I'm being open and up-front, so please if you have something smart-*** to say, please just don't respond at all.Real answers Only Please. Anyway,I've always had an issue with asking too many questions about my boyfriend's past,I do it now and I always have...Anyway, I'm not sure why I do it to myself or to them!,maybe I get scared,don't want to get screwed over again? want to know I'm the only one for them in their heart and whom they love more than anything in this world?....I only do it when I'm in love though... not when I haven't been...Once when I was 18, but he ended up to be a total Jerk!, he had a bad temper and attitude, he wasn't when we first met, but I saw small signs, no thanks to my dad...:-/ Anyway, I REALLY REALLY DO LOVE MY BF NOW, I'M 100% SURE HE'S THE ONE! I'VE TRIED JUST COLD DEAD STOPPING AND TELL MYSELF NOT TO ASK, AT LEAST AS OFTEN AS I DO!!!, EVERYTHING!!! WHY DO I KEEP DOING THIS, I KNOW I SHOULDN'T&IT'S NOT INSECURITY WITH MYSELF, SO HOW CAN I STOP PLEASE!!!?
2006-12-17 08:50:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to stop worrying about his past and look at your future together the past is the past and you can not move forward if you keep going backwards. You need to just follow your heart.
2006-12-17 08:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by trueangel121301 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone comes with a past. The best thing you can do is accept it. Things are better left alone and more energy should be focused on a future with your boyfriend. If you become obsessed with it, you could lose him. Try having more faith in yourself and who you are. He is with you for a reason...leave it at that. Being insecure can tear up a relationship quick!
2006-12-17 08:54:26 · answer #2 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 11:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just realize, that a lot of guys out there anticipate these questions, and have a ready answer for each and everyone of them, just as long as they get what they want that way, so stop asking all those questions and try to learn about guys be being around them and observing them.
2006-12-17 09:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell yourself that if you keep it up you might lose him. Don't think of him and the other girls he has been with after all he is with you right now and thats the way you want to keep it. Maybe counsling for yourself.
2006-12-17 08:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by Clara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's good to ask some questions like have you ever been married, do you have any std's or aids or babies. then you could ask why his past relationships ended. don't ask all about how many women has he been with. don't sweat the small stuff.
2006-12-17 08:58:47 · answer #6 · answered by intelligent80000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn off the computer and step away from it. If you, after all this time have not figured it out, your not taking advice, so why bother to ask.
2006-12-17 08:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
are you sure it's not your own insecurities after being hurt before????
2006-12-17 08:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋