I have a boyfriend, but I like another guy.
Me and this guy have been in a "semi-relationship" for about 2 weeks now.
I have been thinking of breaking up with my boyfriend, but I don't want to hurt his feelings because next weekend, we are getting together, and he is going to give me a Christmas presant that he's already bought (he told me it's jewelry).
I don't really have feelings for my boyfriend anymore, and I like the other guy much more, and we have more in common.
Also, my boyfriend lives far away and we don't see each other often...(so it's a long distance relationship that's obviously not working for me)
What should I do....Continue going out with a guy that I don't like anymore so he'll be happy? Or break up with him and go out with the other guy that I like much more and so I'll be happy?? Either way, I'll feel guilty.
2006-12-17 09:09:51 · 19 answers · asked by hello. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont feel guilty... you have to do what makes you happy! you sound young, and if you are right now in life you should not just try setteling down with one boy... you should as we say "play the game" and be safe doing so. Doing this is going to teach you a lot of life lessions that your not going to learn sticking with a guy that you dont really have any feelings for. Do what makes YOU happy... Life is short, in time you will come to see that it is so short you dont have time to waist a minute of it on someone you dont even like.
2006-12-17 09:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by sexy momma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one. I have been in this situation twice, and I can honestly tell you it will be best if you just break up with your boyfriend. There is nothing worse than being in a relationship with someone who you really don't want to be in a relationship with. Besides it isn't fair to you, your boyfriend, or your new friend to continue in this love triangle. Most likely your boyfriends feelings are going to be hurt, (trust me on that), but imagine how he will feel if he finds out on his own, it will crush him. If he truly cares for you, he will understand, and give you the gift. I would give up the jewelry, why not? Trust me do it now, instead of later, because later he will figure out you stayed until Xmas only for the jewelry, which will hurt him more. I am sure you will get many more gifts from your new boyfriend if your current boyfriend doesn't give you the jewelry. I hope this helps because there is no easy answer when human emotion is involved. Someone will be hurt, but it is up to you to determine the extent of pain.
2006-12-17 09:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by Megatron 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's kind of shallow of you to hang onto a guy just to get a Christmas gift. Shame on you. The best thing is be up front with your current boyfriend and cross your fingers that this new guy won't get tired of you. What you do with your present relationship will reflect on the other guys perception of you. At first, he might feel great about having won you over, but he might keep what you've done in the back of his mind and hold that against you.
Could it be that you are just on fire over this other guy for the wrong reason? Everyone likes a bit of excitement every now and then.
However you play this out, good luck.
2006-12-17 09:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's be fair, why would you keep him on a string? Let him know how you feel, you don't have to mention the other guy, tell him you want to concentrate on school, career, what ever. Don't lead him on as he is spending money on you. Don't except the gift either, hopefully he can return it or get some kind of refund.. Just do the right thing and don't lead him on. He will get over you and in time find someone else, plus you in turn will have what you want....
2006-12-17 09:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do women always want to string the guy along? If he finds out you are two-timing him he may do something violent. I would! Anyway, if you do not want to see him anymore, simply tell him. Present or no present. Only a golddigger would keep him until after she gets the jewelry. A guy can accept if a relationship is over, but not if she is cheating on him. That is the worst thing a woman can do to a guy.
2006-12-17 09:17:17 · answer #5 · answered by tko43078 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think u should break up with ur boyfriend before he gives u the jewerly. That way he can still return it. If u wait till he gives you the jewery that is just selfish, and that will hurt him even more, by the way you talk about him, you sound happy, just get married and have a ton of babies, babies make everything better. Best of luck
2006-12-17 09:19:07 · answer #6 · answered by Leah 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a toughy!!!I think I would probably break up with the guy you have now and not go after the other guy.Wait a week or 2 and then go after the guy you like better.The reason to wait is so that your boyfriend will not know that you broke up with him for another guy and also so you can heal.
2006-12-17 09:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to break up with your boyfriend right now!You will hurt him much more if you let him to live a lie!So do it and don't feel guilty about it!And don't accept the present.It's not fair.
2006-12-17 09:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the first guy that you want out and let him save his money. You don't deserve a gift since you are cheating.
Maturity comes with being honest and making the right decisions.
You are just a childlike greedy chick who doesn't care how anyone feels but you. What goes around comes around.
KEEP YOUR 10 POINTS
2006-12-17 09:24:35 · answer #9 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if i were you i would break up with him and tell him to keep the jewelry incase he meets someone else that means a lot to him. if you dont have feeling for him he is better off finding someone who feels the same way about him as he does them.
2006-12-17 09:14:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋