I have no interest in getting a girl. I can't get the confidence to ask one out.I will never ask a girl out. I am just waiting for a girl to approach me. If a girl likes me, she should approach me. I know I would be rejected and then it would not be worth it. I like a girl, but my anxiety is holding me back from talking to her, and I don't feel like changing my anxiety, although I know it might make me depressed, kind if. I don't really feel like I deserve to be loved. And, I wouldn't really want to be around a girl for my whole life, as it is my life, and about me. And I am selfish and I don't like giving anyhing to anyone else, though I try not to be, I can't change my selflishness. I am just a lonely person, and I plan to be the rest of my life. I am in highschool, and I don't know if that is affecting my decisions or thoughts.
2006-12-17 09:07:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing at all is bad about being alone. That is, if that is what you truly want. Seeking out relationships, whether mere friendships or romantic relationships, involves risk. Odds are some people will reject you for one reason or another. Before you start taking those risks, you need to find away to like yourself a little more. You need to think about what you're good at and what you can bring to a relationship. That way when inevitable rejection comes in life, you're not devasted by someone else's opinion. You probably don't want to hear this, but you're still very young. Time will help to wisen and mature you. You won't feel like this forever.
2006-12-17 09:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by Carole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young. I think your views of dating will change as you mature. It's alright not to want to have a girlfriend. You are still in highschool. Have fun!!! I don't agree with your reasons behind it , though. You need to give yourself more credit. Everyone has gotten rejected once in their life. If, you like the girl, you should just say, "What the hell!" The worst thing she could say is No. Then, you can just move on with your life. Things are a lot different after highschool.
2006-12-17 09:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you gotta be the approacher. Unless you are someone with the looks of some celebrity, then don't count on some girl approaching you. You have to get over the anxiety and go for the kill. If you get rejected, o well, go to the next one. in this world there are many many more women then men. Happy Fishing!
2006-12-17 09:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by OmarSD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you plan to be alone? or just fear you are going to be, therefore you have your feelings protected... There is nothing wrong with being alone, but there is something wrong with loneliness. There is a difference. Are you too shy to ask a girl out? or are you shallow and waiting for the perfect one to ask that won't say no. We all have to deal with rejection. Ya got nothing to lose and everything to gain by at least trying to put your shyness aside. Thinking of my son here. He really wants to marry, have a family, and he is on the shy side, but he is also shallow. If they are not a little blond cheerleader, he won't give them a chance.. and there are several girls who would like to go out with him. Open your eyes, make sure you are not missing someone who is asking you, in their own way... :) and EVERYBODY deserves to be loved.
2006-12-17 09:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by tootsie38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay im answering as i read your question... first, ALWAYS a guy ask a girl out, no matter how much she flirts with you. second, dont be afraid to talk to a girl, i kno how easy to say this on here right now, i've been through it, its hard i kno, but you just gotta try. maybe you can try IM her first or text,maybe pass notes. its always easier to write than talking face to face. after a while you will get much much more comfortable with her. maybe ask her out later. trust me, you do not want to be alone your entire life.. lol there are so many things good about having a girlfriend, you kno you have someone to talk to when everyone else seems not to care. if you stay alone, you will prolly get a depression or something.. so good luck! she will find you.
2006-12-17 09:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by Tyler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just reading that made me depressed. In the next few years or so you will change your mind about being alone. Highschool isnt affecting your decisions or thoughts. You are.
2006-12-17 09:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I pretty much agree with you. As life goes on you will learn that all woman are evil.that stinky hole between thier legs is the only thing they have going for them.remember never let them into your house always take them back to their place, or a hotel.
2006-12-17 09:17:15 · answer #7 · answered by petasucks101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a self-defeating cycle of low self-esteem.
2006-12-17 09:10:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋