My ex boyfriend was verbally and emotionally abusive. He wants me back.What are the chances he can change?

Answer 1

Verbal and emotional abuse are a form of domestic violence. Does that term sound scary? Because it should. I bet this isn't the first time you've tried to get away, felt helpless and alone, then "Prince Charming" came around and tried to smooth everything over, and you went back. Am I right?

Domestic Violence is a cycle, and it doesn't have to include physical abuse to be harmful. The cycle iterates between a period of charming and affection, then goes to guilt-trips and persuasion, and unnecessary anger. Once you're feeling good and helpless, the charm comes back. He makes himself look good by treating you all sweet, all the while he's the one that made you feel like crap.

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Answer 2

Many of the problems you may be facing could be just the tip of the iceberg on what is really happening in your marriage. I dont mean to scare you but many problems when they either first show up or if they keep reoccurring could be just whats showing from a larger problem that either you or your spouse cannot even see. One of the only things you can do to help is to talk honestly and openly with each other in the marriage. If things become more serious more serious options need to be looked at as possibilities. I have a blog that has more information on some of what I've been writing about. If you feel like checking it out I would completly suggest it. Read here https://tr.im/AKiLB

Love is a choice that is made everyday when you wake up and every night when you go to sleep. Some days you may not feel the original feeling but love isnt a feeling or an emotion. Its an action a verb. Falling out of love may just mean you need to spice things up a little or that you were never in love in the first place. Don't just get out of a marriage just because you don't think you like the person anymore.

Answer 3

I'd say slim to none. And besides if you are going to hook up with a person because there are aspects about him you want to change? Then you shouldn't hook up with them at all. There should be more to like than things that need improvement. Find a kat with more pros than cons, and if there are things that you feel are flaws, then love him because of the imperfections. As far as verbal and emotional abuse if that's something you like go back to him, but I have a good suspicion that your life, even though may not be the best in your opinion,(because you are thinking about making a return trip to the house of pain)has been at least better since you left him. So consider that into your calculations before you make your decision.

Answer 4

This is an answer from an ex cop. you would be foolosh to take him or anyone else back that has been abusive. The person mostlikely will never change. they only change long enough to get you back then the abuse starts all over again. if this continues you have a real good chance of possibly not ever waking up and ending up 6' under the ground. TRUST ME on this one. I have seen way too much of this crap!!!!

Answer 5

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My ex boyfriend was verbally and emotionally abusive. He wants me back.What are the chances he can change?

Answer 6

FROM EXPERIENCE I was in a abusive relationship for three years first it was verbally abuse, he always apologized, then physical abuse started then he apologized and then sexual abuse started. I end up hurting him so bad left him with a scar in his face for all the abuse I took from him. In other words someone could make you happy in one hour but abuse will affect you for years is not a good thing. Your boyfriend needs to accept the fact that he has a problem and no there is no chance the longer you accept is begging for forgiveness you are giving him more room to control you and let you think is your fault.

Answer 7

Well yea there a one in a chance in fooling you then, first time it doesn't go his way he will be back. SO tell him to walk, skip and jump at the closest lake. Because once an abuser always one if even you can hide it for a while soon it will come out. SO don't fall for his sorry act. And tell him to keep on walking and find one who will treat you well and don't abuse you. Ever want to chat just IM e anytime.

Answer 8

NEVER. I was sexually, emotionally, and verbally abused. He killed my dog, and could have killed me. Hire a GOOD lawyer, take him to court and get a protective order!! Meanwhile, stay the hell away from him. Become assertive, and do not let that asshole continue to treat you like that. You should have heard all the "I'll change" attempts. He killed my six year old 3lb dog out of jealously. After that, I stuck to my dreams, and my skin is extremely thick. I kept my standards high... and Now, I'm with a total gentleman who's successful, opens every door for me, pulls out every chair for me, takes care of me when I'm sick, and always encourages and supports my dreams (not to mention tall and good looking lol). He's helped me heal tremendously from that horrible experience. Go find your dream man. YOU DESERVE A SWEET GENTLEMAN!!

Answer 9

I put the plan in motion and it didn't even take a week for things to turn around. She called me late last night and we talked for hours. She said she wants to be together with me again. I'm just thrilled right now. We're going out tonight and I feel strongly that we will get back together. Read more here:

Answer 10

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This is probably the most important part. With texting, you can stop and think about what you want to say to your ex at each step of the way. Instead of reacting emotionally, you can take your time, figure out the right thing to say (I’ll give you most of it), and be strategic with your ex without saying something that you’ll regret.