I think you can't afford not to believe your daughter. If it's happening, it must be dealt with.
Perhaps have someone at school, a trusted teacher or administrator, address the issue with the boy.
2006-12-17 10:15:31
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answered by Bliss 6
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yes. I would absolutely believe her. You dont say how old she is. First I would reassure her that she hasnt done anything wrong, tell her it was right to tell you, ask her how she feels about it - I mean are they being stupid or is there some malicious intent in their behaviour.
You need to take it seriously even if it proves to be a false alarm, because if it isn't, you need to have dealt with it up front from the start.
They may seem sweet - they may even be sweet boys but someone might have failed to set out some basic rules of acceptable behaviour for them, couple that with seeing an unsuitable movie and you get potentially dangerous situations.
Dont over reacted but do decide to calmly find out as much as you can about what has been going on.
Where, when, who else might know, etc. Make sure your daughter knows how serious the allegations are.
Then you have to stop all contact between your daughter and these boys.
How you proceed past this will depend on how well you can talk with the parents, or the boys, and how old these children are.
2006-12-17 18:21:28
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answered by asiwant 3
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I have a teenage daughter and I also have friends that have teenage sons. Any parent would get upset if you came to them with such accusations about their child. This is an embarrasing subject for kids. I would confront the boys in a friendly matter. Find out why she would say this from them. Consider it a warning. If your child comes to you again, then it's time to go to the parents. If it comes down to that, be prepared for the parents to start judging your daughter. I don't see an easy way to resolve an issue like that other than excepting that you may loose them as friends.
2006-12-17 18:27:14
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answered by Victoria 1
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What you need to do is believe your daughter unless she has given you reason not to. Congrats to her for coming to you. Alot of kids do not tell there parents cause they are scared. If you ignore this then you are failing as a parent. The situation needs to be addressed with the other parents and even the boys! If nothing is done about it then it must go the police. She is a human and should not be treated like a piece of meat!
2006-12-17 18:18:37
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answered by Stacy 1
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I would totally believe her, back when I was in 7th and 8th grade years ago boys did that all the time to girls! You are lucky your daughter told you. I would talk to the boys mother. It does not matter how sweet they seem they can have sides and act polite in front of adults. Try to help your daughter not get in a situation were they are all alone. And what to do if they are. She needs to stick up for herself. If it continues to happen still I would press charges!
2006-12-17 18:40:06
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answered by cliffhanger 3
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I would believe her, why would she lie. Just because they SEEM sweet doesn't mean they are. I would call the parents and tell them to tell their sons to keep their hands to themselves or else face some serious consequences (like the cops). It may end the friendship, but nothing is more important than my child's safety and well being.
2006-12-17 20:10:52
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answered by ? 6
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I would have to believe my daughter. She needs you in her corner - not in theirs. I would talk to the boys to let them know IF they are doing it (and you should say you do beleive it), it stops today. If you hear it has continued, you gave them fair warning and will go to the parents or principal of the school (whichever you feel most comfortable with - as long as whoever you go to will take action). That harrassment has to stop - it will be your daughters self-esteem that will suffer.
2006-12-17 18:14:24
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answered by itsjustfoolishness 3
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What reason would your daughter have to LIE???
Does she have a history of lying?
I would at LEAST discuss the allegations with the boy's mom(s).
There may be some petty adolescent stupidity behind it, but it MIGHT be something real.
2006-12-17 18:16:24
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answered by Anonymous
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Firstly, how old is the daughter? Is she too young to know about such things and therefore make accusations?
Secondly, do you trust your kids to tell you the truth or not? If she can look you in the eye and swear she's telling the truth it's your responsibility to believe her and do something about it.
2006-12-17 18:17:12
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answered by Anonymous
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Tell their parents/you friends. Tell them to talk to their sons about that. If your friends refuse, get their sons away from your daughter, because I don't think she would lie about something so seriously.
2006-12-17 18:14:56
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answered by Jackie M 1
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