · answer #7 · answered by anonymouse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a really good bloke!! Putting his friend before himself.... anyway, shyness can't be helped. Go for drinks with him just as friends and maybe something will develop from it, I hope so :-)
2006-12-17 10:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by Minniex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be patient... He's shy and needs time plus he's holding out due to his friend. Take things easy and go out with him as friends. Eventually if he likes you things will work out. Good luck..!
2006-12-17 10:36:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be just keeping it cool in regards to this other friend, be patient and he will realise that you are the one for him and stuff the other guy. Hold on and he will be yours.
2006-12-17 10:31:30 · answer #10 · answered by dnlrawson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋