2006-12-17 09:06:53 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
........I do trust my partner but i don't think that the week before we got married that he should have any need to look at other naked women. I am 5 months pregnant and am not happy with my expanding body at the moment. I don't feel comfortable with him looking at other women at the moment. We have a very close relationship and we can talk about anything. I will not be having a stripper at my hens night.
2006-12-17 09:21:29 · update #1
Thanks to everyone for your answers. I have decided to discuss it with my finace and hopefully come to an arangement that we are both agreeable to.
To all of those people who say it is the "last harrah" i totally don't agree. If you want to marry someone then you should make sure your wild oats are well and truely sown before you meet them. If anyone truely loves someone then they should not want someone of the oposite sex draped over them half naked. I have a lot of trust in my partner and he does in me. We both know if we look at or touch someone else our relationship is through.
2006-12-17 14:38:21 · update #2
just leave him do whatever he wants
2006-12-17 09:14:17 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋
With additional details, there is a broader picture here. You both need to talk about this and just tell him how you feel about having a stripper. Calmly explain what you are feeling right now and why you are feeling uncomfortable with it. Do not get into what he should not be doing. That should be the conclusion he comes to because of your feelings. His friends will plan his stag party but hopefully he will speak with his best man.
Good luck with marriage and the baby. Blessings to all three of you. I hope he understands your feelings because pregnant women have such ragging hormones anyway that adding a wedding on is even more stress.
2006-12-17 09:34:20 · answer #2 · answered by Margaret K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 21:37:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bachelor party is for him and his friends, not your self esteem.
You shouldn't plan or ask anything about the bachelor party.
If you feel like being pregnant will make him go to another woman, then you need to start feeling more secure about yourself.
Many woman have been pregnant with husbands or husbands to be, your body changes is a part of life. If he loves you, then looking a stripper or whatever else will not change that.
It's a bachelor's party, then...it's YOUR DAY.
good luck!
2006-12-17 11:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by Khandi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have confused the issue. There is a difference between a stripper and a prostitute. Have some confidence in your man to do the right thing. I bet he's really uncomfortable about the whole thing too.
I've been to a few bucks nights with strippers and frankly it's more embarrassing than anything else. Seriously, chicks get too worked up about it.
2006-12-17 22:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by splurkles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, dont feel like you are being unfair at all.
And dont listen to anyone who tells you that its not a big deal. and to let it go.
I am not an overprotective person either but when my husband and I got married this past summer we did our stag stagette together. It was awesome.
He didnt really feel the need to go see strippers either.
That is really an old custom that should fade away.
He should be focusing on you. Your beauty, Your beautiful baby belly.
Just tell him from your heart. Dont nag.
He will understand if he loves you.
2006-12-17 13:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think stag parties with strippers are outdated, crass, and low class.
If the thought of him at a strip club or having a stripper at the party makes you uncomfortable, tell him so. Discuss it. Reach a compromise. Ask him to inform his best man, or whoever is having the party for him.
One good reason to not have one is, it is etiquette for all men invited to the wedding be invited to the stag party. Will any of your male relatives be at the stag party? Would it not be completely awkward for your husband and your dad to be watching the same stripper? bring this up.
Just because lots of people say its OK... doesn't mean you can't have your own opinion.
2006-12-17 10:10:39 · answer #7 · answered by Irene 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No it wouldn't be wrong, but it wouldn't be fair either. Your insecurities shouldn't effect his last party as a single man. Let him have his last HURRAH! He will not be doing it again until one of his other buddies has their stag night.
Looking at a stripper is a WHOLE lot different than having sex with one. Pick your poison.
2006-12-17 13:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be wrong, no, but it might mess things up, depending on who's planned the party.
One way to handle it could be to have a "Jack and Jill" party instead of separate bachelor and bachelorette parties. That way you can all have fun and know there won't be anything inappropriate.
I didn't want to have a stripper at my bachelor party, so it wasn't even an issue.
2006-12-17 11:00:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your last point - a last "harruh" should take place BEFORE you get seriously involved with a woman - not the week before the wedding. As one wise man said once: "It is my experience that men who are truly in love don't want strippers."
2006-12-17 14:59:33 · answer #10 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jeffa: There is absolutely zero wrong with requesting from your fiancee to omit a stripper from the stag agenda ! You probably don't like it when he stares at other women, so why would he want to look on a nude woman's private parts for ? There is no logic nor rational thinking which can justify his thinking on this issue; whatsoever ! He has found his woman [ you ] and there is no need for him to be lusting over some stray she-bang !!! If he truly loves you, he will respect your feelings on this. There maybe one catch to all this. A stag is given by his male friends and they may carry through with the "meat" platter ! (Of course, he doesn't have to stick around ... he has that option !) Good luck to you, on this one !!!
2006-12-17 09:20:26 · answer #11 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋