well, my boyfriend always talks about this girl anmed chelsie and its pisses me off because it upsets me so much. They are friends I guess but she always flirts with him and then he talks about her so I have a reason for why it upsets me...I dont wanna say anything tho because its his friend and i dont want him to know im jelous...also chelsie's friend karen is pretty close with him too and he talks about her a lot..and then he told me just today that nxt year he is switching schools to take a certain course to help him..Karen goes to the school hes going to and i dont and i wont be able to see him as much...its really upsetting me and i dont got the guts to say everything because he gets mad when i say stuff about his friends...I dont know what to do =(.
2006-12-17 10:25:53 · 11 answers · asked by My-Feelings-Inside 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have every right to be jealous..and to bring it up..remember that your relationship should be based on honesty and trust. wouldnt you want him to tell you to if you were doing something that was upsetting him or making him feel uncomfortable? i think when you bring it to his attention in a non-confrontational way that he'll realize how its making you feel, and if he cares about you, he'll make an effort to change it. good luck!
2006-12-17 10:28:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear and see the problem, I myself have been in your shoes, and still am..but we are not in high school any more nor is it just one person it is mulitple, I am having some problems where I can't even talk about my feelings any more. I used to now it isn't easy to talk about what I feel inside any more. I have decided that either I tell someone or I have to put up with it.
He found out that I was telling my feelings to someone else and he went bulistic. so my advice is trust him and put up with it or look for someone who loves you more. As I get the same advice from a certain person. For now, I am putting up with it a little bit longer because of all the help I get from him. He is romantic but the bullshit and the put downs is hard. Good Luck.
2006-12-17 10:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him how you feel.
if he doesn't accept the way you feel, then you two have no reason of being together. a relationship is built on trust and strengthened a little by jealousy. jealousy shows that you care, but too much is showing distrust. tell him how you feel it will help. if he gets mad like you say then dump him, you can find a much better man. if he gets mad then maybe he is hiding something. in relationships the couple has to be open with each other. otherwise you will both be living in lies.
2006-12-17 11:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by Adrian R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him how you feel. He shouldn't talk so much about another girl to you knowing you're his girlfriend. He should know that it would upset you. Would he like it if you talked to him about another guy. Don't sweat him going to another school. If you can trust him, then trust him, if not, let him go. You'll never know until you talk and get it out of him. Ask him if hell actually likes these other girls more than a friend!
Krazy Libra
2006-12-17 10:30:48 · answer #4 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm. if he really likes you then he would be able to take in consideration into what you're feeling. and being jealous isnt a bad thing, it just means that you care. and i think you should tell him but just dont push it too much that he'll flip out on you or things like that.. and you do deserve to kno the truth .. and the fact that he's goin to a dif school just makes it more harder for you so just tell him that you want to know whats goin on. hope everything works out.
2006-12-17 10:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by Riley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunnie you are better than them girls you are with him and they are not so hunnie stop worring and show him justhow pretty u are make up self up for the night and show him what he as got ..... dont let him slip away from you tell himyou love him more and he will to and plz doas i say and show him what he as gotcoz u sound a lovely girl and better than them birds he is talking about a lot ..... maybe he talks about u a lot to them xxxxx
2006-12-17 10:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by horsestud0800 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey just because he talks about his friends doesnt mean they mean any more to him than friends, and even if it does mean more to him dont you think its better to find out now then get deeply involved and really end up getting hurt you cant do any thing about this situation so you better decide to lay back and see what happens or break up with him because you cant handle it and if this makes you feel any better i wouldnt like my man talking about other women either.
2006-12-17 10:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its scarey but you really should talk to him about how you feel. NOT in a pushy way just how it makes you feel. You can't tell him who to be friends with but you have a right to your feelings. I think he'll understand.
2006-12-17 10:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by jay b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set the girlz straight. He'z yours.
2006-12-17 10:29:50 · answer #9 · answered by Luvahlee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok just remember he's your boyfriend , let him talk to whoever he wants just remember hes yours:)
2006-12-17 10:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋