2 years ago my then-boyfriend stood me up for Christmas eve. He made up a lie that I caught him in. We had planned it for weeks ahead. I made something special for him, something beautiful and couldn't wait to see him open it. That's all I wanted.
I was crushed that he stood me up and it was pretty much the end of our relationship. We went out once after that and he was nasty to me so I threw him out of my house at 2 a.m.
For the next 1 1/2 years, he would call my cell and hang up. I haven't talked to him.
I'm sitting in front of my pretty tree and presents alone again and feeling pretty down. My friends say it's a blessing to have him out of my life. That's true. I haven't found someone new in spite of looking and being made up and beautiful every day.
Any suggestions?
2006-12-17 10:04:19 · 12 answers · asked by thatstracy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to thank all of you who responded.
I'm not waiting for him to come back, I've given him enough of a message by not answering his calls or returning them for him to know I'm not coming back for more.
Christmas is a difficult time to be alone without a significant other. I have family and friends to be with.
That Christmas 2 years ago was pretty bad. No apology would have ever fixed what he did to me.
I have met other men, just not the right person and time yet. They tell me that person is still on his way and to sort through the wrong ones to find the right one.
2006-12-17 13:02:30 · update #1
I think you should feel blessed that you had the guts to kick him out of the house after refusing his treatment of you. Imagine having a Christmas with someone who was terrible and lying to you instead of being single and being with your friends and other loved ones who love you back! The Holiday Season can be hard to deal with since it's full of sentimentality but just remember that it will pass by very quickly. The New Year will also ring in pretty soon- thus bringing in a New Year when you can put away the Christmas tree, do some new things with your life and date some more new guys. That guy obviously took your dumping of him pretty badly and he wasn't worth it. So everything is going be ok.
2006-12-17 10:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by purringout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sad and lonely because of things that jerk did to you then....he won and IS winning. DON'T let him do this to you ! DON'T let him ruin your holidays ! ( mumbles something about calling you on your cell and hanging up ) WHAT A TOTAL azzhole he is ! Your friends are 110% correct. You are better off without the jerk. I'd say , the reason you have not found a new person is because you REALLY don't have your heart in it....your ex b/f/ jerk has it.....get it back...put some band-aids on it.....and get back into the REAL world with the rest of us ! SMILE....be happy....your future is gonna be GREAT...and have a blessed Christmas...or I'll open a big can of cyber whoop on ya...LOL !
2006-12-17 10:16:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so sad. He's doingall of this to bother you. You have to let go of the past no matter how hard that may be. Trust me, I know because I had a similar relationship problem. It's heart breaking. I was with him for 5 years. I can tell he still loves me but he got a new girl. You have to be strong! Don't le some jerk-off boy rewin this years Christmas. I hope you fee better. You're not alone and it's good to know I'm not either...
2006-12-17 10:12:08 · answer #3 · answered by Bumble Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give up on this guy. I hear that when you are no longer looking then Mr. Right will appear.
Think of the things that you do have in your life and what you have accomplished over the past year. Spend time with people that make you feel good about yourself.
I have a tough time through the seasons too since i had an ex kill himself on Christmas.
I wish ya the best of luck.
2006-12-17 10:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just have to make new memories. Please don't let one insensitive guy ruin the beautiful memories and times you can having during the Christmas season. Be thankful you have a pretty tree, great friends and presents in your life and that the immature, insensitive man that was once your boyfriend is no longer around. And you will find someone else someday, remember for everytime there is a season, which means whenever the right time for you to meet someone comes around you will be ready and it will be meant to be. Merry Christmas!
2006-12-17 10:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by melissa_anne_maison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it sounds as though you have some smart friends...when I was single, when I was looking for someone, I never found anyone. When I just did things that made me happy and spent time with people I like, I was happy. When I was happy other people wanted to be around me and that included new men in my life. It is easy for others to tell you to get over it...and it is difficult but you have to take action and do things that make you feel good about yourself!
2006-12-17 10:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by super mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont mean to sound harsh, but stop dwelling on this guy, he's not worth it, if he wont even speak to you on the phone. The last time you saw him he was nasty so you call him and be nasty to him. It may make you feel better and cut the ties so you can move on.
2006-12-17 10:10:08 · answer #7 · answered by The Way 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, hon, all I can say is I feel for you. I spent one christmas many years ago in a women's shelter for domestic abuse, all alone. I have never forgotten it. I don't think we ever do. All I can say is, there will be better ones to come. Maybe not this year, but they can't all be bad forever. Good luck.
2006-12-17 10:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remember to be happy every day and just to know that life must go on.
2006-12-17 10:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by zachireland7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it.
My grandfather died 6 days before Christmas, that is a lifelong sad anniversary. Your little tale of woe isn't worth bothering with if you'd just allow yourself to get over it and MOVE ON.
2006-12-17 10:09:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋