We have been friends for a long time, he was dating this girl, she got pregnant and he "had" to marry her. He talks to me a lot, and he says he doesn't love her, than since they live together, he has not had a nice day with her. He says he is not happy at all, and I feel so sad for him because he is such a nice guy but he doesnt want to leave her beause of the baby... I can feel he likes me, everyone sees it but it is hard for me because I know he wants to be with his baby so I always tell him to be patient and stay there also, I know it would be wrong to have something with him because he is married.... oh well! I have a mess in my head.... what do you think???
2006-12-17 08:47:21 · 16 answers · asked by Utsy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have to say, that I know he is telling me the truth because his family know me and they use to tell me what is going on with him. Actually his mom stoped talking to his wife because she usually hits him. His dad left when he was a little boy so he wants to be there as a "normal" family or the family he dreamed I guess. We live in a part of the world that dads really make a guy marry a daughter if she gets pregnant. It it was only that he is married and with a baby I wont be so confused, it's that he is a good mad, and he is not happy with her, and I would tell you all I have seen she doing that would make you know she is not good for him. but would be too much. I guess all that is stopping both of us is the little cute boy. OHHH BY THE WAY, he didnt have a religious marriage.
2006-12-17 09:43:31 · update #1
I think u shouldn't go out with him because hes married... kids need parents!!!!but if u really want to go out with him.. u have to fight for the baby... u don' have too.. but i think u should be fighting for the baby just for going out for a boy... kids always needs parents.. your best friend is married and doesn't want to leave the baby so don't go out with him!!!! fing a new crush or bf... maybe you'll get him off your mind!!! u might as well not go out with him because hes married and u don't want the kids to not have a da.. just don't see him a lot of times.. if u do.. u might want to go out with him again.. if he calls u out... say your busy.... but if he goes to your hosue... just say that your bf is here.. lie to him.. make sure u don't see him that often!!
Good Luck0_o sexy♥
2006-12-17 08:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you noticed that people are not rushing to answer your question? It is because the answer is: No you should not go out with him. He is married. He is responsible for the care and emotional health of a child. There is no mess in your head. You know the truth. You state the truth in your question. Do not date him, as a matter of fact, take a one month vacation from contact with him. Friends do not cover friends with drama, stories and liying. If you feel desperate or he is a bit more handsome or clever than you can normally attract, then you might not listen to any advice. People tend to accept some abuse or lying when they think they can be in a relationship with someone who would normally never look at them in that way. If he made a mess with another girl, he must clean up the mess with her 100% before starting on with someone else. He is using you. Maybe he knows you are alone or desperate, or you like him but he is thinking of himself and not you. Do not listen to his words. You are asking for advice here, do not look to create a case against the other girl. He may try to paint a picture that it is all her fault. Believe me, he married her. She has got something he wants, even now, but he has a convenient excuse by saying it is only for the baby. Do not kid yourself. Tell another adult, take a one month no contact, say no and see how he reacts. If he knows who you are and respects you, he will accept your words and wishes. If he is using you because you are so lonely, then he will not agree to your words.
2006-12-17 09:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Utsy,
This is sin. One should never attempt to begin a relationship with someone who is married. This man has a family and has responsibilities. The Bible states, "What therefore God hath joined to gether, let not man put asunder." So are you going to rebel against God's commandment? That would make you an adulteress!
This married guy also needs to get his head on straight. He should not be even talking to you. I tell you that I would hate to be in your shoes or his shoes on Judgment Day. From everything the Bible states, that day is not too far off either. 2011 marks the 7000th anniversary of Noah's flood. God tells us in 2 Peter 3 that the next time God destroys the world, it will be by fire.
2006-12-17 09:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please stay away from him. Let him find other friends. If he's unhappy, that is partly his fault. RULE OF THUMB IN LIFE. Don't never do anything to a person, in this case, his wife, that you would not want done to yourself by someone else. You sound like a person that deserves a happy life. Take the higher ground. You'll eventually meet someone without all the baggage.
2006-12-17 12:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is married. No matter what your previous relationship was, he is married. He can feed you lip service all day about not being happy, but the bottom line is he did not "have" to get married. Furthermore, he did not have to have unprotected sex with this person "he doesn't like"..... Wise up! If he cheats on her with you, then he'll cheat on you with another friend!
2006-12-17 08:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by So lyrical 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's married. Nobody put a gun to his head and said get married. I have a child and we didn't get married. It was a choice we made. Stay clear of this guy he has his cake and wants to eat it too.
2006-12-17 08:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by loveyoumuch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that he is just telling you that and that if he was not happy he wouldnt be there no one can make you get married against your will.and also if you or he wanted to mess around why yall never did it before he just needs an excuse to cheat on his wife hes a dog.Leave him alone.If its meant to be he will get a divorce and yall will be together
2006-12-17 08:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he' married. move on. not worth the pain and agony. and despite the fact that he says he doesn't love her, the odds a married person will ever leave their spouse is slim. Find a more available person.
2006-12-17 09:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is married. I think you should respect the institution of marriage even if he doesn't.
Going out with him while he is in a romantic relationship of any kind is not a good idea.
Think of the kind of message going out with him while he is involved would send. I'm sure you don't want him to think "Hey! She went out with me while I was with so and so ,,, I can go out with the next person I'm attracted to while I'm with her. She won't mind.. she did it!"
Don't go out with him.
2006-12-17 08:58:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your definitely setting yourself up for heartbreak. I know he's your best Friend and you trust him but guys are greedy and they want to have their cake and eat it to. He's never really going to leave he's wife. i know it might sound mean and it also may seem that I'm just pickin' on him but believe me I've seen it happen.
2006-12-17 08:55:23 · answer #10 · answered by Perfection 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋