Wen mi best frind (kinda boi friend) tries to hold mi hand i pull it away frum him cuz i git nervous cuz i kno if i do sumthing as simple as holding his hand it will turn into sumthin else lyke sex cuz me and him are really really close but im only 13 and i dont really want sex rite now is that normal
2006-12-17 08:16:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't worry, it's perfectly normal :) and I'm proud of you for not wanting sex at your age! Have a talk with him and set some boundaries. Like holding hands (yes), pecking kisses (yes), more than that (NO)...
Good luck honey
2006-12-17 08:28:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the ONLY one that says when and where and what you'll do. If you honestly believe that holding his hand will lead you to do something rash then don't do it. But if you are confident that you can make some decisions that are responsible like saying no if you feel uncomfortable about something then hold his hand it won't kill you. And just a side not, if your "kinda boyfriend" really digs you for you, then he won't pressure you to do anything you don't want to, but the moment he does, that feeling you get is called a red flag-and that's when you should abort that relationship.
2006-12-17 16:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by donbenecio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to hold hands, if you want to of course. Don't let your fear of things getting too far stop you from doing what you want, because I doubt you holding hands is going to lead to sex right away. If it bothers you I would talk to him, and tell him what you said, because if you don't say anything he could get the idea that you aren't interested in anything more than friendship.
2006-12-17 16:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by I live to eat chocolate! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People may say its ok to hold hand and to have some lil kiss. However, its not the problem, the problem is, right now she can think like that, but when for example, they are both alone and really sexually up, can they stop themselves and think?~~~??????
Be careful~~!! You are too young for anything of the sort. I know you dont like to hear something like, "You are too yuong, too small" or similar, but it really like that. If he is going for it, he doesnt worth anything.
You have much more to do and to explore beside this dangerous path
Take care
2006-12-17 16:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by locky m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tht is normal and very mature! It is so refreshing to see a young person feel that way. Hold true to that, don't give in to pressure. Your parents must be very proud.
2006-12-17 21:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by Cannuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very normal not to engage in a sex relationship at the tender age of 13, your fine, just keep on being yourself.
2006-12-17 16:59:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
holding hands is fine and i dont think it will lead to sex. if youre not ready, let him know and if he really likes you, he'll stick around
2006-12-17 16:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by girlwiththegoodies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is totally normal! let him hold your hand, that will not turn into having sex. and let him no how you feel incase he tries something.
2006-12-17 16:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by lora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very normal. if youre not ready then he should respect that.
if you want to hold his hand thats fine, just tell him thats all you want to do.
2006-12-17 16:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by DEVIL IN A BLUE DRESS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats great you are thinking so clearly at such a young age........very proud of you sweety
anyways i am sure he respects that........but if not just have a talk with him and tell him that
2006-12-17 16:22:46 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Nikki*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋