I've only been going out with her for a few weeks now and to be honest we don't really get on that well.
We only decided to go out with each other beacause our friends thought we'd make a good match, but over the past weeks we haven't seen each other once (thingys keep coming up; work, family, etc).
So I was wondering what would be the nicest way to dump her?
I don't really want to but I think it'll be for the best compared to what's going on now.
I look forward to your advice and I hope you can help me.
Oh and before I forget I'm a nice person so I don't want anything too harsh.
Thanks in adanvce.
2006-12-17 08:32:30 · 9 answers · asked by elementalguy2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you know how she feels about you? If you haven't been seeing each other like you mentioned, she may be feeling the same way. Just be honest with her. If it isn't working out just say it. You are breaking up with her and no matter what you say it won't make it better. The worst thing would be to do something via email like my last ex. No explanation offered, no call back, nothing. Totally childish way out.
And please whatever you do, do not say "lets be friends". You don't really mean it and it never works anyways. Been there done that a number of times. Why would a girl want to be friends with somebody who dumped them? Seriously.
2006-12-17 09:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so unfair. There's nothing wrong with being nice. Seems like she maybe wants a bad boy. You shouldn't change who you are for anybody. Maybe at first she wanted a nice boy and then after that she could of decided that that wasn't what she wanted after all. I hate to tell you this but maybe she found another guy. I think that dumping someone for being too nice is the dumbest thing I have ever heard. She should of excepted you for what you are....a nice person. Your girlfriend should have tooken the time to explain the real reason why she dumped you.
2016-05-23 02:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest telling her the truth, she may be thinking of the same thing. If you two have been that distent why tie each other up, tell her that. Maybe in the future if your schedules change then maybe you both can get together again. You will both have a lot to talk about then, seeing on how you both know each other now, you'll have a "jump start" on things.
2006-12-17 08:41:29 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you honestly do not get along all that well, then she may be feeling the same way. Always be upfront with a girl. Just tell her that you really think she is a nice girl, but your schedules and interests simply do not compliment each other. Wish her the best and thanks for the time you spent together.
2006-12-17 08:37:49 · answer #4 · answered by tko43078 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and tell her that you have no good feeling in continuing the thing between you...
Especially if you think she's already in love with you talk to her asap! And don't say anything like, we can stay friends...that's the worst thing a man could tell a women he dumped.
Good luck
2006-12-17 08:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you haven't been getting on,and you've only being seeing each other a few weeks? She may be relieved,you don't know.Either way,if you don't want to be with her you will have to tell her.Sometimes there isn't a painless way. Just tell her straight and don't mess her about.
2006-12-17 08:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by New Boots. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit worrying about what your friends think first. then take her out
(yes , in person) to a neutral place. be honest & open with her
explaining just what you said here. amazingly she'll probably be
relieved & feel the same way. remember dude -be cool.don't let her get under your skin, jude.
2006-12-17 08:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by geezer 51 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be gentle and be honest...i was dumped by a guy who lied to me and then i found out the truth.
it is hard at first, but in the end it's better than lying about why. trust me
2006-12-17 08:36:02 · answer #8 · answered by madison_livingston 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two words: I'm gay.
2006-12-17 08:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by Ross L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋