How do youknow when you are being mentallly and emotionally abused by your spouse?

Answer 1

When you start believing all the negative things he is telling you and it is making you unhappy most of the time. But whenever someone is not loving enough to build you up, don't wait until your ego is so beaten that you are actually believing it. The red flag is unkindness on a regular basis

Answer 2

You know your spouse is controlling when:
1. Spouse makes the important decision with out regards to you.
2. Gives you an allowance.
3. Talks down to you, or blames you for every thing that goes
wrong, or blames you for future things that will go wrong.
4. Curses at you.
5. Degrades you in private or public...
6. Makes you feel sorry, sad and you can't do anything right.
It is all about power....And guess what??? If you are asking your spouse probably wants all the power or already has the power....

Answer 3

I just got of a emotional and verbally abusive relationion that was progressing to physical abuse - if I stayed.

You know that you're being abused by your husband. Thats why you ask that question. To answer you question, see below:

- When you start making excuses for his behavior. (i.e. He's having a hard time or bad day etc)
- When you start questioning your sanity
- When what he's saying is starting to affect your self-esteem.
- When he's being inconsiderate of your thoughts and feelings.
- When you hear him using "I" all the time - being selfish.

Does all of the above sound familar? If so, you're in abusive situation. Yes, you are being abused. It doesn't matter if its mental, emotional, or physical abusive. Its all the same. But let me tell you this, you're not the one with the problem. He's the problem. Abusive people are that way are because they can't control whats going on in their personal lives so they want to control you. Also, they put you down to make themselves feel better.

So now that you know the signs of abuse, what are you going to do about it?

Answer 4

You posted this question because you know that you're being mentallly and emotionally abused by your spouse.

Now you have to do something to help yourself.

Answer 5

When you are left with the feeling that you are going crazy!!! Trust me your not!!! This person is using head games and manipulations and thats what makes you think you are. This is "crazy making behavior" and is very hard to live with. They will say things that make you feel bad about yourself and eventually you start to believe them. You are the only thinker in your own mind, try hard to not let him make you feel anything less then what you truely are, which is a beautiful sensitive soul. May God bless you with much love and kindness.

Answer 6

Verbal Abuse: Constantly critices or says cruel, hurtful things, degrades, curses, calls you ugly names. Sleep deprivation:
waking you up with relentless verbal abuse;

Rigid Sex Roles: Expects you to serve, obey, remain at home;

Makes others responsible for his/her feelings: The abuser says, "You make me angry", instead of "I am angry."

Cruelty to animals and children. May expect children to do things that are far beyond their ability (whips a 3 year-old for wetting a diaper). or may tease the child until it cries.
Threats of violence and then dismisses them with, "Everybody talks that way" or "I didn't really mean it.";
Excessively possessive, calls constantly or visits unexpectedly; prevents you from going to work because "you might meet someone"; checks the mileage on your car; checks the caller i.d. or cell phone. ;

Interrogates you intensely about whom you talked to and where you were; keeps all the money; insists you ask permission to go anywhere or do anything;

Isolation: Tries to cut you off from family and friends; accuses people who are your supporters of "causing trouble" The abuser may deprive you of a phone or car, or try to prevent you from holding a job.

Controlling: never lets you make a decision. They never or rarely ask your input before making a big decision and may buy things secretly. Pretty much lives a life of secrecy where THEY are concerned.

Warning: mentally and emotional abuse can often escalate into physical abuse. Children learn from example. They will either pick up the abusive behavior or learn to not stand up for themselves from each parent.

Answer 7

You are feeling sad all the time. You begin to believe that you are what the abuser says . Know that you deserve to be happy and make yourself that way if no one else does!

Answer 8

Does your spouce
-Call you names insults you or contiually criticizes you
-Not trusting you and acts jealous or possessive
-Trys to isolate you from friends or family
-Monitors who you call, were you go and who you spend time with
-Expects you to ask permission to do things
-Humiliates you in any ways
-Punishes you by with holding affection
Emotional abuse can lead to depression and can eventually lead to thoughts of suicide. If you match any of these signs get out of it quick. Good luck!
Those are some of the signs.

Answer 9

If the cause of your sadness is through them and what they say and do.

Answer 10

Go here: http://www.abusedadultresourcecenter.com