Ok, so theres this guy I really like at my school, but he's really hard to read and I get really confused. Like he'll wait on me after class, sit in the cafeteria (which is where I am, this change has started to happen in the last week) instead of going off campus, smile at me a lot, stare at me, want to be near me, etc.
But then he also asks other girls for pens/pencils when I'm pretty close to him, gives them a lot of attention (beyond friendly, more flirty) and stuff. How do I know he doesn't do this to lots of other girls on a daily basis? If he's trying to make me jealous, it's working.
It's just a huge ball of mixed signals. I've tried to mask my feelings for him completely because of this, he's in two of my classes and if it ends up he doesn't like me (let's say I ask him) it would be awkward for the rest of the year.
2006-12-17 09:28:50 · 20 answers · asked by Katie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I totally know what you mean. Awkwardness isn't a good feeling when your trying to learn lessons.
I think you should ask him which one of the girls he likes and then if he says none... He's just a flirt and doesn't know it.
I also think that he does like you but I don't think he's trying to make you jealous or anything.
I know it would be pretty awkward but truth is get pass it and come out with... Do you want to be with me?
If he says no... Say good! Because I really don't want to mess our friendship up and then act the way you always did, but the next time he flirts in front of you, it won't matter because he's just a friend--- heck, flirt back! Flirt in front of him and flirt with him too... Who knows where it would or could lead? Perhaps he'll realize its always been you and you were right in front of him. And mabye you'll realize someone else has caught your eye! With all the new found flirting ;-)
2006-12-17 09:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay. This is a case of puppy love. I have been through this as well but I am a guy. In my freshman year a girl was doing the same things with me as well and I was always unsure about what she thinks and how she feels and why she also does things with other guys besides me. But honestly I think that the boy is probably shy or maybe that he looks at you as a very close friend. Also the deal with him asking other girls for things is not a big deal, maybe he just doesn't want to be annoying for asking you all the time. But what I feel is that he likes you and maybe you should test him out in ways that you prefer.
2006-12-17 17:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by Dante Jr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to play games... I would ignore him and find other interests. Guys like to chase and if you are "there" he will keep you on the "back burner" until all his options are gone. Finding other things to occupy you will not only help keep your mind off of him, it will also show him that you are worth something and YOU should be chased, not chase after some guy. Talk to everyone else. Act like you are fine without him. If he asks you what's wrong just say "Nothing, why?". Keep the ball in your court. No guy is worth the stress. If he likes you, he will pursue you. Guys hate "clingy" girls. They are attracted to girls that have self confidence and don't act "needy" for anyone. If you watch you will notice that the girls that get guys are the girls that are always happy and don't need anyone to survive. No one wants to hang out with someone that can't let go and have fun because of emotions or stress.
2006-12-17 17:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by sonnygirl0303 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres how guys do things. they flirt with a lot of girls, but generally. but, they will never get too personal. if he talk to you about personal things, that means he likes you. other clues will be what he nickname you, if its stuff like hot, cute, stunning stuff like that, then sorry hes flirting, but if its like beatiful, pretty then he prolly liikes you. from what you said if he wait on you after class and walk you to the next, that not something a guy would normally do, that when he choose to walk with you instead of his friends. about asking pens, he prolly wants more attention.. thats a tipical guy lol
2006-12-17 17:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by Tyler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he might be trying to get your attention by asking other girls about pens-pencils ect. because he wants you to notice him more and then one day he might ask you out! But, I don't know for a fact but, this is how it goes at my school!
2006-12-17 17:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by hubbaboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is trying to impress you. he thinks that you are probably a girl that likes a girl attracting guy. either that, or he is to shy to talk to you, so he trys to get the other girls to ask you out, then he sees you there, chickens out, and asks for a pen or pencil. trust me the same thing happened to me.
2006-12-17 17:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by Tenten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know he probably does like you, but also likes other girls too (guys are like that). Dont read too much into it. If he flirts...flirt back, but keep an open mind about guys that you may have an intrest in or vice versa.
2006-12-17 17:31:42 · answer #7 · answered by Pretti Poodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Dear,
For many guys, flirting is only a part of their personality, and it usually is difficult for them to flirt with the one person they truly are interested in.
He's not trying to make you jealous (at least not intentionally).....
The fact that he doesn't flirt with you may be the key to the whole mystery.
Namaste,
--Tom
2006-12-17 17:36:20 · answer #8 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be he feel shy from asking u to give him ur pincel
just take it easy and put in ur mind that u still young u have a long life and u should think before doing anything
just try to treat him as a friend only dont fall in his love
2006-12-17 17:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is putting out the vibe. if you put out the vibe to 100 people, at least one is going to stick. he's probably not into being serious, he's probably wanting someone to "have a good time with?" then will leave you. just remember, it is very rare that high school romance ever works out. so just be careful.
2006-12-17 17:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by Smith Jerrod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋