I have no problem in a normal club or bar asking out women. I never usually do the strip club scene b/c I don't like paying for what I can usually get for free. I was getting bored a while back of the reg bar scene and finally started checking out this strip club. There's a girl there I REALLY like and think likes me. She approached me just to talk instead of offering to dance, we had both had a rough day, etc. I didn't get her number or anything though b/c she prob gets that all the time. I want to go back to get her number but...I'm concerned. I dont' want to look like just another client. I mean, I'm in shape, I don't look like some of their avg 300 lbs can't get laid to save their lives customers. Once again, I normally can go anywhere else but...I don't know...it's like this is more of a challenge and so more of a turn on....but what should I do?
2006-12-17 08:03:31 · 16 answers · asked by hbkjab 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Experienced strippers do not ask customers if they want a dance, they start with a conversation because it's more personal. You're not the only one she discussed her "rough day" with. She won’t even remember you.
" I don't like paying for what I can usually get for free." "Once again, I normally can go anywhere else but..."
^ Your cocky attitude is a big turn off, to any woman.
2006-12-17 11:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi there,
This is an interesting post for a change and would like to answer your question.
I agree, that strippers are people too and I admire them for their courage to do what they do, but it is a living that comes with a price. Sure, you are obviously going to intrigued and fascinated by this girl and because she appears exotic, daring and enticing. The reality is however for a lot of these women in this line of career is that they do it because often they are doing it for other reasons other than just money and often because they are wanting others to like them and approve of them when they don't themselves.
These women are often chased around by tough types of men who are like body-guard agents, but are besotted fans and the secret behind their personal safety is that these men become their agents amongst the ones who already employ them and ward off male attention they receive. I would approach this woman with care and also because you are only seeing things from a certain perspective and not how things really are. There is also a huge drigs scene going on behind the strip dancing sessions.
A challenge is great, but you don't have to find it in a strip club. I'm only giving you an insight into a reality that you are only seeing half of the picture and this woman is likely being watched very closely by her own agents who are like hound dogs and will pounce on any man that will cross the client boundary and because you attend the strip club as a guest/client, this is your role. Going beyond that with this girl is going to be quite dangerous and not just a mere challenge.
She didn't give you her number for a reason and because she knows that by doing so, she will be inviting you into a world that you really don't want to be a part of even though it looks glamerous, it really isn't. You may really fancy and like her now, but in the long run, this might not always be to your taste and a lot of men don't want to have a long term relationship with women who have had sex with many men - it puts many off after an initial attraction has finished and become insecure about their woman's past.
Right now, I think that it is okay to admire her and appreciate her life choice, but my advice would be to approach with caution on this one and not to get to know her more than you would like to because I doubt very much that she would want anything more from this than she can offer you. Step right back and see this for what it is.
She is used to men liking her for sex and when she looks back at you and smiles, it is because she is thinking that this is what you want from her like all men want from her. It isn't personal even though it feels like it is. You are luring yourself into something I would be very careful of and she doesn't sound like someone who could offer you any commitment anyway even if you were to want anything more with her.
Respect this woman more and by leaving her to her buisness.
2006-12-17 09:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by Shikira-trudi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not one to make irrational generalizations but women who strip for money seem to be capable of doing malicious things for money as well. She may seem nice and all that jazz, but I wouldn't advise it. And plus if you can get laid in all manner of environments by all sorts of other type of women, why bother with this one? What makes you think this stranger you don't know from Eve is worth it anyway? I'm sure she's got dreams man, but some dreams are nightmares and it would suck the brown eyed starfish royally if she was a nightmare and you were caught in the gravitational pull, you dig me? You're going to do what you're going to do, but hey just consider this answer into your calculations.
2006-12-17 08:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by donbenecio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be ok to ask her out. However, I think you should get to know her first, just a little more. Dont visit the bar regularly or you'll seem too available, just every now and then about twice more, and make sure you look/sound interested.
2006-12-18 02:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by jordpr_93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOO, one of my friends went out with a stripper and she couldn't be helped and in fact got him into some stuff that really ****** him up until he dumped her and changed his life for the better again. Plus you could never trust her in a relationship if that's what she does for a job.
2006-12-17 08:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by sassiwolf 7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her. Strippers are people too.
its not like shes any different from the women you meet at the bar. So dont treat her like she is.
2006-12-17 08:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by idbangrobertplant 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gf is a stripper and the gf before her was one also. i must warn you though. Most strippers are psycho and do drugs. But the sex is phenominal because they have been around alot of strange things. Be prepared.
2006-12-17 08:11:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt recommend going out and asking a stripper out... because all them people that have seen her naked and touching her... that grosses me out... she is basically putting herself out there to be a hoe by stripping.
2006-12-17 08:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by lil_miss_lynn33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by all means do, if you think she will go and not feel pressured by you. i dated a stripper once and had a blast, its only a job to her. i have talked to many strippers and they are the most open ladies you will ever meet. and who knows, you could learn to really like her.....i say go for it
2006-12-17 08:11:53 · answer #9 · answered by phishsports 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to then do it.but dont go and try to make her a house wife
2006-12-17 08:08:36 · answer #10 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋