Right now my bf is in a difficult situation. He isn't doing well at schoo(he's a senior) and he isnt even sure if he could graduate next may. Things are tough for him and he's so stressed out. I so wanna help. So I asked him to talk to me but he doesnt wanna talk about it. Not just to me, to anyone. He's just that kind of person who wouldnt say anything even if something is bothering him. So i just feel so helpless. He's stressed out and there's nothing i can do to help. I dont know what to know. If i was in the same situation, i would like to talk to someone so close to me to maybe come up with some good ideas to deal with hard times.But my bf says talking about it would just be more stressful and he wants to break up with me b/c he thinks us being together also adds to the stress. But i just wanna be loving, caring, understanding and supportive to him, what should i do to let him know that?What should i do to help him?Leave him,give him space or stick with him through difficult time?
2006-12-17 09:14:19 · 6 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
GIVE HIM SPACE, WOMAN!
Men don't need to talk, talk, talk about crap the way women do, they don't deal with things the same way and the more you pry, cling and nag, the futher away you'll push him.
2006-12-17 09:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sure sounds to me like he has something or someone on the side that he's not telling you about. best thing to do might be to back off (a lot) and get your life in order for you. if he doesn't want to share now , he won't want to share later. he is also using the
stress as an excuse instead of being upfront. watch yourself, girl. you haven't told me all of the situation, but the fact that you bring up leaving him means you have thought about it, and maybe subconsciensly you know this is what you must do.
2006-12-17 17:35:11 · answer #2 · answered by geezer 51 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is great that you care for him but he told you that for him it is worse to talk about it. Remember all people handle situations differently and it is best for him to work it out himself. By you being concerned for him and keep asking him about it, he may feel smothered by the attention. That is why he may want to break up with you because you being so concerned and he doesn't want you to be is adding stress to him and he has to worry about how to deal with you being overly concerned plus the fact he is doing badly in school. The best thing to do is let him know you are there for him and then back off. Respect his wishes. Relationships are about compromise and if he is important to you, you will handle it how he wants not by how you think he should handle it. Good Luck.
2006-12-17 17:21:18 · answer #3 · answered by melissa_anne_maison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in the same case.. but i'm the stressed gf...
but, even tho i refuse to talk about it it helps for me to know he's there for em, even if i don't act like it. buy, i dont' think me and hi shoudl break up...
but any way.. try telling him u don't want to break up you can give space if that will make him feel less stress, or you can just give him a hug every day, so he knows that our there for him.
sry, i would give you better advice but i don't know you or your bf,so it's hard for em to give some thing that will work.. hope ti all turns out oh key!
2006-12-17 17:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by stacy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can call him to study with you at your house or a certain place. Men arn't very good at chating and they want to do everything alone unless it is his choice to work with you. Males are always stressed out because they have lots to do.Maybe he does alot of work at home. He needs some time to relax and give him some time at the end everything will be normal :).
2006-12-17 17:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by Raven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he doing drugs or does he just want to get rid of you?
2006-12-17 17:23:25 · answer #6 · answered by todd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋