Me n the ex have been 4 happy yrs 2gether. but these last 2 mounth me and her have been runiing in circle. she aparintly feels different about me. "a Friend" then a lover. But somtimes when we see each other i still felt a romantic spark. I gave her my whole life. two days ago she said she needed time and i called her today and she said she is now happy w/ herself and this is what she wants. I am sick of all of this n now i am losing my mind. I just want her out of my head. I still am maddly in love w/ her and i just keep hoping she'll change her mind. She says their is no1 involed she just likes doing her own thing. I dunno this whole things got me confused. It seems like she did the same thing last mounth. If i just leave her alone does any1 think i she will start to miss me and try and call me again. Or is this the last time. I hear her starting to get furtated in her voice. I keep telling her how i honestly feel and its not good engouh. any addvice would be great. Plz dont b mean
2006-12-17 09:29:53 · 8 answers · asked by detox_denny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Aww, I'm sorry. It sounds like she has moved on. It's going to be hard, but you should move on as well. Good luck.
2006-12-17 09:32:19 · answer #1 · answered by Bingo's Mommy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I know exactly what you're going through. I had a relationship end just this week. I think the guy is making a mistake and that we are meant for each other. I also truly love the man. More than I want him to be with me, I want him to be happy. Sometimes I feel angry with him. Mostly I just feel hurt. I can't control anyone else in this world except myself. I am choosing not to be angry. I am choosing to let go of the pain from being hurt. I choose to accept that we may never be together. By choosing to do all these things, I maintain my sanity and I also maintain the ability to be friends with a person I love. I know you have plans for your life. I know you had specific plans for how your girlfriend was going to be a part of your life. Accept that those plans have changed. Continue to love her and learn to have a different sort of relationship with her. You may never end up romantically involved again, but as long as you're friends...there is always a chance. Don't get your hopes up, of course.
2006-12-17 17:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by Carole 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to do her own thing then she wants to be by herself with no attachments to anyone. Clearly this is what she wants according to what you are saying. If this is it, then there is nothing you can do except to accept her decision. The thing you have to do is to move on. No, it will not be easy because you still have strong feelings for her. I know what this is. I have been in a recent position just the same not long ago. I tried to let her know I still cared but she never reciprocated and instead just emailed me saying things with her and son were fine. She made no mention of loving me at all. I decided that it was over and I emailed here telling her so. She has not emailed me since. I decided then to get interested in other things and be friends to other people who I really cared about. I am involved in other things now and I can tell you it takes time to get over a love. But given enough time you will survive. I know that ever since I ended it I have realized that it would have never worked out anyway and I am glad I had the time to put aside my feelings and see things realistically. It really helps. Trust me.
2006-12-17 17:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that she knows exactly how you feel!You have to talk about your problems again and again!Try to understand what she really needs/wants!Show her your love acting not just talking!If there is something good in this relationship then somehow will find the way to go out.Be patience and follow your heart!Time will tell if this thing worth the trouble.Good luck dude...
2006-12-17 17:48:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not trying to be mean, but I think it is good advice. Run, don't walk from a significant other who plays mind games like that. This advice applies equally to both sexes, men do the same thing. You are worth more than that.
2006-12-17 17:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
give her space you have hear the saying it you love it set it free it true and now its your turn if she loves you she will come back and if its not meant to be then you need to move on:( my favorite quote from a singer is "sometimes i thank god for unanswered prayers" you will look back on this and thank god for how it turns out i promise you:) it may be the birth of your first child or the day you marry her or someone else either way this is meant to happen:)
2006-12-17 17:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone. she wants to live her life without you. if talking to her is not working, then put a period at the end of this relationship and move on!
2006-12-17 17:33:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-17 17:31:53 · answer #8 · answered by wsguy1983 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋