2006-12-17 07:55:50 · 11 answers · asked by David F 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Just no matter what happens keep in mind how much you love her. I'm bipolar and my fiance and I have been together since before I was diagnosed, way back when I was just nutters with no reason to explain it. Apparently if you're together long enough you'll start to know when it's all about to go south. Also keep in mind that she might not mean everything she says all the time. I know I'm said some pretty hateful things to my fiancee over the years when I wasn't feeling entirely myself. I'd also suggest you tell her you love her whenever she gets upset...I know personally it helps me to hear someone honestly say they love me even when I'm at my worst. Good luck to both of you!
2006-12-17 12:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I used to go out with a guy who was bipolar. This is my advice: If she stays on her meds, handles her emotions well, and holds down a job or pursues an education, then there should be no problem. She can lead a normal life. But staying on her meds is the key. If she refuses to take her meds, you will have major ordeals. If she can't function properly, then you can't either. That's not fair for you. If you love her, I understand. But you must set an ultimatum with her and follow through. If she doesn't stay on her meds and ends up in the hospital, leave her. Sounds harsh, but that's what I did. And if I hadn't, I would still be stuck babysitting my ex.
2006-12-17 08:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by queensassey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through exactly the same thing right now; at the moment, my girlfriend has completely lost it and is refusing to see or speak to anyone (including myself), and is currently ensconsed in her bedroom 10 miles away (she is 29 but still lives with her parents). What is worse, she hasn't yet been diagnosed, and our GP refuses to refer her to a specialist (he prescribed her anti-depressants, which has made things even worse, which is why she's currently locked up and away from everyone). But I have studied in Clinical Psychology and recognise all of the symptoms of bipolar in her, but alas I cannot give her the formal diagnosis she requires as I'm not fully qualified to do so, and at the moment all I can do is watch her world turning upside down, and the knock-on effect it's having on myself and our child. I am sorry to paint such a bleak picture, but it really isn't going to be easy for you.
2006-12-17 08:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Educate yourself. Th ebest book I found was The Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide. It helped me come to terms with my own bipolar, and it helped my wife.
2006-12-18 01:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by Random Bloke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her enough, then you will find ways to deal with it. I have bipolar, and it is very hard for my boyfriend to deal with it. Know that there will be long periods of time that she will need to sleep. You can help her by making sure that she takes her medication. My boyfriend helps me just by being there for me... when I have my breakdowns, he always lets me cry on him and calms me down. I told him from the very beginning, "If you can't handle this...then just leave right now rather than later." The question is: can you handle this? If you can, then be there for her as much as you can. Wrap your arms around her when she's having her meltdowns, and talk her through it. She will appreciate you more than you can ever imagine...
2006-12-17 08:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Leave now or get ready for the worst rollercoaster ride of your life. When not medicated,bipolars are very unstable mentally,emotionally,physically etc. they tend to stop their meds when they are feeling better which then becomes a vicious cycle of never ending drama.
2016-05-23 02:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Educate yourself. Learn everything you can about
Bipolar Disorder. Learn how to deal with the outbreaks.
Then you will be better able to help her through the
outbursts. You will know what to say and what not to say.
This should bring the both of you closer. That is, if you care about her enough to learn.
2006-12-17 08:05:54 · answer #7 · answered by Precious Gem 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your in for a whild ride if she doesnt take her treatment seriously.You have to be open and understanding and very emotionaly strong for her.Make sure she takes her meds and be intrsted in her situation. Develope a very thick skin.Its not easy because of the unpredictable nature of this disorder.Good Luck and Hold on
2006-12-17 08:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by blues lady 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honey, that's a tough one - i am bipolar as well - it is almost just as hard on us - we hate to have this disorder.
i wish you lots of luck and patience.
i finally found the right medication and i hope your girl does too.
2006-12-17 08:09:00 · answer #9 · answered by tirebiter 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
very carefully. my ol'man says shoot your self NOW.
2006-12-17 08:11:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋