what is wrong with my daughter she is three?

Question

the beginging my daughter always was crying and didn't start saying words until 2 and just started simple sentences and still alot of the words i don't understand....she also seems to space out and talk to people who aren't there and when you try to hold her hand she says ouch....i have had her hearing checked and she will be going to a nerologist this week her ped finally recommened seeing a specialist but didn't say what she thinks is wrong...oh and she also doen't listen at all and she is my second child out of three....i just don't know what the doctor is going to say and would just like some other parents opionions.

Answer 1

I don't want to alarm you, but some of that sounds like my son, who is autistic. He was much worse than what you describe, but the spacing out stuff, delayed language etc, is familiar.

I don't know though. Don't panic just yet. She could just be developing a different way to the norm. Hopefully the specialist will be able to help. Just watch her closely and note down all the things you notice (however small) about her behaviour so that you can present all of this to the specialist. It will help him/her to get a fuller picture of her behaviour. Also, it's easy to forget half of it, when you are sitting in the office talking to them. Make a list of everything you have noticed that appears unusual.

A few things to watch out for -
Does she have obsessions with particular toys, or objects?
Does she lead you by the hand to what she wants you to see?
Does she mimic things from the TV, or talk 'nonsense'?
Does she bang her head on anything?
Does she hate changes to her routine?
Does she avoid eye contact?

I hope everything works out ok for you.

Answer 2

To me it sounds as if she is displaying some kind of autistic behaviour. Possibly a high functioning type of autism called Asperger's Syndrome. Children that are somewhere on the austistic spectrum can display varying degrees of the things you mentioned. It is a very wide spectrum and can go from very mild to severe. It would seem if she has this at all she would be mildly affected.

Many people on the spectrum are extremely sensitive to touch and that could be why she says, ow! when you hold her hand. Children on the spectrum also often exhibit speech delays and would often appear to be spacing out. I will post you a link for further reading.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

hi,
well i kind of agree with "mosdesrt". If you go to a doctor they probably will say something bad, and then you will get all worried and unhappy, always thinkin that there is something "wrong" with your child. One thing is that not all your kids are going to be alike, each has a different personality. Plus another thing is if you keep thinking "there is something WRONG" there will be something wrong, becuase you keep thinking about it therefore attracting it to happen. #1 think positively and stop worrying. And about the thing where you say that she "seems to space out and talk to people who arent' there" maybe she is talking to somone but you can't see them, and she may have the ability to see them. There are books about these kinds of things, special abilities to see maybe beings at higher energy levels that usual people can't see? Try reading books from David Icke, Adam the Dreamhealer, and anywhere online. Usually people thing it is some kind of a problem when people talk or see somthing other's don't. It's not a sickness, it's an ability. But you have to read more yourself in order to find out. That's the best way to gein knowledge about anything. Asking people is ok but reading books is better. Good luck and don't try to suppress her ability to see people that maybe you can't ask her about them, what they look like, where they come from, why did they come, etc. For interest. Maybe you will find out somthing new and interesting that you thought maybe never existed.
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Answer 5

I agree with the others, that certainly sound like she may have an autistic spectrum disorder. These vary greatly in functioning levels and some are definitely more life changing than others. Many parents of autistic children have found that a gluten and casein (dairy) free diet helps alleviate symptoms.

Answer 6

It's hard to wait on doctors to tell you what you want to hear.
My son didn't speak or potty train until his third birthday. Everyone wanted me to take him to specialist. I did take him to an audiologist (he was fine).
My mother in law was the only one to tell me to leave him alone and he'll be fine. She was right! He's graduating from high school this year and we haven't been able to shut him up since!
I'm not making light of this because its a real worry. You may find out that she is mildly autistic but keep good thoughts until then (if ever) you know that.
As for talking to people that aren't there, she may have a wonderful and vivid imagination ( I did). She may grow to be a novelist; that's how most started out!
Some people have their own personalities that don't always mesh with others.

Answer 7

You said you had her hearing checked. Was it the typical test they give?? He hearing might be delayed in one ear. Took a relative of mine more hearing testing to find out that his daughter had a five second delay in hearing in her left year. This cause her to speak later, not talk as much and her speech to be misunderstood.
You said her hearing was checked how about her eyes??
The Ouch can mean she is feeling tied and trapped because she want to be on the lose exploring.
It might also be a case of Autism however I don't believe so Autism the child normally goes into their own shell.

Answer 8

I agree with Holly. Wait until the specialist has a chance to see her and give a diagnosis or recommendations or referrals. Then, whether its autism or something else, people here might be of use in helping you cope with it.
Good luck, keep us posted.

Answer 9

I know its hard waiting but i would wait until the doctor tells you, and worrying about it, is not helping the matters either. in the mean time love your children and be patient with your daughter my prayers are with you.

Answer 10

Don't listen to anyone's opinion yet because none of us know her or have seen her. I know it's hard to wait but please let the specialist test her and tell you what they think. If you don't trust the answer, get a second professional opinion but don't ask your neighbors or any on-line folks. We'll just make you more afraid and worried.