confused? what to do!?

Question

i am 24 and been with my girlfriend for 6 years, are relationship is not how it used to be! all the passion is gone but we are still holdin on to the last glimmer of hope! i met a girl briefly and she gave me her msn adress, the thing is, i have only been speakin 2 her for 5 days but i cant stop thinking about here, but i dont really now her! but i feel like a kid again all excited. what do i do?

Answer 1

It's actually pretty normal to feel like that. They are not your real feelings talking though. Just remember how much you love your girlfriend. Try new things with her and get that old passion back.

Answer 2

Well...6 years is a long time....do you want to leave your girlfriend for this new girl? Really think alot about it. You can inject the passion back in to your relationship, you are only 24...!!!! I am sure you have a few tricks up your sleeve. Why not take your girl out for a meal and have a romantic night...you may find that spark again.

Its natural to think about other people whilst in a relationship,

I have been with my boyfriend 6 years and there have been times in the past when we felt like this as well.....but we tried because we love each other and now its all good.

However if you are going to leave your girlfriend for the new girl then tell your girlfriend straight...and dont do any sneaking around

Answer 3

Hi, until you are deeply sure you and your girlfriend have no furture, stay away from her as it maybe you are lusting after the other women as you have lost most of the spark with your girlfriend. Maybe have a break from your now girlfriend, if you dont miss her and think its better on your own then maybe its time to get in touch with this other girl. But be warned when you start seeing this other girl she wont be the girl you have been with for 6 years. and you might regret finishing it with your girlfriend. Have a talk with your girlfriend and explain she might feel the same way. Then you can do what you want but i wouldnt do anything yet as. You say the passion has gone, But do you stilll love her you can still love and be with the same person without passion. Do what you think is best it is your life.

Answer 4

When you're with someone for so long, all that adrenaline rush can disapear. Like do u remember in the beginging when both of u were raging with passion holding eachother, kissing, talking and thinking about eachother nonstop, well since u guys have been to gether for so long u no longer need assurence that u love and care for eachother. the reason why uve let urself get to know this other girl is because ur hoping to find that kind of passion and spark with this girl that u are no longer finding with ur girlfriend is that rite? well i would recommend u speak with ur gf and tel her how u guys can rekindle the flame before its too late. i meen do u realy want to ruin a 6 yr relationship because u arent sure wut to do just because the flame is gone? u can try to spend some time together and do things one on one do u remember when u would go out on fun dates and talk all night long try doing that again maybe some passion will come back and for the girl she probably thnks ur really interested but u dont want to hurt her by doing thinngs that make her think a certain way. well i hoppe ur relationship works out. take care!

Answer 5

You probably just miss the excitment of a new relationship and the idea of something new. You should do what you feel is right according to your feelings, even though it is hard sometimes. If you do end up not staying with your girlfriend, have enough respect for her to tell her your feelings, on how your relationship has been going. It is always a good idea to end one relationship before you start another, otherwise your girlfriend will be hurt and the new one might have issues trusting you.

Answer 6

Relationships cannot keep passion without hard work from both sides but if you truly believe there is no hope left then get out of your current relationship now before you both get hurt even more.
As for the msn girl, its new to you that's why you feel all excited but you have to remember you know nothing about this girl so take it slowly and cautiously.

Answer 7

6 years is a long time, don't throw it away if there is still a glimmer there, it CAN be revived! Your girlfriend will end up finding out about this new woman and could see it as cheating - there is not a lot worse than a cheat! If you think there is nothing worth holding onto then end the relationship now but you could live to regret it!

Answer 8

Pray for it. God knows what is best for you and your gf. You see, it is normal to eventually lose the thrill and the spark after a long relationship BUT it does not mean the love is not there anymore (please evaluate yourself if you still love your gf )..because if you don't then there is no reason staying together anymore. You should ask your self these questions..do you imagine yourself living without her? Can you bear to see her cry? Are you happier without her? Do you feel there will be no future for your relationship? If you answered YES to the majority of these questions..then move on. Let the girl go. if that is your stand, your gf deserves a better man. BUT if you still feel that you love her and can not imagine life without her then talk..talk about it. Give time to finally have your relatinship built its foundation again. I suggest you give each other space for a while to give each other time to think about whats happening and also to make you miss each other. Hope this helps. God bless

Answer 9

Whatever is in your heart. You need direction. Don't go behind your girlfriends back and talk to another girl on the computer. If you love her that much and you WANT your relationship with her to work out, then talk to her. Maybe she is feeling the same way as you. If you don't communicate with each other, your relationship is slipping through your fingers. If you decide to get with this internet girl, you might regret it. People can be so fake on the computer. Don't take that risk. Make a good decision. I hope you make the best one!

Answer 10

Hey man I don't remember reading anything about you being married or having children. If the both of you are not happy anymore "Move On". One day you will eventually settle down and except responsibility for your choices in women, But right now your 24 and hopefully giving as much thought to your future that you are giving to those women. Be the best "Man" that you can be and all else will follow... Women are just like us, they come a dime a dozen. But don't let a good one get away!