I have a lot of problems, ones that seem to not help my relationship, For one, Being a guy I should not cry as much as I do, two I shouldn't be as clingy as I am, When my girlfriend and I get into a fight and she yells I either yell back, sulk, or end up kicking something. I feel like I am just stuck in a rut when it comes to these things, I do a lot of stupid things like burn food or act too sensetive, I would really like to change for the better anyone have any ideas?
2006-12-17 08:17:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I'd say avoid kicking things or burning food but it sounds to me like it is a way you express your anger. Being sensitive is NOT a bad thing, no matter who tells you guys shouldn't cry. Being a guy has nothing to do with it, your human and all humans have feelings. Some people express them with crying and others just keep their feelings bottled up inside. But let me tell you, crying is healthy. Statistics show that more men have depression because they are not open about their feelings. I think the only thing you should change is to stop kicking and burning just because you can get seriously hurt, or you can hurt someone else in the process. Learn to control your tempoer but it will take time. Don't expect to change over the period of one day. Be patient with yourself. Good luck.
2006-12-18 04:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a good therapist (psychologist), spend all of your money on him, it will help for sure! I have big problems with being insecure and I emotionally challengeed all of my boyfriends so far but none of them wanted to leave, God only knows why, LOL! Anywho, I will start going to a therapist in january 2007, I am just so ready to get rid of my problem. Your problem is also deep and a therapist can help you sort out where is the root and how to get over whatever made you this way. Good luck!
2006-12-17 08:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by stargazer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you need to experience many things to better yourself. you're sensitive, there's nothing wrong with that. if you want to become better, i suggest let it come naturally. you see, once you become more angry, you are no longer are sensitive as you used to be. you can learn to talk it out with your girlfriend, just saying, "I love you, but I hate it when we get into arguments." You are in control of your emotions. Girls like sensitive, but tough guys. Just be brave and fight back. If all else fails, talk to someone you are close too about the situation and you should get answers. The ones that seem strongest are actually some of the weakest.
2006-12-17 08:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by Leilani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you are on the right track, your asking for help. Some self control is a good start. If your in a rut, change your path so you will not get stuck again.
2006-12-17 08:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, you really need to find out who you are before you enter into a real relationship with a girl. You have so much time. Don't waste it just being dramatic with your GF. Educate yourself. Read, study things. learn about life and learn about what makes you tick first. You are pretty young, but you will find, with a little time, that you will start to mature as you learn things. You will see what life is like, see where life can take you. Better yourself and you will mature. Advance yourself mentally, and the rest will follow. Just take the time to let yourself learn what you need to learn.
2006-12-17 08:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by the witch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...
From my perspective...
You don't really have a problem. You are who you are. Sure, you can make "small" changes, but people don't really change who they are in life, mostly because they can't.
The problem, I think, is perhaps that this girl isn't the right one for you......Or perhaps she is, and this is just how things will be.
Namaste,
--Tom
2006-12-17 08:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
self control. its ok to cry when youre hurt. its ok to get mad and kick when your mad. we all do. but if you feel you have a problem, then you need self control. the next time you get the urge to kick something, dont. and do that everytime and before you know it, you'll have it under control. good luck
2006-12-17 08:22:33 · answer #7 · answered by DEVIL IN A BLUE DRESS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU DID NOT SAY HOW YOUNG YOU ARE !..HOWEVER, YOU DO SOUND LIKE YOU HAVE A MATURITY PROBLEM..TO GET THE ''MAN'' OUT OF YOU AND INTO THE NOW''...JOIN THE ARMY, GET SOME GROWING UP INTO YOU,..OR YOU WILL BE TAKING THIS CRAP FROM ANY RELATIONSHIP YOU GO INTO..BE A MAN !
2006-12-17 08:22:49 · answer #8 · answered by 65MPH-HA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your parents to consider getting you some counseling that teaches you better coping skills
2006-12-17 08:21:01 · answer #9 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do some more growing up my friend.
2006-12-17 08:48:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋