My serious girlfreind and I had this period over the summer where we had feeling for each other but never confonted them with each other. During this period she entered a long distance relationship over the phone with a guy and then while he was visting they made out. Later when we finaly confessed our fellings and started dating when asked about the guy she lied and said nothing happend between them and that they were just freinds. This week she said she kissed a gay guy and then told me about the relationship she had over the summer with this guy. Is this in your opion cheating and what advice could you offer to help me cope and possibly move on.
2006-12-17 08:13:27 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my opinion, this isn't cheating but it is most certainly dishonest and sometimes lies can be just as damaging to a relationship. Why did she not tell you to begin with? Maybe she was afraid that she would scare you off or maybe she is just now comfortable enough in your relationship to tell you about that. Sometimes, women can't bring themselves to give out such very personal information if they don't think the man in thier life is serious. It's an issue of trust.
2006-12-17 08:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by alfeebester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're wondering, it probably is. Anytime you feel an emotional connection with someone else, any kind of contact that feels intimate - could be just talking or texting, but feels close, brings you closer to that person - is cheating. If you're not emotionally involved, then these same things are just friendly. Also I'm assuming by kissing you mean a kiss on the cheek, because on the mouth or deep kissing is definitely across the line.
2016-05-23 02:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't. I never have understood how people consider things that happened before a relationship began as cheating. If she was not aware of your feelings and even more so you were not dating at that time then it was not cheating. You may not like know that it happened but that doesn't make it cheating. Be glad she is open with you about things that happened and didn't try and hide it from you. There is a lot to be said for honesty in a relationship.
2006-12-17 08:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't cheating but she lied to you so take that to heart a bit....
That being said it doesn't have to be a deal breaker, love her or leave her, honestly it doesnt sound like the best or most mature relationship but that is just me.
I would go with the method time tested and proven to be affective by women....line up another GF then dump yours
2006-12-17 08:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by Pinky_fatty_fat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not cheating. Now that you are in a serious relationship with each other, the past does not matter. Quit asking and confessing to each other about the past. Leave it alone and enjoy what you have now.
2006-12-17 08:20:36 · answer #5 · answered by Luella T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hopefully you're not worried about the gay guy right? sorry I'm not trying to be a comic. Anywayz if you weren't together then its not cheating. But on how to deal with it just tell your girl that in order to have a mature relationship you have to be able to trust each other and tell each other the truth. Just think maybe she had given up hope that yall would hook up u know? Anywayz good luck..... don't give up on her.
2006-12-17 08:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by a.rose19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this isn't cheating as it a trust issue. Relationshps are build on trust- she needs to be more blunt and truthful if she expects this to work out. She didnt' do anything wrong by seeing somone when you guys weren't together. She has nothing to hide...so why is she acting like she is? That would make me suspicious. Unless she thinks you would talk it badly?
2006-12-17 08:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two weren't together, so no it's not cheating. She didn't tell you before because she didn't want to hurt you and lose you. To me, it proves she really cares about you. It could have been you with another girl, so don't be too harsh on her. Just promise each other exclusivity and faithfulness and everything will be alright.
2006-12-17 08:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by Bikini bandit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't label it as cheating but it sounds like this girl cannot be trusted. Bottom line she lied once she will do it again. Move on or you will always be wondering what else she has lied about.
2006-12-17 08:25:30 · answer #9 · answered by monz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think thats cheating since you two hadnt really confessed your feelings for eachother yet. Either way dont worry about it, its in the past. Move on and have fun with her in the present.
2006-12-17 08:15:54 · answer #10 · answered by idbangrobertplant 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋