My bf keeps asking me to have sex with him and I'm too scared to say "no" so I just say "I don't know...".
He's 14 and I'm 13.
I don't say "no" easily.
How can a shy person say "no" without hesitation?
2006-12-17 09:00:11 · 18 answers · asked by Xander 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't have a mother she died in a car crash when I was 3 or 4. And I AM NOT telling my dad. I'm an only child also.
2006-12-17 09:06:17 · update #1
This is a very good question, and I'm glad you're asking it instead of "we had sex and I'm pregnant, what do I do now?"
Realize that sex subjects you to life changing (or even life ENDING) consequences. Pregnancy, STD or HIV/AIDS are all a possibility.
You have your entire adult life to ponder the risks of various sexual choices.
You only have 4 years and change left in your time as a minor. Enjoy it, figure out what you want to be and what it takes to get there and go for it. You'll remember these years forever...don't mess them up with irresponsible sex with this guy.
You don't want to do it. You don't owe it to him.
Tell him, "it's not going to happen. I'm not ready, with you or anyone."
2006-12-17 09:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you will hear this alot but you are too young and you need to wait if he does not listen when you say you are not ready then he must not be the right guy for you because the right guy would respect your choices and wait until you were ready GOOD LUCK and may GOD be with you always
2006-12-17 09:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by crystal a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has already made a circulate to be separate.... something could have got here approximately to impression this behaviour. She is quite dissatisfied with you... She isn't prepared to go away the domicile and is status her floor... yet she shouldn't submit with any of your tries to reconcile. She desires to be left on my own and can't cope with you bugging her.. She is doing somewhat questioning and has distanced herself from you. She has stepped exterior the relationship and is finding in at it now, attempting to verify what to do... you won't be in a position to rigidity the situation ... that's only too previous due for this... she has to lick her wounds and verify what's ultimate for her....she would be in a position to permit you be responsive to ......
2016-12-18 15:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by younker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you don't feel ready. Accept the fact that he may break up with you b/c of this. It is ok if he does. There are tons of guys in the world. I applaud you for knowing that you are not ready for this. But you must be clear to your b/f that this is not what you want. You should say "I'm not ready for sex. There is nothing you can say to convince me that I am. I understand that you may not want to date me anymore, but this is how it is!"
2006-12-17 09:05:09 · answer #4 · answered by So lyrical 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say you're not ready yet, and if he keeps pressuring you break up, he should respect your decision and let it go for now until you guys are older and you can deal with the chance of getting pregnant.
2006-12-17 09:02:46 · answer #5 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Do want to? If you do then don't say no. I know you're only thirteen, and that would be a bad disicion, but if you love him(and I mean love, NOT just like)then why say no. If you don't want to just tell him that you aren't ready. If he gets angry and doesn't respect you for that, then that's all he wants you for and he's not worth going out with.
2006-12-17 09:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him no no no means no if you are not ready then don't do it if he loves you he wont keep asking you sex is not the greatest thing trust me and make sure you always use protection no matter what condoms is what you want other wise do not give a man the time or day
2006-12-17 09:04:46 · answer #7 · answered by mandysosexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he's to young to be a daddy. Because eventually that will happen. Yous are way too young to be playing with fire. Tell Him I said "NO". And don't let him tell you "If you Love me you will" this is a lie to get into your pants. Please don't be Stupid enough to believe him. He only wants one thing. Beacuse if he likes or "loves" you he would wait till you are ready. If you value yourself you will tell him "NO"
2006-12-17 09:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by loveyoumuch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he doesn't stop then you will have to stop seeing each other and tell an adult or older sibling. Maybe they will talk to him. You are too young to have sex and I am very proud of you for saying no.
2006-12-17 09:03:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get over your shyness and tell him that you are not ready to do it yet. and be proud of yourself. when you are ready you won't hesitate. but for now tell him sorry that your not ready and say flat out no. if you can say i don't know , you can say no.
2006-12-17 09:06:11 · answer #10 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋