We were at our Aunties 80th birthday & my leg hit my cusions leg no one else was at our table at that time & I just turned to her and said sorry & said that I waas trying to play footsy with her, later on she turnned to me and said that she wished I was trying to play footsy with, and I turned round and said I wish I was as well & at that we started stroking each other legs up.
We went out side with a few of our younger cusions and we got so carried away talking we didn't relise that everyone else had gone back in, when we relised she turned to me and said that she liked me and that she knew it was wrong, she than grapped my hand & pulled me towards her & with that we started to pull each others clothes off & had sex in the middle of no were, Im falling in love with her but I know its wrong but I can't help it, shes said the same and we both no our familys wouldnt approve it.
I cant lose my family but i'm in Love with my cusion, I love her like mad, but its eating me up inside.
2006-12-17 09:08:25 · 45 answers · asked by Marc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry i mean Cousin
2006-12-17 09:12:52 · update #1
We were not some kind of kids, were both 18, and our family have been though a lot and she's helpped me when ive been in some very bad problems
2006-12-17 09:15:20 · update #2
REALLY bad idea... i think you should just stop NOW! You need some distance from her to REALLY gather your thoughts and REALLY realize that what you two have done was wrong. I think you don't realize how much of a problem this really is! talk to your cousin and let her know that what you to had was cant happen again.
2006-12-17 09:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by ZaNy_kiDd 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Wow you really are in a tangle here!!
Well normally i would say follow your heart because life is too short but in this case its a little trickier. I just don't know how these feelings of love can come from one night of looking at her then having a quick fumble outside.
You have to really think of the consequences with this one, if you are first cousins then it is illegal and you could never have kids because of the mix of same genes. Most of all your family would be really disapproving and could totally turn their backs on you both.
I cant tell you what to do but i can tell you to really think about this before you both jump into anything. I know you think you are an adult but you are only 18 and at that age feelings of lust can seem like love, trust me i have been there.
Be cautious, hope everything works out for you both. xxx
2006-12-17 10:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will say we can't always control what our heart tells us. If she is a first cousin, it is considered incest and can lead to mental impairment in the kids so biologically, it's not a great idea. It is also against the law. If she is a second cousin, there is no problem. It is legal and there are no risks. I don't know how old you two are, but if you are young, time may be the best remedy as conflicting emotions and confusion over the nature of your relationship works itself out. I do wish you the best of luck. It just isn't easy no matter what happens.
2006-12-17 09:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by lynn c 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
listen i have a sister that married my cousin they have 3 kids together and sometimes that is the way it goes you fall for the wrong person my family loves them no matter what just talk to someone about it and just say what do you think if 2 family members fell in love just ask questions before you think they will hate you guys don't say it is you 2 just say it ws a question and your friend is in love with there cousin good luck
2006-12-17 09:15:15 · answer #4 · answered by mandysosexy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow.... Is she directly blood related? If not then it is legal (legally, you could marry her). Even though I think that it is pretty gross, the bigger picture is that you should never be afraid of your true feelings and no matter what other people think , they can't change how you feel. Do you really think your family will stop loving you forever if you revealed your situation? They'll probably get a little pissed, but are they gonna kill you? Not likely...
2006-12-17 09:14:36 · answer #5 · answered by thephalkinparadox 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It`s not really wrong as frowned upon by most families.
It`s only relationships between close family members that are illegal, for example, brother and sister, mother and son etc, etc. Other than that you are ok as you don`t share the same gene pool as her with your aunty/uncle being married to an outsider from the family.
2006-12-17 09:14:16 · answer #6 · answered by dnlrawson 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
bleedin hill billys lmao incest is sick man u had to go do it at the aunts 80th now u sure its was a aunts birthday n not the grans? hahahaha hmm the spellin mistakes shows lack of education the fact u knobbed the cousin shows u from a sick mutated family u don't need answers from here u need medical help n fast
2006-12-17 13:07:39 · answer #7 · answered by it_wasnt_me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you really know its wrong?...or do you just know that everyone else believes its wrong?
what's more important to you, your family or the one you love?
is is really love or just sexual lust?
tough huh?
if you're first cousins, you might want to consider that any children will have permanent physical handicaps due to your blood lines being too close
if you're farther removed than first cousins, offspring from such a union should not be adversely affected, but you'd still have to deal with the family..
cousin marriages still occur and they used to be common, but not so much any more.
just decide what's more important, her or the rest of the family
2006-12-17 09:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by stump jumper 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she's your blood cousin, you're deeply confusing your care for her as family with a love for her as a woman. If she's only your cousin by marriage and/or some other cause. There's nothing wrong with it in the eyes of God, but your family, that's a whole unchartered territory. I fell in love with my Step-Brother's 19 year-old Step-Son, and they were fine with it, even though he is 5 years older than me, but my family is just so fucked maybe they don't even care.?
2006-12-17 09:13:00 · answer #9 · answered by Rachael 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Whilst technically it's not illegal here in the UK to date and sleep with a cousin I can see your problem
I think you know the answer but don't want to admit it
If the family would seriously disapprove then you know what you must do
2006-12-17 09:17:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋